Why do women want men so badly?

[Anonymous]

You know what's nice about being a woman in this time? Having options. I refused to marry for a very long time, but I've met the man I want to be with for the rest of my life. I knew that 2 weeks into the relationship. My independence isn't disappearing because I found someone. We support each other emotionally because we have the option and that's what we want to do. He's my best friend and we have sex together. I rely on him for those things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Reading the quality men thread and kind of shocked. Why are educated women with means to become economically self sufficient so eager to find a husband/mate? In today's world, an educated woman with a good earning potential doesn't NEED a man to survive or be happy.

Is it the older women on dcum that are still trying to drill old fashioned ideas of dependency on men into younger women's heads?

I find it so backwards and regressive. Let's not stop our young women from living happy independent lives where they can build a nice for themselves with or without a man!

NP. Men are delicious and interesting, good company and great fun. They are fascinatingly different. Why wouldn't you want one?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not all of us are desperate to marry...I chose to adopt in my mid-40's as a single woman because I was not willing to settle for just any guy in order to have a baby----which was a higher preference for me....

There is a big difference between not settling for just any guy and being emotionally incapable of finding an acceptable one who is willing to settle for you.

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Anonymous wrote:Oprah is a great example of a woman that can have it all. Without marriage. And was challenged in her position about that for YEARS.

Ha? What kind of woman wants to be a fat and lonely?

Lonely? You wish. She's hobnobbing with the rich and famous while you are tweezing your husband's ear hairs.

More likely OpRah spends more time compulsively eating in private than hobnobbing with the celebrity elite. Maintaining that body mass requires her to shovel food in her face almost constantly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You know what's nice about being a woman in this time? Having options. I refused to marry for a very long time, but I've met the man I want to be with for the rest of my life. I knew that 2 weeks into the relationship. My independence isn't disappearing because I found someone. We support each other emotionally because we have the option and that's what we want to do. He's my best friend and we have sex together. I rely on him for those things.

You knew after only 2 weeks? Nah you were out of options and desperate so you idealized the next available reasonably acceptable candidate.

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Anonymous wrote:Oprah is a great example of a woman that can have it all. Without marriage. And was challenged in her position about that for YEARS.

Ha? What kind of woman wants to be a fat and lonely?

Lonely? You wish. She's hobnobbing with the rich and famous while you are tweezing your husband's ear hairs.

More likely OpRah spends more time compulsively eating in private than hobnobbing with the celebrity elite. Maintaining that body mass requires her to shovel food in her face almost constantly.

How great is Oprah when she clogs the toilet?

Ask her longtime bae, Stedman Graham.


Funny how you keep bashing her looks, but ignoring the multi-billion dollar empire she has built while you sit here on DCUM talking trash. I'm guessing she cares nothing about what you think of her life and choices.

[Anonymous]

Today, women choose to get married if they want to. They don't feel the need to find a husband to support them. Women have options and can find what works for them whether that is a traditional marriage, adopting kids as a single woman, cohabitating without marriage -- whatever they want.

The powerful difference is that women today can make choices about what they want. That wasn't always the case.

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Anonymous wrote:Oprah is a great example of a woman that can have it all. Without marriage. And was challenged in her position about that for YEARS.

Ha? What kind of woman wants to be a fat and lonely?

Lonely? You wish. She's hobnobbing with the rich and famous while you are tweezing your husband's ear hairs.

More likely OpRah spends more time compulsively eating in private than hobnobbing with the celebrity elite. Maintaining that body mass requires her to shovel food in her face almost constantly.

Yep, and that "body mass" made her 40 million dollars when she signed up with weigh talkers. Talk about a WIN!!!!

[Anonymous]

To have a partner to build a life and raise a family with. Love, companionship, working together on common goals. Because together we are better parents and more financially stable than we would be separately. 2 tween/ teens and 17 years of marriage. I've never seriously doubted it was a great decision for me. ymmv.

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Anonymous wrote:Oprah is a great example of a woman that can have it all. Without marriage. And was challenged in her position about that for YEARS.

Ha? What kind of woman wants to be a fat and lonely?

Lonely? You wish. She's hobnobbing with the rich and famous while you are tweezing your husband's ear hairs.

More likely OpRah spends more time compulsively eating in private than hobnobbing with the celebrity elite. Maintaining that body mass requires her to shovel food in her face almost constantly.

Yep, and that "body mass" made her 40 million dollars when she signed up with weigh talkers. Talk about a WIN!!!!

*weight watchers

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Anonymous wrote:Oprah is a great example of a woman that can have it all. Without marriage. And was challenged in her position about that for YEARS.

Ha? What kind of woman wants to be a fat and lonely?

Yes, she looks so lonely here with her longtime SO of 20+ years, how sad for her.

Oprah did not try to "have it all." She thought long and hard about marriage and children. She decided that it was not for her. She wanted to be able to realize her dreams, however high they became. Her life is rich in many ways and she does not lack for deep friendships, love, and opportunities to nurture young people. One thing I have learned from biographies of remarkable women is that many chose to limit or forego motherhood and marriage in order to reach the heights they did.

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Anonymous wrote:You can't survive without men, it's why you insist on marrying us.

If guys had their druthers and didn't give a shit about societal expectation, men wouldn't get married. WE'RE not dragging you to the altar.

On what planet is that happening?

Not all women want to get married, but there are many who desperately want to get married (see the other thread by a woman complaining that her boyfriend of three years has not proposed). I cannot think of one man that I know who was pressuring the woman to marry him.

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Anonymous wrote:You can't survive without men, it's why you insist on marrying us.

If guys had their druthers and didn't give a shit about societal expectation, men wouldn't get married. WE'RE not dragging you to the altar.

On what planet is that happening?

Not all women want to get married, but there are many who desperately want to get married (see the other thread by a woman complaining that her boyfriend of three years has not proposed). I cannot think of one man that I know who was pressuring the woman to marry him.

Really? Hmmm. I know several.

But I'm a millennial, maybe that makes a difference?

[Anonymous]

I know men pressuring women to marry them too-- and I'm not a millennial, just a middle aged woman. I also know several cases of women who had children because their spouses really wanted children, not because they did. It cits both ways.

[Anonymous]

I have had several boyfriends pressure me marry them.

I do want to be married, but decided not to marry them because they weren't the right fit.

-Single 39 yr old woman (sigh)