What is a "Mom" job and how can I get one?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have a mom job, if we can call it that (125k). My hours are 7:00 to 3:00, Spring break and Winter break off, all snow days off (I work for a school district so they are extremely considerate if kids are sick etc)). I would love the flexibility to work from home at least twice a week, but I am not complaining.

That's really good! 125K is really high. I can't imagine you being a teacher and leave by 3 or an administrator and leave by 3.
Are you a "specialist"?

I'm not the PP, but I'm a public school administrator, make $110k, and work 8-4 most days (probably 80% of the time). I get 4 weeks of paid time off, plus holidays and my district gives spring and winter break off to administrators without using leave. There is no work on weekends and sometimes I don't even look at email from Friday afternoon until Monday morning. It's pretty great.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why are we calling these "mom" jobs? Because dads don't care enough about spending time with kids to demand a flex-time job?

Dads have to work a lot to support these moms who work mom jobs.

I'm one of the PPs who works a 32-hour week in my professional job. My husband also has a family-friendly (though full-time) job, and we make almost equivalent salaries. In other words, he makes about 20 percent more but we'd make pretty close to equal salaries if my job was full time. And we both make less than we might in less family-friendly jobs. So no, he doesn't work a lot to support my "mom job." We both support each other so we can both be there for our kids, and have as fulfilling a career as we can manage within that parameter. And we made some financial tradeoffs (smaller house, fewer vacations) to make that happen.

I'm in the exact same shoes

[Anonymous]

Despite what people think plenty of men value flexible jobs. Not every guy wants to work crazy hours. My husband has a flexible job and can take leave anytime he wants so long as his work is done. Before this he worked a job that required him to work from 7am to 6pm and he was always exhausted. I also have a flexible telecommute job.

Personally I don't get any joy out of taking on all of the childcare duties. I like that my husband can come home help with dinner, homework, cleaning, etc. I don't think I could tolerate a marriage for long with a husband that has to work long hours or do extensive travel.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have a mom job, if we can call it that (125k). My hours are 7:00 to 3:00, Spring break and Winter break off, all snow days off (I work for a school district so they are extremely considerate if kids are sick etc)). I would love the flexibility to work from home at least twice a week, but I am not complaining.

That's really good! 125K is really high. I can't imagine you being a teacher and leave by 3 or an administrator and leave by 3.
Are you a "specialist"?

I'm not the PP, but I'm a public school administrator, make $110k, and work 8-4 most days (probably 80% of the time). I get 4 weeks of paid time off, plus holidays and my district gives spring and winter break off to administrators without using leave. There is no work on weekends and sometimes I don't even look at email from Friday afternoon until Monday morning. It's pretty great.

I am the PP with 125k. Central Office Administrator (Tons of experience), boss is a real gem, agreed to 7-3 (our core hours are 10-3).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why are we calling these "mom" jobs? Because dads don't care enough about spending time with kids to demand a flex-time job?

Dads have to work a lot to support these moms who work mom jobs.

Not all dads. And most of them are happy that their wives are able to do what makes them happy. Sorry your husband isn't.

I'm a dad with a "mom job." My wife is in finance and I am in-house. I work regular hours, do drop offs, handle sick days/snow days, etc. I make 180K and work 8-5 sharp. No travel. DW makes several times that and travels. I was a biglaw partner and made the switch because even though we had tons of money, we were very quickly headed to a divorce because someone had to take a step back. I did and am happy. DW is happy working. And we still have plenty.

Good for you and awesome for your family! It takes a secure man to scale down and let his wife make more money.

It's been great! The small kid years were hard, but I really enjoy what I do and we are fine financially. We had issues when we were both working like crazy, but cutting back just sort of took the steam out of 90 percent of our problems. I tell people all the time I have parent tracked myself and I'm fine with it. I can always move up in the in-house world or go back into private practice or go into the government or throw my hat into the ring to get on the bench when my kids are older. I'm even leaving early today to prep dinner (we live ten minutes from my job and the kids' daycare). I tell people all the time, I am so lucky.

My best friend thinks I'm nuts for handing in my partnership. But we're not married, so his opinion doesn't matter

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Outside of sales and call center jobs, what are y'all doing that you work from home full time?

Oh wait, this is DC, "government contractors".

NP here and I'll bite. I manage grants all over the country. I have one grant in DC and the rest are spread throughout the US, including Hawaii and Alaska. I'm the only one who works on these grants so there's no one in my office to meet with. Why can't I work from home?? I don't WAH full-time, but rather 80%.

another NP. I'm also at home full time, with some travel. I'm a senior-level lawyer working in-house at a company that recruited me specifically for my expertise, to manage a group within the legal department. It's not exactly a 'mom' job, but it is very flexible. I paid my dues in law firm jobs and another in-house role earlier in my career.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why are we calling these "mom" jobs? Because dads don't care enough about spending time with kids to demand a flex-time job?

Dads have to work a lot to support these moms who work mom jobs.

Not all dads. And most of them are happy that their wives are able to do what makes them happy. Sorry your husband isn't.

I'm a dad with a "mom job." My wife is in finance and I am in-house. I work regular hours, do drop offs, handle sick days/snow days, etc. I make 180K and work 8-5 sharp. No travel. DW makes several times that and travels. I was a biglaw partner and made the switch because even though we had tons of money, we were very quickly headed to a divorce because someone had to take a step back. I did and am happy. DW is happy working. And we still have plenty.

Good for you and awesome for your family! It takes a secure man to scale down and let his wife make more money.

It's been great! The small kid years were hard, but I really enjoy what I do and we are fine financially. We had issues when we were both working like crazy, but cutting back just sort of took the steam out of 90 percent of our problems. I tell people all the time I have parent tracked myself and I'm fine with it. I can always move up in the in-house world or go back into private practice or go into the government or throw my hat into the ring to get on the bench when my kids are older. I'm even leaving early today to prep dinner (we live ten minutes from my job and the kids' daycare). I tell people all the time, I am so lucky.

My best friend thinks I'm nuts for handing in my partnership. But we're not married, so his opinion doesn't matter

Your DW is a lucky woman, I hope she realizes that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not the OP, but this thread is very helpful. Thanks to all who have posted.

Totally agree. It's great to see what other options there are for those of us who aren't interested in killing ourselves in a high-powered career.

[Anonymous]

For me, my "mom job" is FT, but I work at home one regular day per week, can work at home whenever I need to for home/kid issues, rarely travel, rarely need to do any work at nights/weekends. My hours are roughly 8am-4:30, but that again can shift as needed. I make $106k.

I chose to work at a non-profit that offered this flexibility. I'd make more money at a different company, particularly if I opted to go back to a consulting firm. But that would be higher pressure and lots of travel. I may go back to that later (I miss some of the challenge of that type of work) but for now I'm really happy in my current job.

[Anonymous]

OP, If I may suggest one thing. Try looking for a job with a school district, they are open to early morning schedules, spring break, winter break and snow days are off. I don't know your experience and educational background but school districts need people in a variety of fields such as; accounting, finance, budget, facilities, IT, HR, accountability, procurement, student services, curriculum, admin and of course teachers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I thought a mom job was when you got the breast lift and a tummy tuck at the same time.

Sign me up

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a mom job, if we can call it that (125k). My hours are 7:00 to 3:00, Spring break and Winter break off, all snow days off (I work for a school district so they are extremely considerate if kids are sick etc)). I would love the flexibility to work from home at least twice a week, but I am not complaining.

That's really good! 125K is really high. I can't imagine you being a teacher and leave by 3 or an administrator and leave by 3.
Are you a "specialist"?

I'm not the PP, but I'm a public school administrator, make $110k, and work 8-4 most days (probably 80% of the time). I get 4 weeks of paid time off, plus holidays and my district gives spring and winter break off to administrators without using leave. There is no work on weekends and sometimes I don't even look at email from Friday afternoon until Monday morning. It's pretty great.

Wow! Nice to know that school administrator's have such a cushy schedule. As a classroom teacher, it makes me feel even better about having to take work home several nights a week after working at school from 8-5 everyday.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a mom job, if we can call it that (125k). My hours are 7:00 to 3:00, Spring break and Winter break off, all snow days off (I work for a school district so they are extremely considerate if kids are sick etc)). I would love the flexibility to work from home at least twice a week, but I am not complaining.

That's really good! 125K is really high. I can't imagine you being a teacher and leave by 3 or an administrator and leave by 3.
Are you a "specialist"?

I'm not the PP, but I'm a public school administrator, make $110k, and work 8-4 most days (probably 80% of the time). I get 4 weeks of paid time off, plus holidays and my district gives spring and winter break off to administrators without using leave. There is no work on weekends and sometimes I don't even look at email from Friday afternoon until Monday morning. It's pretty great.

Wow! Nice to know that school administrator's have such a cushy schedule. As a classroom teacher, it makes me feel even better about having to take work home several nights a week after working at school from 8-5 everyday.

Not the pp but why dont you switch from teacher to administrator? Hell after reading the pps post I looked up administrator positions in the school district near my house. I only saw short term positions available though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Be a project manager (PM) - You don't do any of the actual work, you just manage budgets and task lists and schedule status meetings.

I'm a PM and this describes my job, aside from the actual knowledge of the field, guiding of project development, management of relationships between responsible parties, constant negotiation, and ultimate project responsibility.

[Anonymous]

I am a teacher and it's a 'mom job'. I worked my butt off during the non kid years, so I don't do tons outside of school hours. I wouldn't move to admin. The pensions suck (at least in DC) and I'm pulling in 90K teaching- with a 20K bonus.
That being said- I'll only do this a few more years. Then I will stick to tutoring and yoga.
To me a mom job is about great hours, fulfilling work, and adding to the retirement pot.