Teacher's odd behavior

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Thank you for your opinion about our family. My kids getting all As so far, including those in HS. I am afraid if I tell the child "to mind your own business", next day the child will not be sharing with me what was going on in school.

OP, here is something that I say frequently: "In our family, we do/believe [x]. But other people do things differently, and that's ok."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Thank you for your opinion about our family. My kids getting all As so far, including those in HS. I am afraid if I tell the child "to mind your own business", next day the child will not be sharing with me what was going on in school.

OP, here is something that I say frequently: "In our family, we do/believe [x]. But other people do things differently, and that's ok."

That is completely different from what you told your child in this instance, "I explained to my child that what the teacher does is unexceptable and unprofessional."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Thank you for your opinion about our family. My kids getting all As so far, including those in HS. I am afraid if I tell the child "to mind your own business", next day the child will not be sharing with me what was going on in school.

OP, here is something that I say frequently: "In our family, we do/believe [x]. But other people do things differently, and that's ok."

That is completely different from what you told your child in this instance, "I explained to my child that what the teacher does is unexceptable and unprofessional."

The preceding post is ADDRESSED TO the OP, not from the OP.

[Anonymous]

My son had a teacher in Pre-K who brought a cupcake to school everyday. She even had a special container for it. It was actually a great thing - the kids were excited to see what flavor she had each day. And they knew that Ms. X could have a cupcake every day because she was an adult and made her own choices and they knew (and were totally fine with) the fact that they couldn't bring a cupcake every day.

Doesn't apply to a teacher snacking through the day (but I don't see an issue with that, the teacher is an adult and should be able to pick and choose when she snacks). But does apply to making judgements on how others eat. kids (and their parents) have no right to put down anyone based on their snack choices. (Adults who are not setting examples for kids can feel free to judge away!!)

[Anonymous]

An old-fashioned, traditional view is that adults have different privileges than children, have more choices than children, and is simply something that is earned in adulthood. Rules are much more flexible for students now -in my school, they get a mid-morning snack as well as water bottles at their desks all day, which would have been entirely unheard of when I was in school.

You are exhibiting absolutely atrocious parenting to have told your child that what the teacher was doing was unprofessional. Teachers have extraordinarily difficult jobs. They are "on stage" all day but for a scant 25 minute lunch break and occasionally a 45 minute planning owriid which usually is a team meeting. I know very few teachers who can actually take a real lunch period every day. By the time they walk their kids to the cafeteria, get back to the classroom, check their email, put out any fires, and gather materials for their afternoon lessons, the time is up.

Maybe this teacher has low energy and relies on sweets to keep her fueled throughout the day. Maybe she is pregnant. Maybe she is a food addict. Maybe she is incredibly stressed by interfering, pushy parents who examine the minutiae of every day's interactions and who discuss her clothing, her greetings, and the contents of her daily snacks with their children at night.

There is nothing unprofessional about snacking in the classroom. If the teacher needs fuel to be more energetic and more engaged, it is her business to fuel her body as she needs through a demanding, stressful, difficult day on the job. Is she prepared? Is she kind? Is she engaged? Is she teaching your child? These are measured of professionalism. How she chooses to feed hersel, in what quantities, and at what times are completely beyond the realm of your business.

I left teaching years ago to work in the software industry. Everyone here keeps drinks at our desks, and many have candy dishes and stashes of sweets in drawers that we eat any time we choose. No one is watching us all day. No one judges out every waking move and reports it to others at night. It is not unprofessional. My job is a million times easier and less stressful than being in the classroom. And while I desperately miss the kids and the feeling that my work mattered, I din't miss the garbage nightmare parents like you, raising children who feel entitled to criticize and judge adults in their workplaces.

You can blame your bad judgment on your culture, but I really just think you are a nosy, intrusive busybody.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

You are exhibiting absolutely atrocious parenting to have told your child that what the teacher was doing was unprofessional. Teachers have extraordinarily difficult jobs. They are "on stage" all day but for a scant 25 minute lunch break and occasionally a 45 minute planning owriid which usually is a team meeting.

So do other professions. Would you be OK if the judge who is hearing your case pull the bag of chips and start munching on it while you talking to him? He is on "stage" all day. How about trial attorney who handles your injury case? He is "on stage" all day too. Would you be OK if he start eating gold fishes while cross examining your insurance company? How about pediatricians? They run from one patient to another all day long. Can you picture him eating while examining your child? Or is this acceptable for teachers only?

[Anonymous]

OP, wait until you find out your kid's teacher has a recent DUI, or a personal blog with some decidedly unprofessional ideas and photos of an alternative lifestyle. What then?

BTDT, BTW.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

You are exhibiting absolutely atrocious parenting to have told your child that what the teacher was doing was unprofessional. Teachers have extraordinarily difficult jobs. They are "on stage" all day but for a scant 25 minute lunch break and occasionally a 45 minute planning owriid which usually is a team meeting.

So do other professions. Would you be OK if the judge who is hearing your case pull the bag of chips and start munching on it while you talking to him? He is on "stage" all day. How about trial attorney who handles your injury case? He is "on stage" all day too. Would you be OK if he start eating gold fishes while cross examining your insurance company? How about pediatricians? They run from one patient to another all day long. Can you picture him eating while examining your child? Or is this acceptable for teachers only?

Courts actually shut down for lunch breaks. Judges have time to enjoy their meals. They are NOT on stage all day. Neither are those in other professions you listed. A doctor or lawyer can carve out a 3 hour lunch each day if he wanted . A teacher can't take a 2 minute piss without having someone cover his class of 20+ kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

You are exhibiting absolutely atrocious parenting to have told your child that what the teacher was doing was unprofessional. Teachers have extraordinarily difficult jobs. They are "on stage" all day but for a scant 25 minute lunch break and occasionally a 45 minute planning owriid which usually is a team meeting.

So do other professions. Would you be OK if the judge who is hearing your case pull the bag of chips and start munching on it while you talking to him? He is on "stage" all day. How about trial attorney who handles your injury case? He is "on stage" all day too. Would you be OK if he start eating gold fishes while cross examining your insurance company? How about pediatricians? They run from one patient to another all day long. Can you picture him eating while examining your child? Or is this acceptable for teachers only?

Courts actually shut down for lunch breaks. Judges have time to enjoy their meals. They are NOT on stage all day. Neither are those in other professions you listed. A doctor or lawyer can carve out a 3 hour lunch each day if he wanted . A teacher can't take a 2 minute piss without having someone cover his class of 20+ kids.

You're a complete idiot if you believe that to be true. Next time your kid breaks an arm, I'll have my receptionist schedule the appointment for later in the day because I'm hungry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

You are exhibiting absolutely atrocious parenting to have told your child that what the teacher was doing was unprofessional. Teachers have extraordinarily difficult jobs. They are "on stage" all day but for a scant 25 minute lunch break and occasionally a 45 minute planning owriid which usually is a team meeting.

So do other professions. Would you be OK if the judge who is hearing your case pull the bag of chips and start munching on it while you talking to him? He is on "stage" all day. How about trial attorney who handles your injury case? He is "on stage" all day too. Would you be OK if he start eating gold fishes while cross examining your insurance company? How about pediatricians? They run from one patient to another all day long. Can you picture him eating while examining your child? Or is this acceptable for teachers only?

Courts actually shut down for lunch breaks. Judges have time to enjoy their meals. They are NOT on stage all day. Neither are those in other professions you listed. A doctor or lawyer can carve out a 3 hour lunch each day if he wanted . A teacher can't take a 2 minute piss without having someone cover his class of 20+ kids.

If you're a teacher, I hope you're not my kid's.

[Anonymous]

Still really, really puzzled why people think it is okay for anyone, absent a medical reason, to eat in front of others who are not permitted to eat.

I'm an adult and your a kid does not make thiis okay. Yes, different rules apply to adults. They may snack all day if they wish, whereas parents or others may constrain children. That still does not make it okay for the snacking adult to do her snacking in front of children who are not permitted to eat.

This is not just discourteous, but also cruel, particularly for children, who are often hungry. I am totally amazed anyone thinks otherwise. Would this be okay if it was done in a classroom of children who qualify for free breakfast?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Still really, really puzzled why people think it is okay for anyone, absent a medical reason, to eat in front of others who are not permitted to eat.

I'm an adult and your a kid does not make thiis okay. Yes, different rules apply to adults. They may snack all day if they wish, whereas parents or others may constrain children. That still does not make it okay for the snacking adult to do her snacking in front of children who are not permitted to eat.

This is not just discourteous, but also cruel, particularly for children, who are often hungry. I am totally amazed anyone thinks otherwise. Would this be okay if it was done in a classroom of children who qualify for free breakfast?

Somewhere in all of this OP said the children were allowed a snack at their desks. It was suggested she make it a snack the child can drag out, just like the teacher does. (A bigger portion)

That aside, there was no reason for OP to tell her child that the teacher is unprofessional.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Courts actually shut down for lunch breaks. Judges have time to enjoy their meals. They are NOT on stage all day. Neither are those in other professions you listed. A doctor or lawyer can carve out a 3 hour lunch each day if he wanted . A teacher can't take a 2 minute piss without having someone cover his class of 20+ kids.

Teachers do have a lunch break. In our school, it is a "lunch lady" who is watching kids during the lunch break. No teachers present at the cafeteria. And teachers do rotate during recess time. While one teacher watching two classes one day, another watching them during recess the next day. Next, kids go to PE that is conducted by PE teacher, not a classroom teacher. Same is with Spanish and Music classes. So, it give classroom teacher way more than 2 minute piss time.

You obviously don't know how most of the doctors in a busy practice work if you think they can carve out a three hour lunch each day.

But you missed the whole point of subject: it is not about whether lunch breaks allowed or not. The issue is: is it appropriate for a certain professions that dealing with humans on face-to-face basis to eat in front of their clients/service recipients? According to you, it is totally acceptable and professional.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I think it's totally acceptable and professional for a teacher to snack throughout the day if he wishes to do so. The frequency or confect of his snacks would not in any way be a measure of his value, his talent, his dedication, or his efficacy in the classroom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

You are exhibiting absolutely atrocious parenting to have told your child that what the teacher was doing was unprofessional. Teachers have extraordinarily difficult jobs. They are "on stage" all day but for a scant 25 minute lunch break and occasionally a 45 minute planning owriid which usually is a team meeting.

So do other professions. Would you be OK if the judge who is hearing your case pull the bag of chips and start munching on it while you talking to him? He is on "stage" all day. How about trial attorney who handles your injury case? He is "on stage" all day too. Would you be OK if he start eating gold fishes while cross examining your insurance company? How about pediatricians? They run from one patient to another all day long. Can you picture him eating while examining your child? Or is this acceptable for teachers only?

Courts actually shut down for lunch breaks. Judges have time to enjoy their meals. They are NOT on stage all day. Neither are those in other professions you listed. A doctor or lawyer can carve out a 3 hour lunch each day if he wanted . A teacher can't take a 2 minute piss without having someone cover his class of 20+ kids.

I'm a lawyer and almost never get 30 min. to each much less three hours. And, those judges and doctors? They are answering emails, calls, etc. on their lunch.

Teachers know the drill when they take the job. I constantly in awe at the amazing teachers my DD has. Truly wonderful with very important jobs. But, don't for one minute think that they can't carve out a few minutes to eat. I have lots of teacher family members and friends. And they do. Their jobs are hard, in different ways from other professions, but they are not the only ones who have hard jobs and have to cram in a lunch. So, please spare me.