Does it make you uncomfortable when someone describes a persons race when telling a story?

[Anonymous]

dunno - depends on the context

If I'm on the prowl and a friend finds a guy for me, I'd want the full description.

If a crime is committed, you'd need a detailed description. Female in her late 20s doesn't cut it.

If there's an accident - a hit and run - you'd want the specifics.

But if some asshole cut in front of you at the grocery store and you told the story to a friend, race shouldn't matter. Dude was just an asshole! Now, if he starts yelling at you in Spanish, then I'd say it's fine to mention ethnicity.

[Anonymous]

Agree it depends on the context.

If just to more finely describe then it's no different than saying someone is short, fat, tall, has red hair, wears glasses, had a weird hat, tattoo of Popeye, walked with a limp, .....

[Anonymous]

How about when talking with a group of go workers, one of them tells a story and says:

". . . and then this white guy, no offense, walks up and says . . ."

Offended! It was a racist thing to say. Not tolerable.

[Anonymous]

It does when it adds nothing to the conversation. Example: my former co-worker would frequently say things like "My korean friend came over to my house on Saturday." In my head I'm thinking...."and you made Korean food" but nope my co-worker is just giving me a fun fact. It's odd.

[Anonymous]

I know some people who comment on whether or not someone is Jewish - in every story.

While that details is insignificant to me, they must think it is telling me something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It does when it adds nothing to the conversation. Example: my former co-worker would frequently say things like "My korean friend came over to my house on Saturday." In my head I'm thinking...."and you made Korean food" but nope my co-worker is just giving me a fun fact. It's odd.

or maybe he is just letting you know which friend came over. If you don't know his friend's names then he is just describing the friend that came over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It does when it adds nothing to the conversation. Example: my former co-worker would frequently say things like "My korean friend came over to my house on Saturday." In my head I'm thinking...."and you made Korean food" but nope my co-worker is just giving me a fun fact. It's odd.

or maybe he is just letting you know which friend came over. If you don't know his friend's names then he is just describing the friend that came over.

But if you don't know the friend's name, why do you even care which friend? Clearly it's not a significant fact.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Agree it depends on the context.

If just to more finely describe then it's no different than saying someone is short, fat, tall, has red hair, wears glasses, had a weird hat, tattoo of Popeye, walked with a limp, .....

tattoo of Popeye

lol

[Anonymous]

It bothers me. I'm white. The reason it bothers me is that you never hear someone mention that someone was white, only black or Latino.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It bothers me. I'm white. The reason it bothers me is that you never hear someone mention that someone was white, only black or Latino.

If they don't give a race it's reasonable to assume it's whatever race is the majority for that area. When describing someone you tend to give details out of the ordinary. Where out of the ordinary is relative to what is ordinary to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Depends on the story and the context. I'm black though, so unless race is essential to the story, whites don't volunteer that information to me.

Astute observation- they "check" themselves when talking to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree it depends on the context.

If just to more finely describe then it's no different than saying someone is short, fat, tall, has red hair, wears glasses, had a weird hat, tattoo of Popeye, walked with a limp, .....

tattoo of Popeye

lol