Infant died in a DC daycare center yesterday?

[Anonymous]

NP here - to the poster who first copied the MOTH post and the request for any books or guidance to help the parents of the lost child - not that I can speak from personal experience, thank God, but a dear friend lost her son (older son) and the books and tapes from Ekhardt Tolly (and lots of therapy) kept her going, and frankly kept her alive. Who knows, if even one thought from those books help, then it is worth it.

[Anonymous]

My VA daycare has recently taken away blankets in the infants cribs and they no longer wear bibs except for when eating. I was told by the Director that is was a VA mandate based on a baby suffocating under the blanket in their crib. I don't know if this is related but thought I would throw it out there as a possible reason for the death. My heart breaks for both the parents and the providers in the infant room!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm curious as to why the parents at the said daycare are so confident that the death was NOT the fault of the staff and are so quick to defend/support the daycare. I'm not saying it was, but how would you know, only one day after the incident, that staff was not negligent.

I'm not sure I would be able to send my baby back the day after a baby died in care.

How would a baby die in a crib at daycare? Aren't they constantly watched?
makes me so nervous,

And my heart goes out to that family.

Assuming it is SIDS, it likely happens the same way that it happens at home. At our daycare the provider did not literally sit by the cribs and watch the sleeping infants for 2hrs at a stretch.

Arlington county or va code (probably Arlington)
Requires a sleeping baby be checked on every 15 mins.
So yes, if your charges are sleep you are required by law in at least one place to check on the kid.

[Anonymous]

DC code requires every 20 minutes. And blankets, swaddles, etc are only allowed in cribs at BH if parents sign waivers to allow.

[Anonymous]

I'm curious as to why the parents at the said daycare are so confident that the death was NOT the fault of the staff and are so quick to defend/support the daycare. I'm not saying it was, but how would you know, only one day after the incident, that staff was not negligent.

I'm not sure I would be able to send my baby back the day after a baby died in care.

How would a baby die in a crib at daycare? Aren't they constantly watched?

I don't know if the center was negligent, and my child is not there. I do know that, unfortunately, babies die of SIDS, even if no one was negligent, they had no blankets or bumpers in their cribs, and no one did anything wrong. Whether this is such a case, I don't know. I think it is best not to judge either way until we have more information.

[Anonymous]

My child died of SIDS while I was holding him. I know of SIDS deaths that have happened while infant asleep in swing. At a connecting airport between flights. In the middle of the night. During a nap. In an car seat. etc. etc.

SIDS is not predictable, it is not preventable, it is not due to negligence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My child died of SIDS while I was holding him. I know of SIDS deaths that have happened while infant asleep in swing. At a connecting airport between flights. In the middle of the night. During a nap. In an car seat. etc. etc.

SIDS is not predictable, it is not preventable, it is not due to negligence.

I'm so sorry, PP. What a horrible loss. My heart goes out to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a MOTH too I don't find it a problem to repost the note here. There was zero identifying information sobstope getting your panties twisted.

It is a horrible situation and having gone through a SIDS death at a facility I can assure you that the family and center are devastated-- not running to DCUM to check in in things. They are most likely consumed by the truly horrific police investigation which they will all be subjected to. That is what is horrific. Not this.

It really doesn't matter if you "find it a problem." It's against the rules. Not sure why this is so hard to understand?

And thanks, Captain Obvious, I think everyone understands that parents would think the death of their child is more devastating than a thread on DCUM. That doesn't make everyone's morbid curiosity any less gross.

Perhaps you missed where the PP mentioned that she had gone through a SIDS death. Perhaps you would like to change your tone a bit to be a little "less gross."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My child died of SIDS while I was holding him. I know of SIDS deaths that have happened while infant asleep in swing. At a connecting airport between flights. In the middle of the night. During a nap. In an car seat. etc. etc.

SIDS is not predictable, it is not preventable, it is not due to negligence.

Ones of my good friends lost his daughter in a daycare center in VA a few years ago, SIDS. It was a horrible thing to watch him struggle with. He never blamed the center - at all. Many of the providers were actually at the funeral and heartbroken.

[Anonymous]

Everyone who has been saying mean things about these teachers are just big bullies and do you know that you are the worst kind of bullies because you are cowards and hide behind your computer [/b]TRY TO SHOW A GOOD EXAMPLE FOR YOUR KIDS AND STOP BEING BULLIES

[Anonymous]

We can not speculate. We can only be vigilante going forward. My heart goes out to those directly and indirectly affected.

[Anonymous]

I'm one of the PPs who asked why everyone assumed it was sids; i didn't mean that to be bullying, just seemed odd that everyone immediately explained the death as sids related with no evidence, especially since everyone says babies are checked every 15 min.

[Anonymous]

It takes far less than 15 minutes of not breathing for a child to die. Checking every 15 minutes might prevent a lot of things, but not most SIDS incidents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a MOTH too I don't find it a problem to repost the note here. There was zero identifying information sobstope getting your panties twisted.

It is a horrible situation and having gone through a SIDS death at a facility I can assure you that the family and center are devastated-- not running to DCUM to check in in things. They are most likely consumed by the truly horrific police investigation which they will all be subjected to. That is what is horrific. Not this.

It really doesn't matter if you "find it a problem." It's against the rules. Not sure why this is so hard to understand?

some of you "MOTH" people take you're little forum way too seriously with all the rules... please feel free to ban my account since I had to lie to get it (lived 3 blocks outside of your boundary) and have since moved across town. There is a larger world outside of that place.