i HATE thank you notes...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I hate thank you notes, don't do them, ever.

Thank you email and in person. That's it.

Suck it.

Am I the only one who finds the attitudes of the "anti-thank you note" crowd aggressively negative and off-putting? "Suck it?" Really? I took the trouble to select, buy, wrap and deliver a gift and this is the response I get? I don't think I would ever want to be friends with you, much less give you a gift.

I don't care. 8)

Hey Hijacker! That was my post.

To the PP: Suck it twice. If a call or email is not good enough thanks for you then take your toys and your tears and go the fuck back home.

Pp here -- I rest my case. Q

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hate thank you notes, don't do them, ever.

Thank you email and in person. That's it.

Suck it.

Am I the only one who finds the attitudes of the "anti-thank you note" crowd aggressively negative and off-putting? "Suck it?" Really? I took the trouble to select, buy, wrap and deliver a gift and this is the response I get? I don't think I would ever want to be friends with you, much less give you a gift.

I don't care. 8)

Hey Hijacker! That was my post.

To the PP: Suck it twice. If a call or email is not good enough thanks for you then take your toys and your tears and go the fuck back home.

Pp here -- I rest my case. Q

Do you think all of the responses here that question thank you notes are coming from me, 350 note poster? Please don't "rest your case" based on this. I didn't write this, or any of the other "screaming" or swearing posts. I believe I identified myself in every post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One more time, for the screaming PP who seems to be reading impaired.

Perhaps people in YOUR FAMILY lack manners, but ripple who typically write TYN do not. We do not point out whether you write them or not (see above) and we do not "look down our noses" at people who do not write them. Many of us simply refuse to continue making an effort if none is made in return. (Please note that I am not yelling.) I did write all of my birth TYN after 5 days in the hospital with DS for the record. All 79 of them were out within one week of my rerun home from the hospital with a baby who had just returned from the NICU. No, I'm not superhuman. It can be done. Notes don't take 10 minutes each to write if you've been writing them since you were little. You can write a very thoughtful note in a matter of a few minutes. Yell and scream all you want. Write TYN or don't. I don't care. You have your opinion and I have mine. It's what makes the world go 'round. Being mean is unnecessary. I really do hope you have a good day, and I'm sorry if this discussion has upset you. It was just a discussion.

I'm glad you know exactly how long it takes to write a thank you note for every person, and I'm glad you think you know whether or not I've been writing thank you notes since I was little. so, to inform you, it took me about 5-10 minutes for the thank you notes. I wanted to be sincere, and I am careful with my handwriting, because if I am not, people won't be able to read what I've written. But even so, I guess what your saying is that a new mom's time is best spent answering social obligations than bonding with her newborn baby. I do not agree. I notice you did not answer my question. And you are still responding to someone who is not me. I wrote my notes, but I didn't write them fast enough. I probably took about 3 months or so to write all 350 of them. These are gifts that arrived after my child came. I wrote the ones from before child came immediately. Honestly, if you spent your time writing 79 thank you notes the first week you were home, I just do not think you and I have much in common in terms of values at all. I prefer my values to yours. What will matter more, in 20 years time: whether or not I got my thank you notes to givers within 3 weeks or whether or not I got some sleep, bonded with my new family, and had some time to eat and make meals? I don't know about you, but I had no family here to help at all. And a baby who didn't want to be put down.

So let's say writing notes takes "a few minutes" and let's assume a few minutes means "three minutes." To write 350 notes at three minutes each would take more than 17 hours. So should I have spent five hours a week writing notes? If you REALLY did that, I think your values are seriously off. I spent about an hour a week writing thank you notes. At that pace, it took me about three months to get them written. So please tell me what's so wrong with that? There is nothing wrong with that. What's wrong with that are the people, whether they say it to your face or not, who start judging you at 4 weeks for not writing your notes fast enough. If that makes a person like you less likely to send me a present the next time, please, by all means, do not. If you can't give with a kind and loving heart, save yourself the high blood pressure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hate thank you notes, don't do them, ever.

Thank you email and in person. That's it.

Suck it.

Am I the only one who finds the attitudes of the "anti-thank you note" crowd aggressively negative and off-putting? "Suck it?" Really? I took the trouble to select, buy, wrap and deliver a gift and this is the response I get? I don't think I would ever want to be friends with you, much less give you a gift.

I don't care. 8)

C
Hey Hijacker! That was my post.

To the PP: Suck it twice. If a call or email is not good enough thanks for you then take your toys and your tears and go the fuck back home.

Pp here -- I rest my case. Q

Do you think all of the responses here that question thank you notes are coming from me, 350 note poster? Please don't "rest your case" based on this. I didn't write this, or any of the other "screaming" or swearing posts. I believe I identified myself in every post.

I didn't think it was you, and I don't think I implied in any way that I did. I am beginning to think that you are over sensitive. As for the "suck it" poster, not writing thank you notes is the least of their problems.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just got finished writing about a billion of these for DS's birth, and now I'm hip deep in the Christmas thank-yous. Don't get me wrong, I am truly appreciative of the gifts we've received, but writing these damn things on small little cards makes my hand cramp and I long to just send a very nice e-mail. I mean, we live in the electronic age. I for one have no issue at all if I get a thank-you e-mail or ecard.

Do you still hand-write ALL of your thank-yous? Perhaps for grandparents it's nice, but I'm wondering if I'm torturing myself needlessly and times have moved on so that an electronic thank you is acceptable. If not, DAMMIT. Why??

Let everyone know that you no longer wish to accept gifts of any kind, shape, or form for any occasion, then you do not even have to say "Thank You>" You sound spoiled, selfish, and ungrateful, not to mention ill-mannered. I am surprised that anyone likes you well enough to give you a gift.

[Anonymous]

More than that -- return any gift that arrives, unopened.

Surely, if writing a thank you note causes such pain, opening a wrapped is far too much to ask.

[Anonymous]

I have a hate relationship with thank you notes because my mother instilled such a level of guilt over it I do it to avoid the pain of being told I am ungrateful and selfish (my whole life) vs. out of wanting to actually say thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hate thank you notes, don't do them, ever.

Thank you email and in person. That's it.

Suck it.

Am I the only one who finds the attitudes of the "anti-thank you note" crowd aggressively negative and off-putting? "Suck it?" Really? I took the trouble to select, buy, wrap and deliver a gift and this is the response I get? I don't think I would ever want to be friends with you, much less give you a gift.

I don't care. 8)

C
Hey Hijacker! That was my post.

To the PP: Suck it twice. If a call or email is not good enough thanks for you then take your toys and your tears and go the fuck back home.

Pp here -- I rest my case. Q

Do you think all of the responses here that question thank you notes are coming from me, 350 note poster? Please don't "rest your case" based on this. I didn't write this, or any of the other "screaming" or swearing posts. I believe I identified myself in every post.

I didn't think it was you, and I don't think I implied in any way that I did. I am beginning to think that you are over sensitive. As for the "suck it" poster, not writing thank you notes is the least of their problems.

I am beginning to think you are overly invested in receiving thank you notes. Please, consider a hobby (unrelated to pestering your daughter in law).