Giving young children screens all the time

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Anonymous wrote:I'm guilty of defaulting to an iPad as a babysitter from time to time, but my kid is happy, has friends, scores in the 99th percentile on MAP tests, and plays multiple sports. They've also learned a lot of random but cool stuff on YouTube Kids, especially interesting science. It's not ideal, but probably not much worse than the bad TV I watched in the 90s.

There’s a difference between occasionally handing your kid the iPad as a babysitter and letting them constantly be on screens.

The vast majority of parents are not "letting them constantly be on screens." Every single parent I know works hard to limit screens in some way. Some more than others but nobody I know has zero limits.

Do you ever leave your house? All around you are young kids on screens in places where they should be interacting with others or observing the world. I saw a four year old holding the phone in both hands and watching something while walking on a sidewalk yesterday. Kids on phones at restaurants. In grocery stores. At parks. Most parents are not judiciously using screens.

Why don’t you interact with your own kids instead of scrutinizing strangers? You’re not making a good case, you know.

You don't need to scrutinize anything to see that a kid at a park is looking at a phone.

The fact that people like you are so desperate to attack people for noticing what's happening in the world is suspicious.

Yes we all know screens exist

But I don't know where you are where most kids you see are on screens. When I walk to school with my kid, go to the playground, go to the pool, I see zero kids on screens

DP. I wouldn’t say most kids, but I see it frequently, too… in the grocery store cart, waiting at a restaurant, at a sibling’s sports event… small kids are handed screens rather than having a parent talk with them, give them a coloring book, read to them, or give them a non-digital toy.

That's not constant. You may disagree with the choice to give kids screens in those situations, I certainly try to avoid it, but to jump to the notion that kids are constantly on screens based on this is preposterous

Dp. A lot of these kids are on screens constantly. Ask your kid's teacher. They'll tell you.

I literally see these kids in our neighborhood not constantly on screens

Right. We're talking in general, not your Mayberry experience. We know there are neighborhoods like yours out there, and that's truly wonderful for you and society, but that's a limited perspective.

My nieces and nephews are on screen a lot. I see them constantly on screens. Teachers are saying kids are getting too much screen time. Multiple posters on here are telling you there are kids are on screens all the time. It's happening, whether you specifically see it or not.

I live in one of the less expensive neighborhoods in MoCo. It is not Mayberry like at all. It is quite diverse.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm guilty of defaulting to an iPad as a babysitter from time to time, but my kid is happy, has friends, scores in the 99th percentile on MAP tests, and plays multiple sports. They've also learned a lot of random but cool stuff on YouTube Kids, especially interesting science. It's not ideal, but probably not much worse than the bad TV I watched in the 90s.

There’s a difference between occasionally handing your kid the iPad as a babysitter and letting them constantly be on screens.

The vast majority of parents are not "letting them constantly be on screens." Every single parent I know works hard to limit screens in some way. Some more than others but nobody I know has zero limits.

Do you ever leave your house? All around you are young kids on screens in places where they should be interacting with others or observing the world. I saw a four year old holding the phone in both hands and watching something while walking on a sidewalk yesterday. Kids on phones at restaurants. In grocery stores. At parks. Most parents are not judiciously using screens.

Why don’t you interact with your own kids instead of scrutinizing strangers? You’re not making a good case, you know.

You don't need to scrutinize anything to see that a kid at a park is looking at a phone.

The fact that people like you are so desperate to attack people for noticing what's happening in the world is suspicious.

Yes we all know screens exist

But I don't know where you are where most kids you see are on screens. When I walk to school with my kid, go to the playground, go to the pool, I see zero kids on screens

DP. I wouldn’t say most kids, but I see it frequently, too… in the grocery store cart, waiting at a restaurant, at a sibling’s sports event… small kids are handed screens rather than having a parent talk with them, give them a coloring book, read to them, or give them a non-digital toy.

That's not constant. You may disagree with the choice to give kids screens in those situations, I certainly try to avoid it, but to jump to the notion that kids are constantly on screens based on this is preposterous

Dp. A lot of these kids are on screens constantly. Ask your kid's teacher. They'll tell you.

Because the freaking schools FORCE KIDs to use screens! Seriously, get a clue and then get a life.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm guilty of defaulting to an iPad as a babysitter from time to time, but my kid is happy, has friends, scores in the 99th percentile on MAP tests, and plays multiple sports. They've also learned a lot of random but cool stuff on YouTube Kids, especially interesting science. It's not ideal, but probably not much worse than the bad TV I watched in the 90s.

There’s a difference between occasionally handing your kid the iPad as a babysitter and letting them constantly be on screens.

The vast majority of parents are not "letting them constantly be on screens." Every single parent I know works hard to limit screens in some way. Some more than others but nobody I know has zero limits.

Do you ever leave your house? All around you are young kids on screens in places where they should be interacting with others or observing the world. I saw a four year old holding the phone in both hands and watching something while walking on a sidewalk yesterday. Kids on phones at restaurants. In grocery stores. At parks. Most parents are not judiciously using screens.

Why don’t you interact with your own kids instead of scrutinizing strangers? You’re not making a good case, you know.

You don't need to scrutinize anything to see that a kid at a park is looking at a phone.

The fact that people like you are so desperate to attack people for noticing what's happening in the world is suspicious.

Yes we all know screens exist

But I don't know where you are where most kids you see are on screens. When I walk to school with my kid, go to the playground, go to the pool, I see zero kids on screens

DP. I wouldn’t say most kids, but I see it frequently, too… in the grocery store cart, waiting at a restaurant, at a sibling’s sports event… small kids are handed screens rather than having a parent talk with them, give them a coloring book, read to them, or give them a non-digital toy.

That's not constant. You may disagree with the choice to give kids screens in those situations, I certainly try to avoid it, but to jump to the notion that kids are constantly on screens based on this is preposterous

Dp. A lot of these kids are on screens constantly. Ask your kid's teacher. They'll tell you.

Because the freaking schools FORCE KIDs to use screens! Seriously, get a clue and then get a life.

Schools are the reason kids are constantly on screens?

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My college professor friend is so angry. The kids complain about reading 10 pages as "too much".
Maybe if the text was performed as a TikTok dance on a screen the students would be interested in the topic. Even so, how would any of that help them be ready for a productive life?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm guilty of defaulting to an iPad as a babysitter from time to time, but my kid is happy, has friends, scores in the 99th percentile on MAP tests, and plays multiple sports. They've also learned a lot of random but cool stuff on YouTube Kids, especially interesting science. It's not ideal, but probably not much worse than the bad TV I watched in the 90s.

There’s a difference between occasionally handing your kid the iPad as a babysitter and letting them constantly be on screens.

The vast majority of parents are not "letting them constantly be on screens." Every single parent I know works hard to limit screens in some way. Some more than others but nobody I know has zero limits.

Do you ever leave your house? All around you are young kids on screens in places where they should be interacting with others or observing the world. I saw a four year old holding the phone in both hands and watching something while walking on a sidewalk yesterday. Kids on phones at restaurants. In grocery stores. At parks. Most parents are not judiciously using screens.

Why don’t you interact with your own kids instead of scrutinizing strangers? You’re not making a good case, you know.

You don't need to scrutinize anything to see that a kid at a park is looking at a phone.

The fact that people like you are so desperate to attack people for noticing what's happening in the world is suspicious.

Yes we all know screens exist

But I don't know where you are where most kids you see are on screens. When I walk to school with my kid, go to the playground, go to the pool, I see zero kids on screens

DP. I wouldn’t say most kids, but I see it frequently, too… in the grocery store cart, waiting at a restaurant, at a sibling’s sports event… small kids are handed screens rather than having a parent talk with them, give them a coloring book, read to them, or give them a non-digital toy.

That's not constant. You may disagree with the choice to give kids screens in those situations, I certainly try to avoid it, but to jump to the notion that kids are constantly on screens based on this is preposterous

Dp. A lot of these kids are on screens constantly. Ask your kid's teacher. They'll tell you.

Because the freaking schools FORCE KIDs to use screens! Seriously, get a clue and then get a life.

Schools are the reason kids are constantly on screens?

Schools certainly don’t help. My kids are all forced to use screens both at school and after school to do their schoolwork.

But I reject your premise that kids are “constantly” on screens. And you are obviously not setting a good example as a parent if you think screentime is horrible. Put your phone down and go play with your kids.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm guilty of defaulting to an iPad as a babysitter from time to time, but my kid is happy, has friends, scores in the 99th percentile on MAP tests, and plays multiple sports. They've also learned a lot of random but cool stuff on YouTube Kids, especially interesting science. It's not ideal, but probably not much worse than the bad TV I watched in the 90s.

There’s a difference between occasionally handing your kid the iPad as a babysitter and letting them constantly be on screens.

The vast majority of parents are not "letting them constantly be on screens." Every single parent I know works hard to limit screens in some way. Some more than others but nobody I know has zero limits.

Do you ever leave your house? All around you are young kids on screens in places where they should be interacting with others or observing the world. I saw a four year old holding the phone in both hands and watching something while walking on a sidewalk yesterday. Kids on phones at restaurants. In grocery stores. At parks. Most parents are not judiciously using screens.

Why don’t you interact with your own kids instead of scrutinizing strangers? You’re not making a good case, you know.

You don't need to scrutinize anything to see that a kid at a park is looking at a phone.

The fact that people like you are so desperate to attack people for noticing what's happening in the world is suspicious.

Yes we all know screens exist

But I don't know where you are where most kids you see are on screens. When I walk to school with my kid, go to the playground, go to the pool, I see zero kids on screens

DP. I wouldn’t say most kids, but I see it frequently, too… in the grocery store cart, waiting at a restaurant, at a sibling’s sports event… small kids are handed screens rather than having a parent talk with them, give them a coloring book, read to them, or give them a non-digital toy.

That's not constant. You may disagree with the choice to give kids screens in those situations, I certainly try to avoid it, but to jump to the notion that kids are constantly on screens based on this is preposterous

Dp. A lot of these kids are on screens constantly. Ask your kid's teacher. They'll tell you.

Because the freaking schools FORCE KIDs to use screens! Seriously, get a clue and then get a life.

Schools are the reason kids are constantly on screens?

Schools certainly don’t help. My kids are all forced to use screens both at school and after school to do their schoolwork.

But I reject your premise that kids are “constantly” on screens. And you are obviously not setting a good example as a parent if you think screentime is horrible. Put your phone down and go play with your kids.

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I am at a public library right now and have seen at least as st 15 kids. The only ones on a screen are playing games on the library computers. Don't get me started on my rant about why someone thought it would be good to provide video games for kids to play in a library

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Anonymous wrote:My college professor friend is so angry. The kids complain about reading 10 pages as "too much".
Maybe if the text was performed as a TikTok dance on a screen the students would be interested in the topic. Even so, how would any of that help them be ready for a productive life?

Agree. It won't.

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Anonymous wrote:No bueno, why do parents do this? My kids once had a play date with the kids of an acquaintance and the mother plopped tablets in front of her kids at a restaurant table and my kids were expecting to have conversation. It was the ditziest thing I have ever seen in my life, it’s almost like she felt superior that she had tech for her kids and my kids didn’t. There are potential friends for your kid that can detach from devices and engage. You or child will find them.

There are families that think that the tech is good for kids. I honestly can't blame them that much given the example our school systems are setting and the lack of meaningful regulation of tech companies. These devices are intentionally made to be addictive. Yeah I wish more parents were cognizant of the harms of making screens available constantly, but I think there are systemic societal forces that are driving this and chastising individual parents is not going to move the needle.

Right- much younger kid but they say things like- as long as it’s educational…

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Anonymous wrote:No bueno, why do parents do this? My kids once had a play date with the kids of an acquaintance and the mother plopped tablets in front of her kids at a restaurant table and my kids were expecting to have conversation. It was the ditziest thing I have ever seen in my life, it’s almost like she felt superior that she had tech for her kids and my kids didn’t. There are potential friends for your kid that can detach from devices and engage. You or child will find them.

There are families that think that the tech is good for kids. I honestly can't blame them that much given the example our school systems are setting and the lack of meaningful regulation of tech companies. These devices are intentionally made to be addictive. Yeah I wish more parents were cognizant of the harms of making screens available constantly, but I think there are systemic societal forces that are driving this and chastising individual parents is not going to move the needle.

Right- much younger kid but they say things like- as long as it’s educational…

Why wouldn't they? There are "educational games" in public libraries, they play them in schools, this is the message our public servants are sending

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Anonymous wrote:OP why are you pretending to ask a question at the end of your post.

Engagement baiting

I don’t know why people karma farm here with repetitive nonsense. This isn’t Reddit.

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Anonymous wrote:OP why are you pretending to ask a question at the end of your post.

To stir up controversy.

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Anonymous wrote:We know a family whose child is constantly wanting an iPad, tv, video game, iPhone. The kid can’t eat without watching a video. As soon as we sit down, the kid says he is bored and is asking for a screen. When they have play dates, kids all play on their iPads. When we go to their home, my child is the only one not on a screen. Kids are age 8. My kid is age 9.

Is this just lazy parenting to just allow kids to be on screens all the time???

OP, are you self-aware enough to recognize that you are getting your entertainment by posting online (screen use) about how other people are raising their kids (judgment and drama)?

You’d be better off (and definitely a better person) if you just watched a show or a movie instead.

NP. It's good to judge bad parenting.

You don’t have a full picture. You are actually judging your assumptions and not always bad parenting. All you see is a snapshot and just because you see a child with a screen doesn’t mean they always have it. It could be an outlier moment. You never know and it adds no value. Every time you point a finger, there are fingers pointing back. MYOB!

Do you know how dumb you sound when you spout these childish bumper sticker slogans? Just wondering, because it kind of seems like you don’t.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm guilty of defaulting to an iPad as a babysitter from time to time, but my kid is happy, has friends, scores in the 99th percentile on MAP tests, and plays multiple sports. They've also learned a lot of random but cool stuff on YouTube Kids, especially interesting science. It's not ideal, but probably not much worse than the bad TV I watched in the 90s.

There’s a difference between occasionally handing your kid the iPad as a babysitter and letting them constantly be on screens.

The vast majority of parents are not "letting them constantly be on screens." Every single parent I know works hard to limit screens in some way. Some more than others but nobody I know has zero limits.

Do you ever leave your house? All around you are young kids on screens in places where they should be interacting with others or observing the world. I saw a four year old holding the phone in both hands and watching something while walking on a sidewalk yesterday. Kids on phones at restaurants. In grocery stores. At parks. Most parents are not judiciously using screens.

Why don’t you interact with your own kids instead of scrutinizing strangers? You’re not making a good case, you know.

You don't need to scrutinize anything to see that a kid at a park is looking at a phone.

The fact that people like you are so desperate to attack people for noticing what's happening in the world is suspicious.

Yes we all know screens exist

But I don't know where you are where most kids you see are on screens. When I walk to school with my kid, go to the playground, go to the pool, I see zero kids on screens

DP. I wouldn’t say most kids, but I see it frequently, too… in the grocery store cart, waiting at a restaurant, at a sibling’s sports event… small kids are handed screens rather than having a parent talk with them, give them a coloring book, read to them, or give them a non-digital toy.

That's not constant. You may disagree with the choice to give kids screens in those situations, I certainly try to avoid it, but to jump to the notion that kids are constantly on screens based on this is preposterous

Dp. A lot of these kids are on screens constantly. Ask your kid's teacher. They'll tell you.

Because the freaking schools FORCE KIDs to use screens! Seriously, get a clue and then get a life.

Yeah, no. It’s not about the schools. It’s about lazy parents who don’t want to listen to Cayden and Emma’s tantrums if they don’t let them stare at their iPads like mindless zombies.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm guilty of defaulting to an iPad as a babysitter from time to time, but my kid is happy, has friends, scores in the 99th percentile on MAP tests, and plays multiple sports. They've also learned a lot of random but cool stuff on YouTube Kids, especially interesting science. It's not ideal, but probably not much worse than the bad TV I watched in the 90s.

There’s a difference between occasionally handing your kid the iPad as a babysitter and letting them constantly be on screens.

The vast majority of parents are not "letting them constantly be on screens." Every single parent I know works hard to limit screens in some way. Some more than others but nobody I know has zero limits.

Do you ever leave your house? All around you are young kids on screens in places where they should be interacting with others or observing the world. I saw a four year old holding the phone in both hands and watching something while walking on a sidewalk yesterday. Kids on phones at restaurants. In grocery stores. At parks. Most parents are not judiciously using screens.

Why don’t you interact with your own kids instead of scrutinizing strangers? You’re not making a good case, you know.

You don't need to scrutinize anything to see that a kid at a park is looking at a phone.

The fact that people like you are so desperate to attack people for noticing what's happening in the world is suspicious.

Yes we all know screens exist

But I don't know where you are where most kids you see are on screens. When I walk to school with my kid, go to the playground, go to the pool, I see zero kids on screens

DP. I wouldn’t say most kids, but I see it frequently, too… in the grocery store cart, waiting at a restaurant, at a sibling’s sports event… small kids are handed screens rather than having a parent talk with them, give them a coloring book, read to them, or give them a non-digital toy.

That's not constant. You may disagree with the choice to give kids screens in those situations, I certainly try to avoid it, but to jump to the notion that kids are constantly on screens based on this is preposterous

Dp. A lot of these kids are on screens constantly. Ask your kid's teacher. They'll tell you.

Because the freaking schools FORCE KIDs to use screens! Seriously, get a clue and then get a life.

Schools are the reason kids are constantly on screens?

Schools certainly don’t help. My kids are all forced to use screens both at school and after school to do their schoolwork.

But I reject your premise that kids are “constantly” on screens. And you are obviously not setting a good example as a parent if you think screentime is horrible. Put your phone down and go play with your kids.

Yep- the only screen time my kid gets is at school. And they use the games to motivate them. And as soon as they finish work they can then spend X minutes on the chromebook.
I HATE it.

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Anonymous wrote:I grew up watching TV all the time in the late 90s - early 2000s and I turned out fine as an adult.

Did you carry the TV with you wherever you go? Sit with it in the cart at the grocery store, at every restaurant?

Didn't think so.