Another reckless teenage boy destroys his life

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:FYI your judgement is likely driven by fear and and unconscious need for reassurance.

Fear, yes! There is an epidemic of reckless teenage boys doing willfully dangerous things and it has to stop. This time no one else was injured but that is often not the case. Parents of boys need to DO BETTER. You can't just check out once they hit 6th grade like so many do.

My theory is that young children are so padded and overprotected by parents these days, desperately lacking adequate exposure to the physical world, that when they become teens and naturally separate from their parents, they’re abilities to assess risk and consequences are f*cked.

Blah blah blah every generation says this

You are an idiot

Every generation says this? No, they don’t. Nobody says GenX kids were padded and overprotected. Quite the opposite. We played outside all day, completely separate from adults. Our parents never knew where we were. We learned to navigate the world by living it in realtime.

Nobody says that about most previous generations, either. Maybe Boomers to a certain extent, who were a bit coddled after the horrors of WW2. But nothing like kids today.

UMC kids today grow up in tightly controlled environments orchestrated by adults—travel sports, summer camp, constant extracurriculars. There’s little opportunity to learn from benign errors either because the environment is so contrived or because there’s always an adult there to catch them.

That’s because consequences are bigger today. No one had a video camera taping everywhere you went and every stupid thing you did. You didn’t have to be concerned about your digital footprint and every silly thing you said online. There’s little opportunity to learn from benign errors because society is less forgiving. Don’t blame the parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:FYI your judgement is likely driven by fear and and unconscious need for reassurance.

Fear, yes! There is an epidemic of reckless teenage boys doing willfully dangerous things and it has to stop. This time no one else was injured but that is often not the case. Parents of boys need to DO BETTER. You can't just check out once they hit 6th grade like so many do.

My theory is that young children are so padded and overprotected by parents these days, desperately lacking adequate exposure to the physical world, that when they become teens and naturally separate from their parents, they’re abilities to assess risk and consequences are f*cked.

Completely agree. They think they’re invincible. But they are not.

[Anonymous]

This is tragic. This game should be banned because of the extremely high risk for multiple deaths, played by teenagers who do not have fully developed brains. Teen boys especially do not have good impulse control, decision making, and judgement. This game is played in FCPS. I hope it’s banned. It also requires Snapchat, which is also destructive for safety and mental health.

This tragedy could easily be about your child. No one is immune, and it’s not about parenting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is tragic. This game should be banned because of the extremely high risk for multiple deaths, played by teenagers who do not have fully developed brains. Teen boys especially do not have good impulse control, decision making, and judgement. This game is played in FCPS. I hope it’s banned. It also requires Snapchat, which is also destructive for safety and mental health.

This tragedy could easily be about your child. No one is immune, and it’s not about parenting.

Sorry lady. You are crazy. It’s an extended game of tag for kids who have grown up together and are about to part ways. Kids do dumb stuff. This kid could have made the impulsive decision to jump on a car in some other sort of horse play. It’s the nature of kids.

[Anonymous]

There’s a little tension in the comments here — some posters are saying teens are most likely to do dumb stufff because they’ve been too coddled and not allowed to take risks. Others are saying ban this game (so again don’t allow them to take risks in what is a relatively closed environment.). I’m not crazy about the game but I don’t think that banning it is possible or is the answer.
And teen kids have done stupid stuff forever. I had a boyfriend that broke his neck diving into a swimming hole in the 80s. My mom was a nurse in the head injury ward in the 70s and it was all young men in their teens and twenties.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This game is very dangerous. A kid at our school almost got shot playing it, by a homeowner not expecting him.

We just got a knock on our door at 9:50 PM asking us to lure neighbors out of their home for them in the interest of playing this game. We don't know who these kids are - it's not like they are our neighbors?

My husband said "It's too late to be knocking on doors". Did they think we would OPEN IT??

[Anonymous]

Jumping up on a car and standing on the fender is something that even my 7 year old would know is not a good idea, regardless of what game is being played.
I feel badly for the boy who is now badly injured but honestly, he did something that is just dumb. Now there are consequences. Story as old as time.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So the girl driving the car was a target and the boy jumped on the back of her jeep. I'm confused how he could even spray her that way at all. And why the thought would be to kick it in reverse if some presumably acquaintance jumped on your car.

It's ashame, that these few seconds of wrong impulsive decisions now have a lifetime of consequence for so many people.

I feel sad for everyone involved.

I’m guessing he didn’t think she’d actually drive anywhere if he was on the back of the car, so he thought he had her cornered, but then she did, to get away from him. I’m no lawyer — if she knew she was driving with him on the back and then he fell off and she kept driving, does that count as leaving the scene of an accident?

They are both responsible. It’s a shame his parents are going after her while assuming no responsibility for his role in the stupidity. Guarantee the two of them ruined the game for any future seniors at that school. Admin will just shut it down. This is why we can’t have nice things.

This stupid game is not “nice things”. Parent better.

[Anonymous]

My condolences to everyone involved. So very sad.

[Anonymous]

My kid is playing this now and wants to win. I am worried about the possibility of high speed car chases and lecturing him appropriately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jumping up on a car and standing on the fender is something that even my 7 year old would know is not a good idea, regardless of what game is being played.
I feel badly for the boy who is now badly injured but honestly, he did something that is just dumb. Now there are consequences. Story as old as time.

Get back to your seven year old when they are showing off for their friends as a teen.

Christ, some of you are so smug.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jumping up on a car and standing on the fender is something that even my 7 year old would know is not a good idea, regardless of what game is being played.
I feel badly for the boy who is now badly injured but honestly, he did something that is just dumb. Now there are consequences. Story as old as time.

Get back to your seven year old when they are showing off for their friends as a teen.

Christ, some of you are so smug.

That is the whole point. Teens do dumb things. But then those teens may have to deal with the consequences just as this young man has and will for perhaps the rest of his life. What is that saying: play stupid games, win stupid prizes.

The trick is to somehow get your kids through without doing something dumb. No guarantees.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid is playing this now and wants to win. I am worried about the possibility of high speed car chases and lecturing him appropriately.

Same. The pot is $2k.

My older son’s year they couldn’t play off-campus. This year it’s being run by the kids outside of school.

I worry. They are driving all over the place.

[Anonymous]

In other news, kid is killed riding bike into traffic!

Damn those parents, kids should stop riding bikes! Ban bikes, hundreds of kids are killed each year! Clearly bikes are the problem!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid is playing this now and wants to win. I am worried about the possibility of high speed car chases and lecturing him appropriately.

Same. The pot is $2k.

My older son’s year they couldn’t play off-campus. This year it’s being run by the kids outside of school.

I worry. They are driving all over the place.

They have to do if off campus - admins ban it at school for obvious reasons.