Like a mother young and healthy enough to be there? And maybe a SAH father? |
How is he perfect if you are judging his lack of income? Shake my head |
If you want to give your future children opportunities that include private school and extracurriculars and interesting summer camps and vacations, then be willing to do it all. I overlooked my DH's income. I became the default parent and the breadwinner. I paid for private school and camps and sports all by myself. I knew he could earn more, but it ended up that he made a choice not to do so. It was not important to him. He thought I was being money-obsessed. He is not paying for their college either. I stayed at home for 5 years when my kids were young because I wanted to and I had the savings to do so. Our relationship ended. Not because of money. But it was certainly a factor. |
She makes double this guys salary and you’re calling her a gold digger and saying she’s looking for a meal ticket. That sounds exactly like the definition of gaslighting. You should look it up! The expression has a really interesting history. |
If she was in love, this wouldn't even be a question. |
So in addition to wanting to be a stay at home for 5 years, you also will probably need to fund IVF. Cut the guy loose and go on your gold digging way. Gross |
It's not necessarily that a man making less than a woman is the issue. It's not the amount. What I've found is that it is the chip on the shoulder that they carry about making less that becomes the issue. Women get called "gold diggers" but men tend to NOT like it the other way around. |
OP, don’t let the haters get to you. They are probably sad little men. I think you should move on. It’s a little issue now that will grow much bigger over time. It sounds like you’ve worked really hard to build a life for yourself, and you want to have a family with someone who shares your values and priorities. This man is happy with earning $80k a year. His priorities do not align with yours. No judgment. It’s just a mismatch. |
It’s easier to get $ than find a great guy. |
The OP is sounding more and more like a troll. |
I think everyone agrees she should move on. So she ends up with exactly what she deserves. |
She's the infamous CRNA poster |
I have 2 kids and was totally infertile by 35 due to losing every pregnancy conceived. Which, of course, is a common condition that is not solved by having younger eggs and there is no cure. OP has no idea if she'll be that person too. |
OP here. I’m not a gold digger. Wanting a guy that makes $100-150k is not a gold digger. Freezing my eggs was a way for more to make sure I had more time and if I’m unable to conceive naturally. It doesn’t mean I will 100% need to use IVF. I have plenty of savings to fund it if I need it. |
OP here. This site is so weird.
If I want to work and hire childcare, I’m a bad mother and I shouldn’t even have kids. But If I want to stay home and raise my kids in the early years, I’m a dependent, gold digger, and looking for a meal ticket. Women can’t win. |