Pros and cons of all boys catholic schools

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Anonymous wrote:My son graduated last yr from Gonzaga. He absolutely loved his 4 yrs on Eye Street and was well prepared for college. Gonzaga is a special place - located in the city on Cap Hill, pulls from over 30 zip codes and has many clubs/sports/music/theatre for every interest.

That's great. But the best schools in the country are coed. Why do you think it wouldn't have done better at a better coed school? This discussion is meant to help people decide what they should do with themselves or their children. Did your son want to go their and want to be there? That might be the most important part about this debate. If he did great, but the best schools are still coed.

What is your definition of “best schools”?

This! “Google and Niche”

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I'm having trouble understanding why a parent wouldn't want their boys learning to be comfortable with a co-ed learning environment, given that colleges, graduate schools, and workplaces all tend to include both men and women. A child coming out of a single sex environment will always, necessarily, be less well prepared for the real world.

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Anonymous wrote:My boy cousins went to all boys catholic and notably said that it was hard to focus in college classes because they weren’t used to having classes with girls. That stuck with me and we are going coed for our kids. Although we also know all boys school grads who were fine.

My sons did public K-8 and then all-boy Catholic HS. Zero issues with focusing in college. That's weird to me. In 8th grade, however, it was a real thing for my second son--but he was 13 and raging puberty.

+1 My boys have been around girls their whole lives, they just didn't have classes with them for 9 months of 4 years. No problem in college (why would that even be a thing, lol?).

Because it is the most important time in life to be around the opposite sex. All boys schools lead to higher rates of depression and anxiety. If you want private, do private coed.
Private coed schools are the best schools in the country for a reason.

Please cite your source of this information.

You can Google best private high schools in the US. Niche has a list and the overwhelming number of them are coed. This isnt a secret.

This isn’t true. Some are coed and some are single sex. This is clearly personal for you.

You have chosen not to look at the list.

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Why would you want a Catholic school to be all boys when the Catholic Church has an extensive and world wide history of abusing boys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm having trouble understanding why a parent wouldn't want their boys learning to be comfortable with a co-ed learning environment, given that colleges, graduate schools, and workplaces all tend to include both men and women. A child coming out of a single sex environment will always, necessarily, be less well prepared for the real world.

Parents may like a school that happens to be all-boys instead of actually seeking an all-boys school just because it’s all-boys.

The real question is whether parents should opt against an all-boys (or all-girls) school they otherwise like for a coed school they feel less strongly about as a matter of principle. That’s certainly defensible but hardly the obvious best choice.

On the less prepared point, maybe. But that is easily addressed after a few months at a (likely) coed college. So it would be one more adjustment on top of everything else. Then life goes on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would you want a Catholic school to be all boys when the Catholic Church has an extensive and world wide history of abusing boys.

This is a solid point that should get discussed 1000% more than it does. But the catholic church has abused girls as well. I get what your saying though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would you want a Catholic school to be all boys when the Catholic Church has an extensive and world wide history of abusing boys.

Because the schools are almost all lay people? It’s nothing like it was 50 years ago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm having trouble understanding why a parent wouldn't want their boys learning to be comfortable with a co-ed learning environment, given that colleges, graduate schools, and workplaces all tend to include both men and women. A child coming out of a single sex environment will always, necessarily, be less well prepared for the real world.

My son went to a co-ed school until 8th grade and is a freshman at an all boys school. It’s not like he’s never seen a girl before lol or forgets what they are like. He has a sister too. The all boys environment is great for him. It’s not for everyone. And nobody worries about girls at an all girls school not knowing how to deal with men.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why would you want a Catholic school to be all boys when the Catholic Church has an extensive and world wide history of abusing boys.

Because the schools are almost all lay people? It’s nothing like it was 50 years ago.

And American Protestants have a history of enslaving blacks, so?

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Anonymous wrote:Why would you want a Catholic school to be all boys when the Catholic Church has an extensive and world wide history of abusing boys.

Because the schools are almost all lay people? It’s nothing like it was 50 years ago.

And American Protestants have a history of enslaving blacks, so?

Name an organization that deals with children and you'll find abuse.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm having trouble understanding why a parent wouldn't want their boys learning to be comfortable with a co-ed learning environment, given that colleges, graduate schools, and workplaces all tend to include both men and women. A child coming out of a single sex environment will always, necessarily, be less well prepared for the real world.

And nobody worries about girls at an all girls school not knowing how to deal with men.

Why are you assuming that I'd have this concern about an all boys school and not about an all girls school?

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Almost every private Hs school, especially Catholic HSs, were single sex when I was min HS near Philly. The boys (and girls) all managed to attend co-ed collleges and go on to work in co-ed work environments. It did not hold anyone back.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm having trouble understanding why a parent wouldn't want their boys learning to be comfortable with a co-ed learning environment, given that colleges, graduate schools, and workplaces all tend to include both men and women. A child coming out of a single sex environment will always, necessarily, be less well prepared for the real world.

And nobody worries about girls at an all girls school not knowing how to deal with men.

Why are you assuming that I'd have this concern about an all boys school and not about an all girls school?

Because colleges include men and women but no concern was expressed for the oppressed women who haven't been around boys until college.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm having trouble understanding why a parent wouldn't want their boys learning to be comfortable with a co-ed learning environment, given that colleges, graduate schools, and workplaces all tend to include both men and women. A child coming out of a single sex environment will always, necessarily, be less well prepared for the real world.

And nobody worries about girls at an all girls school not knowing how to deal with men.

Why are you assuming that I'd have this concern about an all boys school and not about an all girls school?

Because colleges include men and women but no concern was expressed for the oppressed women who haven't been around boys until college.

To quote my original comment: "A child coming out of a single sex environment will always, necessarily, be less well prepared for the real world." I don't think boys coming out of an all-boys environment OR girls coming out of an all-girls environment are as well prepared as they should be for what comes next. The transition to college is already a challenging one, I see no reason to make it yet more challenging for my children.

[Anonymous]

DS went to an all boys schools -- for him it was a good fit, socially challenging at times as he is moderately athletic...but he found his friend group. He has said he was more comfortable stepping out of his comfort zone and also showing his nerdy side w/o worrying about what a girl would think. Gonzaga, boys' only schools, are unique. The guys supported each other. Not sure how many places you go where the rugby team shows up to support a teammate in the school play....