nonpressure cooker/well adjusted yet prestigious schools

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Anonymous wrote:So no schools in the top 25 or so that are NOT pressure cookers? Really?

By nature of being the top 25, of course they are pressure cookers.

And the mindset of the kids that make it in are not related Ed.

You are looking for a unicorn.
Consider seeking healthy balance instead of prestige for your child. One leads to a more solid foundation.

Hi I would like a universally recognized elite college attracting the highest achievers in the world, and you need perfect grades/scores to even enter the lottery to get in but NO PRESSURE and also NO COMPETITION once there.

Next up, find me a house in perfect condition in a great neighborhood that’s super safe with great schools and short commutes, but UNDER MARKET PRICE.

OP here, and I hear you. Does it hurt to ask?
I don't think it's an inherently insane idea that a good school might also be prestigious, and also not a pressure cooker.

Curious what you think “prestige” is and what it’s based on?

OKAY: LET"S CHANGE THE QUESTION:
GOOD SCHOOLS THAT HAVE AND ENCOURAGE WELL-ADJUSTED STUDENTS WHO AREN"T KILLING THEMSELVES TO COMPETE WITH EACH OTHER AND LEARN AND WHO SET KIDS UP FOR A HAPPY PERSONAL AND PROFESSIONAL LIFE TO THE EXTENT POSSIBLE

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Anonymous wrote:So no schools in the top 25 or so that are NOT pressure cookers? Really?

By nature of being the top 25, of course they are pressure cookers.

And the mindset of the kids that make it in are not related Ed.

You are looking for a unicorn.
Consider seeking healthy balance instead of prestige for your child. One leads to a more solid foundation.

Hi I would like a universally recognized elite college attracting the highest achievers in the world, and you need perfect grades/scores to even enter the lottery to get in but NO PRESSURE and also NO COMPETITION once there.

Next up, find me a house in perfect condition in a great neighborhood that’s super safe with great schools and short commutes, but UNDER MARKET PRICE.

OP here, and I hear you. Does it hurt to ask?
I don't think it's an inherently insane idea that a good school might also be prestigious, and also not a pressure cooker.

Curious what you think “prestige” is and what it’s based on?

OKAY: LET"S CHANGE THE QUESTION:
GOOD SCHOOLS THAT HAVE AND ENCOURAGE WELL-ADJUSTED STUDENTS WHO AREN"T KILLING THEMSELVES TO COMPETE WITH EACH OTHER AND LEARN AND WHO SET KIDS UP FOR A HAPPY PERSONAL AND PROFESSIONAL LIFE TO THE EXTENT POSSIBLE

On a regular basis there are threads here that discuss schools that aren't pressure cookers. The only difference is that they don't stipulate T25. Here's one that I found, I'm sure you'll find others if you do a search: https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1165913.page

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Anonymous wrote:So no schools in the top 25 or so that are NOT pressure cookers? Really?

By nature of being the top 25, of course they are pressure cookers.

And the mindset of the kids that make it in are not related Ed.

You are looking for a unicorn.
Consider seeking healthy balance instead of prestige for your child. One leads to a more solid foundation.

Hi I would like a universally recognized elite college attracting the highest achievers in the world, and you need perfect grades/scores to even enter the lottery to get in but NO PRESSURE and also NO COMPETITION once there.

Next up, find me a house in perfect condition in a great neighborhood that’s super safe with great schools and short commutes, but UNDER MARKET PRICE.

OP here, and I hear you. Does it hurt to ask?
I don't think it's an inherently insane idea that a good school might also be prestigious, and also not a pressure cooker.

Curious what you think “prestige” is and what it’s based on?

OKAY: LET"S CHANGE THE QUESTION:
GOOD SCHOOLS THAT HAVE AND ENCOURAGE WELL-ADJUSTED STUDENTS WHO AREN"T KILLING THEMSELVES TO COMPETE WITH EACH OTHER AND LEARN AND WHO SET KIDS UP FOR A HAPPY PERSONAL AND PROFESSIONAL LIFE TO THE EXTENT POSSIBLE

Think it’s this list minus UCLA, Michigan, UVA bc think those kids are Ivy rejects and feel like they have to grind to prove something?

Rice
Vanderbilt
Dartmouth
Emory
USC
UIUC
Wisco
Wake
Santa Clara
UMiami
Tulane

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Bucknell is a good choice.

For what?

For what the OP is looking for. Prestigious but not too high-stress.

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Anonymous wrote:So no schools in the top 25 or so that are NOT pressure cookers? Really?

By nature of being the top 25, of course they are pressure cookers.

And the mindset of the kids that make it in are not related Ed.

You are looking for a unicorn.
Consider seeking healthy balance instead of prestige for your child. One leads to a more solid foundation.

Hi I would like a universally recognized elite college attracting the highest achievers in the world, and you need perfect grades/scores to even enter the lottery to get in but NO PRESSURE and also NO COMPETITION once there.

Next up, find me a house in perfect condition in a great neighborhood that’s super safe with great schools and short commutes, but UNDER MARKET PRICE.

OP here, and I hear you. Does it hurt to ask?
I don't think it's an inherently insane idea that a good school might also be prestigious, and also not a pressure cooker.

Curious what you think “prestige” is and what it’s based on?

OKAY: LET"S CHANGE THE QUESTION:
GOOD SCHOOLS THAT HAVE AND ENCOURAGE WELL-ADJUSTED STUDENTS WHO AREN"T KILLING THEMSELVES TO COMPETE WITH EACH OTHER AND LEARN AND WHO SET KIDS UP FOR A HAPPY PERSONAL AND PROFESSIONAL LIFE TO THE EXTENT POSSIBLE

Think it’s this list minus UCLA, Michigan, UVA bc think those kids are Ivy rejects and feel like they have to grind to prove something?

Rice
Vanderbilt
Dartmouth
Emory
USC
UIUC
Wisco
Wake
Santa Clara
UMiami
Tulane

Agree, add a few safeties, and target the rest of the list based on desired majors, and this could be a solid application list.

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Two kids at Stanford --- among them undergrad, grad and postgrad. They work[ed] hard but have an active life outside of academics with friends. Yes, there are grinders but also plenty of chill people. A plus, easy access to faculty, even as undergrads.

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Anonymous wrote:So no schools in the top 25 or so that are NOT pressure cookers? Really?

By nature of being the top 25, of course they are pressure cookers.

And the mindset of the kids that make it in are not related Ed.

You are looking for a unicorn.
Consider seeking healthy balance instead of prestige for your child. One leads to a more solid foundation.

Hi I would like a universally recognized elite college attracting the highest achievers in the world, and you need perfect grades/scores to even enter the lottery to get in but NO PRESSURE and also NO COMPETITION once there.

Next up, find me a house in perfect condition in a great neighborhood that’s super safe with great schools and short commutes, but UNDER MARKET PRICE.

OP here, and I hear you. Does it hurt to ask?
I don't think it's an inherently insane idea that a good school might also be prestigious, and also not a pressure cooker.

Curious what you think “prestige” is and what it’s based on?

OKAY: LET"S CHANGE THE QUESTION:
GOOD SCHOOLS THAT HAVE AND ENCOURAGE WELL-ADJUSTED STUDENTS WHO AREN"T KILLING THEMSELVES TO COMPETE WITH EACH OTHER AND LEARN AND WHO SET KIDS UP FOR A HAPPY PERSONAL AND PROFESSIONAL LIFE TO THE EXTENT POSSIBLE

Think it’s this list minus UCLA, Michigan, UVA bc think those kids are Ivy rejects and feel like they have to grind to prove something?

Rice
Vanderbilt
Dartmouth
Emory
USC
UIUC
Wisco
Wake
Santa Clara
UMiami
Tulane

I’m using this list!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So no schools in the top 25 or so that are NOT pressure cookers? Really?

By nature of being the top 25, of course they are pressure cookers.

And the mindset of the kids that make it in are not related Ed.

You are looking for a unicorn.
Consider seeking healthy balance instead of prestige for your child. One leads to a more solid foundation.

Hi I would like a universally recognized elite college attracting the highest achievers in the world, and you need perfect grades/scores to even enter the lottery to get in but NO PRESSURE and also NO COMPETITION once there.

Next up, find me a house in perfect condition in a great neighborhood that’s super safe with great schools and short commutes, but UNDER MARKET PRICE.

OP here, and I hear you. Does it hurt to ask?
I don't think it's an inherently insane idea that a good school might also be prestigious, and also not a pressure cooker.

Curious what you think “prestige” is and what it’s based on?

OKAY: LET"S CHANGE THE QUESTION:
GOOD SCHOOLS THAT HAVE AND ENCOURAGE WELL-ADJUSTED STUDENTS WHO AREN"T KILLING THEMSELVES TO COMPETE WITH EACH OTHER AND LEARN AND WHO SET KIDS UP FOR A HAPPY PERSONAL AND PROFESSIONAL LIFE TO THE EXTENT POSSIBLE

Think it’s this list minus UCLA, Michigan, UVA bc think those kids are Ivy rejects and feel like they have to grind to prove something?

Rice
Vanderbilt
Dartmouth
Emory
USC
UIUC
Wisco
Wake
Santa Clara
UMiami
Tulane

I’m using this list!

In don't have a kid in the upcoming cycle, but I would use the list too :)

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Anonymous wrote:So no schools in the top 25 or so that are NOT pressure cookers? Really?

By nature of being the top 25, of course they are pressure cookers.

And the mindset of the kids that make it in are not related Ed.

You are looking for a unicorn.
Consider seeking healthy balance instead of prestige for your child. One leads to a more solid foundation.

Hi I would like a universally recognized elite college attracting the highest achievers in the world, and you need perfect grades/scores to even enter the lottery to get in but NO PRESSURE and also NO COMPETITION once there.

Next up, find me a house in perfect condition in a great neighborhood that’s super safe with great schools and short commutes, but UNDER MARKET PRICE.

OP here, and I hear you. Does it hurt to ask?
I don't think it's an inherently insane idea that a good school might also be prestigious, and also not a pressure cooker.

Curious what you think “prestige” is and what it’s based on?

OKAY: LET"S CHANGE THE QUESTION:
GOOD SCHOOLS THAT HAVE AND ENCOURAGE WELL-ADJUSTED STUDENTS WHO AREN"T KILLING THEMSELVES TO COMPETE WITH EACH OTHER AND LEARN AND WHO SET KIDS UP FOR A HAPPY PERSONAL AND PROFESSIONAL LIFE TO THE EXTENT POSSIBLE

Think it’s this list minus UCLA, Michigan, UVA bc think those kids are Ivy rejects and feel like they have to grind to prove something?

Rice
Vanderbilt
Dartmouth
Emory
USC
UIUC
Wisco
Wake
Santa Clara
UMiami
Tulane

Agree, add a few safeties, and target the rest of the list based on desired majors, and this could be a solid application list.

Do not agree. DC currently attending one of these with admit rate in the single digits.

Think, people. A school that rejects 93% of applicants (without games NEU) is not likely to be a joyous place — even south of the Mason-Dixon line

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Anonymous wrote:So no schools in the top 25 or so that are NOT pressure cookers? Really?

By nature of being the top 25, of course they are pressure cookers.

And the mindset of the kids that make it in are not related Ed.

You are looking for a unicorn.
Consider seeking healthy balance instead of prestige for your child. One leads to a more solid foundation.

Hi I would like a universally recognized elite college attracting the highest achievers in the world, and you need perfect grades/scores to even enter the lottery to get in but NO PRESSURE and also NO COMPETITION once there.

Next up, find me a house in perfect condition in a great neighborhood that’s super safe with great schools and short commutes, but UNDER MARKET PRICE.

OP here, and I hear you. Does it hurt to ask?
I don't think it's an inherently insane idea that a good school might also be prestigious, and also not a pressure cooker.

Curious what you think “prestige” is and what it’s based on?

OKAY: LET"S CHANGE THE QUESTION:
GOOD SCHOOLS THAT HAVE AND ENCOURAGE WELL-ADJUSTED STUDENTS WHO AREN"T KILLING THEMSELVES TO COMPETE WITH EACH OTHER AND LEARN AND WHO SET KIDS UP FOR A HAPPY PERSONAL AND PROFESSIONAL LIFE TO THE EXTENT POSSIBLE

Think it’s this list minus UCLA, Michigan, UVA bc think those kids are Ivy rejects and feel like they have to grind to prove something?

Rice
Vanderbilt
Dartmouth
Emory
USC
UIUC
Wisco
Wake
Santa Clara
UMiami
Tulane

Agree, add a few safeties, and target the rest of the list based on desired majors, and this could be a solid application list.

Do not agree. DC currently attending one of these with admit rate in the single digits.

Think, people. A school that rejects 93% of applicants (without games NEU) is not likely to be a joyous place — even south of the Mason-Dixon line

The kids that I know that are miserable at Vanderbilt are not social. If you were a social person, you will be fine.

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Anonymous wrote:So no schools in the top 25 or so that are NOT pressure cookers? Really?

By nature of being the top 25, of course they are pressure cookers.

And the mindset of the kids that make it in are not related Ed.

You are looking for a unicorn.
Consider seeking healthy balance instead of prestige for your child. One leads to a more solid foundation.

Hi I would like a universally recognized elite college attracting the highest achievers in the world, and you need perfect grades/scores to even enter the lottery to get in but NO PRESSURE and also NO COMPETITION once there.

Next up, find me a house in perfect condition in a great neighborhood that’s super safe with great schools and short commutes, but UNDER MARKET PRICE.

OP here, and I hear you. Does it hurt to ask?
I don't think it's an inherently insane idea that a good school might also be prestigious, and also not a pressure cooker.

Curious what you think “prestige” is and what it’s based on?

OKAY: LET"S CHANGE THE QUESTION:
GOOD SCHOOLS THAT HAVE AND ENCOURAGE WELL-ADJUSTED STUDENTS WHO AREN"T KILLING THEMSELVES TO COMPETE WITH EACH OTHER AND LEARN AND WHO SET KIDS UP FOR A HAPPY PERSONAL AND PROFESSIONAL LIFE TO THE EXTENT POSSIBLE

Think it’s this list minus UCLA, Michigan, UVA bc think those kids are Ivy rejects and feel like they have to grind to prove something?

Rice
Vanderbilt
Dartmouth
Emory
USC
UIUC
Wisco
Wake
Santa Clara
UMiami
Tulane

Agree, add a few safeties, and target the rest of the list based on desired majors, and this could be a solid application list.

Do not agree. DC currently attending one of these with admit rate in the single digits.

Think, people. A school that rejects 93% of applicants (without games NEU) is not likely to be a joyous place — even south of the Mason-Dixon line

The kids that I know that are miserable at Vanderbilt are not social. If you were a social person, you will be fine.

How many kids do you personally know who are attending Vanderbilt?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So no schools in the top 25 or so that are NOT pressure cookers? Really?

By nature of being the top 25, of course they are pressure cookers.

And the mindset of the kids that make it in are not related Ed.

You are looking for a unicorn.
Consider seeking healthy balance instead of prestige for your child. One leads to a more solid foundation.

Hi I would like a universally recognized elite college attracting the highest achievers in the world, and you need perfect grades/scores to even enter the lottery to get in but NO PRESSURE and also NO COMPETITION once there.

Next up, find me a house in perfect condition in a great neighborhood that’s super safe with great schools and short commutes, but UNDER MARKET PRICE.

OP here, and I hear you. Does it hurt to ask?
I don't think it's an inherently insane idea that a good school might also be prestigious, and also not a pressure cooker.

Curious what you think “prestige” is and what it’s based on?

OKAY: LET"S CHANGE THE QUESTION:
GOOD SCHOOLS THAT HAVE AND ENCOURAGE WELL-ADJUSTED STUDENTS WHO AREN"T KILLING THEMSELVES TO COMPETE WITH EACH OTHER AND LEARN AND WHO SET KIDS UP FOR A HAPPY PERSONAL AND PROFESSIONAL LIFE TO THE EXTENT POSSIBLE

Think it’s this list minus UCLA, Michigan, UVA bc think those kids are Ivy rejects and feel like they have to grind to prove something?

Rice
Vanderbilt
Dartmouth
Emory
USC
UIUC
Wisco
Wake
Santa Clara
UMiami
Tulane

Agree, add a few safeties, and target the rest of the list based on desired majors, and this could be a solid application list.

Do not agree. DC currently attending one of these with admit rate in the single digits.

Think, people. A school that rejects 93% of applicants (without games NEU) is not likely to be a joyous place — even south of the Mason-Dixon line

The kids that I know that are miserable at Vanderbilt are not social. If you were a social person, you will be fine.

A good point. If child wasn’t social in high school, unlikely to start in college.

Mine go out every weekend with friends and still have stellar grades and scores. I’d expect them to have vibrant collegiate social lives.

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Anonymous wrote:So no schools in the top 25 or so that are NOT pressure cookers? Really?

By nature of being the top 25, of course they are pressure cookers.

And the mindset of the kids that make it in are not related Ed.

You are looking for a unicorn.
Consider seeking healthy balance instead of prestige for your child. One leads to a more solid foundation.

Hi I would like a universally recognized elite college attracting the highest achievers in the world, and you need perfect grades/scores to even enter the lottery to get in but NO PRESSURE and also NO COMPETITION once there.

Next up, find me a house in perfect condition in a great neighborhood that’s super safe with great schools and short commutes, but UNDER MARKET PRICE.

OP here, and I hear you. Does it hurt to ask?
I don't think it's an inherently insane idea that a good school might also be prestigious, and also not a pressure cooker.

Curious what you think “prestige” is and what it’s based on?

OKAY: LET"S CHANGE THE QUESTION:
GOOD SCHOOLS THAT HAVE AND ENCOURAGE WELL-ADJUSTED STUDENTS WHO AREN"T KILLING THEMSELVES TO COMPETE WITH EACH OTHER AND LEARN AND WHO SET KIDS UP FOR A HAPPY PERSONAL AND PROFESSIONAL LIFE TO THE EXTENT POSSIBLE

Think it’s this list minus UCLA, Michigan, UVA bc think those kids are Ivy rejects and feel like they have to grind to prove something?

Rice
Vanderbilt
Dartmouth
Emory
USC
UIUC
Wisco
Wake
Santa Clara
UMiami
Tulane

Agree, add a few safeties, and target the rest of the list based on desired majors, and this could be a solid application list.

Do not agree. DC currently attending one of these with admit rate in the single digits.

Think, people. A school that rejects 93% of applicants (without games NEU) is not likely to be a joyous place — even south of the Mason-Dixon line

The kids that I know that are miserable at Vanderbilt are not social. If you were a social person, you will be fine.

How many kids do you personally know who are attending Vanderbilt?

Quite a few from our non-DMV private over last 3 years.
Attracts a certain type of student with similar qualities.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So no schools in the top 25 or so that are NOT pressure cookers? Really?

By nature of being the top 25, of course they are pressure cookers.

And the mindset of the kids that make it in are not related Ed.

You are looking for a unicorn.
Consider seeking healthy balance instead of prestige for your child. One leads to a more solid foundation.

Hi I would like a universally recognized elite college attracting the highest achievers in the world, and you need perfect grades/scores to even enter the lottery to get in but NO PRESSURE and also NO COMPETITION once there.

Next up, find me a house in perfect condition in a great neighborhood that’s super safe with great schools and short commutes, but UNDER MARKET PRICE.

OP here, and I hear you. Does it hurt to ask?
I don't think it's an inherently insane idea that a good school might also be prestigious, and also not a pressure cooker.

Curious what you think “prestige” is and what it’s based on?

OKAY: LET"S CHANGE THE QUESTION:
GOOD SCHOOLS THAT HAVE AND ENCOURAGE WELL-ADJUSTED STUDENTS WHO AREN"T KILLING THEMSELVES TO COMPETE WITH EACH OTHER AND LEARN AND WHO SET KIDS UP FOR A HAPPY PERSONAL AND PROFESSIONAL LIFE TO THE EXTENT POSSIBLE

Think it’s this list minus UCLA, Michigan, UVA bc think those kids are Ivy rejects and feel like they have to grind to prove something?

Rice
Vanderbilt
Dartmouth
Emory
USC
UIUC
Wisco
Wake
Santa Clara
UMiami
Tulane

Agree, add a few safeties, and target the rest of the list based on desired majors, and this could be a solid application list.

Do not agree. DC currently attending one of these with admit rate in the single digits.

Think, people. A school that rejects 93% of applicants (without games NEU) is not likely to be a joyous place — even south of the Mason-Dixon line

The kids that I know that are miserable at Vanderbilt are not social. If you were a social person, you will be fine.

How many kids do you personally know who are attending Vanderbilt?

Sounds like Vandy not a good “fit” for your kid?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So no schools in the top 25 or so that are NOT pressure cookers? Really?

By nature of being the top 25, of course they are pressure cookers.

And the mindset of the kids that make it in are not related Ed.

You are looking for a unicorn.
Consider seeking healthy balance instead of prestige for your child. One leads to a more solid foundation.

Hi I would like a universally recognized elite college attracting the highest achievers in the world, and you need perfect grades/scores to even enter the lottery to get in but NO PRESSURE and also NO COMPETITION once there.

Next up, find me a house in perfect condition in a great neighborhood that’s super safe with great schools and short commutes, but UNDER MARKET PRICE.

In France, the Grande Ecoles have a 3% admission rate, a 0% flunk out rate, and a 97% placement rate. One you're in, you're set. I dunno whether that exists in the US.