Nanny asked me to not talk during Music Together class.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I defined her as a nanny because she was not the one paying for the class and she’s not the one desperately lonely and in need of adult conversation during the day!!! I don’t think if her as the help!!!

No one is chastising you for desperately needing adult conversation. Everyone is criticizing you for WHERE you choose to have that conversation. If you need the conversation, take it out in the hallway, to a park, playground or coffee shop. It's obnoxious to go to a class that other people paid to attend, and then to be disruptive by talking through it. I don't care if you were quiet or not, you were wrong. You can choose not to pay attention to the class, but you don't get to interfere with other people getting their money's worth out of a class they paid for.

You are lucky, she spoke to you after class. I would have just loudly shushed you in class thereby using public humiliation to drive home just how wrong you were.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I defined her as a nanny because she was not the one paying for the class and she’s not the one desperately lonely and in need of adult conversation during the day!!! I don’t think if her as the help!!!

Oh this is rich. A SAHM with a breadwinner DH claiming her lot in life is worse than a (most likely underpaid) nanny.

I agree w your sentiment but a lot of nannies, mine included, are well respected and very highly paid.

No matter how much she is paid, she is still working for her living, versus you, where you earn your keep by whatever has inspired your DH to foot your bills.

Really?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I defined her as a nanny because she was not the one paying for the class and she’s not the one desperately lonely and in need of adult conversation during the day!!! I don’t think if her as the help!!!

I think people are being hard on you. If you only spoke briefly and softly, I think everyone needs to relax. People forget what it’s like to be home all day with a young child (or they never did it so can’t relate). It’s tough and sometimes you make friends in a toddler music class & want to say hi for a quick minute.

You "say hi for a quick minute" before or after the music class. Stop with the excuses and don't be rude.

[Anonymous]

Get together before or after for a chat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is definitely a troll post.

But my contribution to this is that I absolutely hated music together. Seems like I’m the only one 🤣🤷🏼‍♀️

The teacher can make the class. When my oldest went, her teacher was not only a gifted musician, but truly insightful about the needs of younger children and how they learn. I was sad that she was no longer in the area when I had my second.

[Anonymous]

This is a joke, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is definitely a troll post.

But my contribution to this is that I absolutely hated music together. Seems like I’m the only one 🤣🤷🏼‍♀️

I hated Music Together because it was corny and the teacher was annoying. I also hated the people who talked during Music Together because they were rude.

[Anonymous]

Strong opinions from people who were not there

[Anonymous]

Those classes are so ridiculously overpriced. I would be pissed if I had to listen to your neighborhood gossip all class long. I find it really hard to concentrate when there are multiple conversations going on and I guess the nanny feels the same way. Good for her for speaking to you directly instead of tattling to the the teacher.

Take your chit chat to the coffee shop or playground after class.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I defined her as a nanny because she was not the one paying for the class and she’s not the one desperately lonely and in need of adult conversation during the day!!! I don’t think if her as the help!!!

I’m sorry you are lonely - but a class based on listening and interacting and singing along with your child is not the place to have a conversation. There are a few minutes before and after class where you can chat and ask someone to go to a playground or grab lunch together. There are other co-op preschools, meet-ups, and mom groups that are literally designed for chatting parents.

[Anonymous]

You're treating her as lesser than because she's a nanny.

Because of this I'm inclined to think you are probably being rude during the class. So cut out your conversation and go out with your friend to a Starbucks after the class to catch up.

Examine your classism.

[Anonymous]

The nanny was right. Good for her for saying something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My friend and I take our toddlers to a Music Together class. We weren’t talking loudly and certainly were not talking during the whole class. When we were leaving this nanny came up to me and asked me to please not talk to my friend during class. The teacher never said anything so we clearly weren’t bothering her. I was kinda speechless when this nanny scolded me!

Was she rude? WWYD?

NO but clearly you and your friends were. You were in fact talking way more loudly than you thought and the instructor probably was hoping you all would self monitor since you are adults. You were speechless bc you were embarrassed and still are because you are going on about it being a nanny who told you. Just accept you did the wrong thing and got called out. Do better in the future.

[Anonymous]

I’ve been taking my toddler to Music Together for the last year. Nothing worse than moms that talk through class! So distracting and rude to the teacher.

[Anonymous]

10 years later I still can sing “Hello, everybody!”
OP, as others have said, she was nice to ask you politely afterwards. You should not talk during class. Do you want to model good behavior for the kids? Do you want to be courteous to others in the room? Just ask that mom if she wants to hit the park or playground afterwards.