Alcohol at child's birthday party

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like it's the norm here. I admit I'm not a huge fan, mostly because it seems wild that people can't even enjoy a kids' birthday party without a drink. But it's not like any obvious harm comes from it.

I’ve never attended a kids birthday party here (DC area) where anything other than La Croix & organic juice boxes were served.

And I live in NYC where I’ve never been to a kid’s party that didn’t have wine or cocktails.

+1 except I'd say wine and beer, not so much cocktails

[Anonymous]

This is a class thing. I'll leave it at that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel like it's the norm here. I admit I'm not a huge fan, mostly because it seems wild that people can't even enjoy a kids' birthday party without a drink. But it's not like any obvious harm comes from it.

Drunk driving = no obvious harm. Who knew!

If you can't have one drink at a time or designate someone in your party to be a DD you might have a drinking problem. Something to think about.

I do not drink at all. But I know a lot of people who do not stop at one glass of wine or one beer. In my opinion, a parent should be able to drink non-alcoholic beverages. at a child's party. Apparently, you have a drinking problem. Something for you to think about before you drive because you are legally drunk from two glasses of wine or two beers. You keep thinking before you kill someone.

Sound like you need a bit more education on BAC, which is affected by weight, gender, each person's level of natural alcohol converting enzymes, stomach content while drinking, and time.

https://firststepnc.com/blood-alcohol-content-calculator/

Rationazation of a drunk who just guzzles.

[Anonymous]

In my friend group, the kids' birthday parties always have wine and beer for the parents. Mimosas if it's before lunch. It has never seemed weird to me. It's a social event for the parents, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a class thing. I'll leave it at that.

I don't think so? I'm solidly UMC, as are my DC friends, and their kids' parties always have mimosas or rose or IPAs for the parents.

My DH's extended family is working class and Hispanic and all their kids' birthdays are big family events with beer and margaritas.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a class thing. I'll leave it at that.

I don't think so? I'm solidly UMC, as are my DC friends, and their kids' parties always have mimosas or rose or IPAs for the parents.

My DH's extended family is working class and Hispanic and all their kids' birthdays are big family events with beer and margaritas.

PP- that's my point. This is an UMC thing. Hispanic families of all classes too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like it's the norm here. I admit I'm not a huge fan, mostly because it seems wild that people can't even enjoy a kids' birthday party without a drink. But it's not like any obvious harm comes from it.

+1 Seems to be the norm at private pools as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just don’t like the idea of drinking and driving.

+1 with kids also.

I remember being at a pool party and it was hot. A few of the adults were drinking to much but most everybody lived in the neighborhood so they walked. The thing I remember most about that party was my aggravation that the host provided little to drink other than alcohol and how awful it is trying to have a conversation with a person who is buzzed.

[Anonymous]

This is common at large, non-dropoff parties where the parents invite their own friends in addition to the child's playmates. Usually before the kids are school age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel like it's the norm here. I admit I'm not a huge fan, mostly because it seems wild that people can't even enjoy a kids' birthday party without a drink. But it's not like any obvious harm comes from it.

I don't think the fact that it is served or consumed means that people "can't even enjoy a kids' birthday party without a drink." Do you say the same about juice boxes or pretzels if they are served? "So wild that people can't even enjoy a party without stuffing their faces with pretzels..."

I don't like to drink alcohol during the day so I don't partake, but I have served it at a couple of our kids' backyard afternoon parties. No big deal and certainly no one is getting hammered.

No because I literally think people have gotten to the point where they cannot enjoy social events without alcohol. It’s not served to be a good host, it’s served so people don’t hate being there. Nobody is going to think a birthday party is crap if there are no alcoholic drinks, but it’s standard to offer snacks and drinks.

Just my opinion! And I don’t exactly blame them, it is just engrained in our culture.

Counterpoint - no, you don't.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I just don’t like the idea of drinking and driving.

+1 with kids also.

I remember being at a pool party and it was hot. A few of the adults were drinking to much but most everybody lived in the neighborhood so they walked. The thing I remember most about that party was my aggravation that the host provided little to drink other than alcohol and how awful it is trying to have a conversation with a person who is buzzed.

Maybe it's you sweetie.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel like it's the norm here. I admit I'm not a huge fan, mostly because it seems wild that people can't even enjoy a kids' birthday party without a drink. But it's not like any obvious harm comes from it.

Drunk driving = no obvious harm. Who knew!

If you can't have one drink at a time or designate someone in your party to be a DD you might have a drinking problem. Something to think about.

I do not drink at all. But I know a lot of people who do not stop at one glass of wine or one beer. In my opinion, a parent should be able to drink non-alcoholic beverages. at a child's party. Apparently, you have a drinking problem. Something for you to think about before you drive because you are legally drunk from two glasses of wine or two beers. You keep thinking before you kill someone.

Are you under the impression that the wine was mandatory? Parents can drink alcohol, or non-alcoholic beverages. Their choice.

[Anonymous]

It really depends on the party, OP.

Late afternoon, backyard free for all? Sure, we have a variety of beverages for grownups, including but not limited to alcohol.

Early afternoon pool party? No. Same for a party at the local playground or indoor play place (back when those were a thing). I briefly considered bringing alcohol for a pool party we recently hosted, and instead opted for a bunch of different seltzers and sodas. No one seemed offended and if they were, that’s their problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel like it's the norm here. I admit I'm not a huge fan, mostly because it seems wild that people can't even enjoy a kids' birthday party without a drink. But it's not like any obvious harm comes from it.

Drunk driving = no obvious harm. Who knew!

If you can't have one drink at a time or designate someone in your party to be a DD you might have a drinking problem. Something to think about.

I do not drink at all. But I know a lot of people who do not stop at one glass of wine or one beer. In my opinion, a parent should be able to drink non-alcoholic beverages. at a child's party. Apparently, you have a drinking problem. Something for you to think about before you drive because you are legally drunk from two glasses of wine or two beers. You keep thinking before you kill someone.

So you have no ability to judge any of this, since you are clearly quite sanctimonious about it. Either you have a drinking problem and that's your issue, or you have zero experience. Be sure to post back about how you just never enjoyed the taste or whatever lame excuse you generally use.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It really depends on the party, OP.

Late afternoon, backyard free for all? Sure, we have a variety of beverages for grownups, including but not limited to alcohol.

Early afternoon pool party? No. Same for a party at the local playground or indoor play place (back when those were a thing). I briefly considered bringing alcohol for a pool party we recently hosted, and instead opted for a bunch of different seltzers and sodas. No one seemed offended and if they were, that’s their problem.

I would never bat an eye if I went to a kids party and there wasn't alcohol. Nor would I bat an eye if there was. The people getting their panties in a bunch about this clearly have their own issues.