Can your marriage survive another semester of online learning?

[Anonymous]

I know it's probably for the best, and I wouldn't compromise my kids' health, but another semester of only online learning? I'm not sure I will survive let alone my marriage. What about you?

[Anonymous]

DW won't have sex when the kids are awake and is too tired at end of the day. We used to meet for lunch once a week while kids in school. Now that's out.

Sex twice since pandemic, and now no end in sight. The rest of the marriage is like tense roommates.

So no, I don't think we can survive this

[Anonymous]

Yes but I am stressed and our other issues aren’t getting resolved. We will stick with the marriage but I really think this highlights the discrepancy in the roles in our marriage. I work full time and take care of the our child physically and emotionally and he works full time when he wants to (he owns a business and is rarely motivated to go in). It is our child that suffers with a bitchy mom.

[Anonymous]

And the death rate is heading down to .0007.

[Anonymous]

DH and I both teach for MCPS. He’s still undergoing cancer treatments. We’ve gone from planning his early retirement to hoping he got picked for DL to so much relief this evening. It buys us 5 months that he can keep doing what he loves without risking his life.

The kids are in several summer classes and I’m happy with their engagement and the quality of lessons. Our wifi is not happy if 3 or 4 of us are on devices at the same time. We will invest in a higher speed package next month.

We are a bit constrained with sex because of two teens in a small apartment. I was laughing at the thread about the husbands talking a big talk and then doing nothing. We have become experts at flirty texts and eye-f@cking. We did it in the car at 1 am last week. Not eager to repeat that.

[Anonymous]

PP, you go girl!

[Anonymous]

Yes, because DH is out of work, so he picks up the slack.

Silver linings...

[Anonymous]

There will be a lot of divorces soon. It's just an incredible amount of stress for people - we have the health risks to worry about but then we have financial burdens, problems with the kids since they're just OVER IT and aren't allowed to leave the house except for a short walk around the block for months (starting early March for us), there will be a lot more pressure in the future as we try to "make up" all the lost learning and lost income. And then the general feeling that we're not safe in our cities anymore, and many people will feel compelled to move for safety reasons or be forced for financial reasons which is another big stress. It's not going to be pretty.

[Anonymous]

Probably not 😬

[Anonymous]

Yes, it hasn't negatively impacted our marriage or life in any way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know it's probably for the best, and I wouldn't compromise my kids' health, but another semester of only online learning? I'm not sure I will survive let alone my marriage. What about you?

Semester?
Make it a year. If we're lucky.

[Anonymous]

We bought a second vacation home so all is good now.

[Anonymous]

Yes I manage it all, so all the meal and work too. The key is I don’t expect help so I’m not disappointed. When I need help I ask DH, but most of the time I just do it. DS does well and is self managed a great deal, but needs redirection. Optimal situation? No. I just am making it work.

[Anonymous]

I think our marriage will survive, but wow, I feel terrible for these kiddos who still can’t go to school!

[Anonymous]

Never have I been so grateful for our pied a terre aka the office.