I want these days to pass quickly

[Anonymous]

I don’t feel guilty feel about it, though. just want to snap my fingers and be ahead 9 months. I hate nearly every day with my kids, 1 and 4. Every day I wake up and feel dread. If I drank I would be drinking a lot right now to try to numb out and escape. I have external telehealth help like therapy, meds, starting a parent management training soon via PEP, but it doesn’t change the hour after hour of tantrums, territory fights, boredom. I’ve tried to change my attitude, get exercise, have time by myself after kids are in bed — it doesn’t really help.

Ok, my DH-given break is over, gotta get back to it. Thanks for listening.

[Anonymous]

Why isn't DH doing more than "giving you a break" now and then? Why not have a babysitter or parents' helper a few days a week?

[Anonymous]

I understand totally OP (and I do drink, and my kids are a bit older).

[Anonymous]

Honey, what you need is childcare help. Is there a safe way you can find some? A neighborhood teenager? A friend you could trade hours with? A babysitter?

Also I'm sorry and I want to give you a huge hug. Little kids are hard, especially in this relentless time we're in. Give yourself some Grace.

[Anonymous]

I understand. Hugs.

[Anonymous]

What happens in 9 months? Are you with child?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What happens in 9 months? Are you with child?

She's probably hoping by March 2021 kids will be off distance learning and the vaccine will be distributed allowing her to rely on a network of help (hey neighbor, can you pick up Cara afterschool when you go get Jimmy please, I need to get some extra cleaning done) rather than just herself.

[Anonymous]

It’s not going to be better in 9 months. Sorry to say but 2020 is a lost year and 2021 will be too.

[Anonymous]

I feel you, OP. Especially about the boredom - no one talks about that enough.
I hope it gets better for you soon!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s not going to be better in 9 months. Sorry to say but 2020 is a lost year and 2021 will be too.

Oh, stop it

[Anonymous]

I put my (more challenging) kid in a camp this week. It has been a game changer. I dragged my feet out of guilt and a desire to save

[Anonymous]

Whoops--premature post!

...Money, but I'm so glad I took the leap.

I realized that there was a cost to trying to go it alone.

Can you get any child care a?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s not going to be better in 9 months. Sorry to say but 2020 is a lost year and 2021 will be too.

Oh, stop it

Sorry but it’s true. Even if we get a vaccine (which, I do think the news has been positive on that front) a lot of people won’t get it. It will also take a long, long time to reach everyone. You know how things are in this area with the random shortages and long lines for everything. Point is, the stuff that makes life worth living like schools, museums, travel, concerts, sports, seeing your elderly family, etc. won’t be happening. Even with a vaccine, schools will likely still be closed for a good long while.

I am a SAHM of 2 little kids. Prior to becoming a SAHM I had the type of job that would have easily been laid off in conditions where no one is traveling and there is an economic downturn. If I didn’t have my kids I would have probably killed my self by now. They are the only things keeping me going.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s not going to be better in 9 months. Sorry to say but 2020 is a lost year and 2021 will be too.

Oh, stop it

Sorry but it’s true. Even if we get a vaccine (which, I do think the news has been positive on that front) a lot of people won’t get it. It will also take a long, long time to reach everyone. You know how things are in this area with the random shortages and long lines for everything. Point is, the stuff that makes life worth living like schools, museums, travel, concerts, sports, seeing your elderly family, etc. won’t be happening. Even with a vaccine, schools will likely still be closed for a good long while.

I am a SAHM of 2 little kids. Prior to becoming a SAHM I had the type of job that would have easily been laid off in conditions where no one is traveling and there is an economic downturn. If I didn’t have my kids I would have probably killed my self by now. They are the only things keeping me going.

2 things:

1) OP, I feel the same as you. My kids are 2 and 5. And I even have a nanny/ job so I get more alone time than you (but not too much with everyone in the house and the kids wanting my attention)

2) I’m a public health professional and following this incredibly closely and I think in 6-9 months there’s a real chance things could be much better thanks to vaccines AND treatments. PP, people are on the verge of breakdowns. I don’t think the fatalistic approach is helpful and even in the absence of vaccines/ treatments I’m not ready to throw away 2021 (OR all of 2020 for the matter).

[Anonymous]

This is OP, thanks ladies (and possibly gentlemen) for the empathy. (I am not pregnant, just hoping that things will be better in 9 months.)

I definitely need to find some childcare, maybe a mother's helper to take the kids to the park in the morning. I've been looking for camps but haven't found one.

Thank you to the public health professional who gave some hope.

I felt better having written this and checking on people's responses during the day. Hugs to you all too.