ok REALLY embarassing question

[Anonymous]

My husband was in a bad car accident as a teen and although he can walk and has sensation in his lower extremeties, he has never regained full feeling. Because of that, he sometimes has a hard time "finishing" when we have sex because there isn't as much pressure as other methods we use Anyway, sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. On the times it doesn't, do you think it would work to have him ejaculate into something and for me to insert it inside myself? Is this really weird??? I am not getting any younger and I feel like we need to work any possible means...!

[Anonymous]

i have read that at home insemination is possible, but not recommended b/c of the risk of infection. i would not "insert" anything containing sperm. Have both of you been tested by an RE? There are surgical procedures for extracting sperm from your husband if he has trouble ejaculating.

[Anonymous]

If done properly, at home insemination does not have a high risk of infection. People do it all of the time - some under the supervision of a physician. You need a sterile specimen cup, a sterilized syringe (do not use the needle!), and some pre-seed. You can get a child's syringe at the pharmacy if you don't have any from treatments. Make sure that you and DH wash hands thoroughly. Get a couple of pillows qnd prop your hips up on them (I put a towel over them). Draw up the semen slowly (no needle!) to prevent air pockets and put some pre-seed on the outside of the syringe. Get the syringe into place and slowly inject. Depending on the amount of his sample, you may need to inject yourself a couple of times. I have had to use this method a couple of times when my DH couldn't finish things at an important time in my cycle. Actually had to use the method twice this month around ovulation. It will be a miracle if I get pregnant this month, but it makes me feel better knowing I at least tried given the circumstances!!! Good luck!!

[Anonymous]

I have heard of women using instead menstrual cups to help keep the semen near the cervix - both by just inserting one post intercourse, or by actually collecting ejaculate into the cup and then using it. Since these are designed for vaginal insertion at menstruation and you are not actually inserting anything into the uterus but just delivering the semen to the cervical opening, I would think infection risk from their use would be relatively low (and on the same order as infection risk from insertion of a penis into the vagina, i.e. not a level you're probably concerned about).

http://www.softcup.com/

[Anonymous]

I am PP 14:40... Forgot to mention that I stay propped up on the pillows for 20 mins after insertion. The cups PP mentioned are also an option, though one that I have not tried. And, the syringe is also vaginal insertion, so risk of infection would be the same. Good luck!