Covid and FET IVF - super stressed

[Anonymous]

My DH and I have 1 great 5 YO girl that we had via FET IVF at Shady Grove. We have a viable leftover frozen embryo and can implant next month.

DH had a vasectomy many years ago (child from a prior marriage) so our first pregnancy together went fine.

I am 43 and want one more but I'm super stressed about covid and the fact that my DH's ex is not cautious during covid (we share custody).

Last thing I want to do is to go through a pregnancy with the constant stress worrying about contracting covid. My DH says we can wait another 9/12 months if we want but I'm hesitant to do it for a variety of reasons (age gap, my age, etc).

Please, someone talk me off the ledge and insert some sense into me.

[Anonymous]

If you’re “super stressed” about it ALREADY then obviously wait. I personally rarely think about COVID so if it were me I wouldn’t wait, but all the information about COVID is already out there and if you’re in the anxiety-inducing camp then nothing anyone is going to say will change your mind or feelings.

[Anonymous]

OP i feel you. I had a FET of 3 embryos literally the day before lockdown began. I was a mess. But none of them took and I’m thankful I didn’t lose time if I had waited to transfer as I never believed none would implant. (They were untested).

[Anonymous]

I’d do it. If you really want another child, you’ve got to consider your age. Who knows how long COVID will last-it could go on for years for all we know. There are lots of pregnant women having babies and they’re mitigating risk as best possible. I wouldn’t put my hopes and dreams on hold because of a virus.

[Anonymous]

COVIDs not going away any time soon. If you’re not okay waiting two years or more, just go ahead and do it now.

[Anonymous]

I was preparing for an FET around the time Zika first started making headlines and a lot was unknown. That felt scary. Now of course we know a lot more about how to be cautious - but it's still around.

I wouldn't wait, but I would do two things:
1. Come to an agreement with DH's ex regarding exposure. Regardless of a potential pregnancy, you should have an agreement everyone feels safe with.
2. Consider talking to an infertility therapist about your COVID fears. I found a lot of my health anxiety was actually fears about the FET not working and how crushing that would feel. But also you don't want to go into the FET super-stressed. You want your body feeling good.

[Anonymous]

I had the same fears but I’m going forward. I’m 43 and don’t want to wait til 45. Can’t see things improving dramatically before then.

[Anonymous]

I would absolutely do transfers now. COVID is going to be an issue for the next three or four years until it’s close to what will be considered eradicated. Manage the current threats and come up with safeguards to the best of your ability, working with your step child’s mother. Wishing you luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had the same fears but I’m going forward. I’m 43 and don’t want to wait til 45. Can’t see things improving dramatically before then.

Is the success rate of FET for 44/45 years old much lower than that for 43?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had the same fears but I’m going forward. I’m 43 and don’t want to wait til 45. Can’t see things improving dramatically before then.

Is the success rate of FET for 44/45 years old much lower than that for 43?

No but it would mean losing another year or more with your child.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't wait. Covid is going to be around for awhile.