Comtemplating separation -- support group out there in DC or Bethesda, MD?

[Anonymous]

Hi there ladies -- I am looking for advice and suggestions on finding some support as I am seriously contemplating separating from my spouse of eleven years -- who has been chronically unemployed and fired from every job that he's had during our entire duration of marriage, not to mention racking up credit card debts that I had to bail him out on over and over again. we have a five year old child together and this has been one of the toughest decisions I've ever had to make but I feel like I am drowning emotionally and very isolated since we've kept up this front over the years that there's nothing wrong to our friends and families - frankly, I am ashamed and embarassed to tell anyone. Now that I am ready to face reality and give up any false hope that this will change, I am looking for ways to get support to break free, which has been hard because he won't move out and keeps delaying with false hopes that things will get better once he gets a job -- Not only do I have to cover the mortgage and costs of everything, I feel like he's keeping me hostage in my own home -- I am sick of living his unstable and insane life (constantly looking for a job and going through depression after he gets fired from jobs - he's been unemployed for 4 years before and now again for 2 years) and keeping my life hostage and in limbo, impacting, controlling and negatively shaping not to mention sucking all my energy out from my life and my child's -- also our five year old is starting to notice that all's not right in our home life. Any suggestions you may have would be really appreciated.. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

This group will help you after you have separated, but you have to be separated to join.
http://www.newbeginningsusa.org/nbtest/

I found it very helpful years ago.
Maybe see a counselor and discuss the options as well as a lawyer. Try the women's center in Rockville, part of Mont. Co. Govt.

[Anonymous]

Hello there ,I am in almost in the same cituatin,I am vary disapoint that my husband only used me ,for money and conpanionship.He is the ivel person that i naver thouht was going to deal....I am 32 in feel like i naver going to meet someone that wan keed or a family ,i feel like i will be aloneg and i am scare of it...please tell me something!