Dear lord, I wish they’d call my dh to go back to the office.
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| Having him home all day is driving me nuts. He keeps nagging at the kids, who are understandably grouchy and sad without their friends, their camps, their pool, all the usual summertime activities. He doesn’t like them watching tv, which would be fine if we weren’t in the middle of both a pandemic and a heat wave. It’s just so much easier when he’s out of the house all day and home at dinner to catch up. I’m trying to do my job as well and keep them somewhat entertained. I honestly don’t care if they watch a movie every day. It’s a pandemic, things aren’t normal. He just won’t let up sometimes. |
Anonymous
| I hear this from many people. The dads are grumpy and riding the kids, without really understanding just how hard this all is for the kids. You're not alone. Is he receptive to calm discussion with you, over a glass of wine, regarding how the summer should be going? |
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Let him organize 3 fun activities a week that they buy into (hikes/tubing/croquet/badminton/catching lightening bugs, etc).
That way, they are doing what he thinks is healthy/productive and being part of the solution. If they are watching TV all day, then maybe you are just phoning things in. Yes, let rules lighten up a little, BUT you have to model a varied way to fill the day. Some TV (with limits) but also.... introduce exercise/reading/virtual travel adventures/sports/splashing in streams/learning new computer programs, etc. My friend (who is a very impressive mom who works full time outside the home) teamed up with her husband to plan "camps" of their kids choosing this summer. Those were short weeks with a focus. The kids chose the topics and the parents have to come up with activities (all within their immediate family mind you). It could be fun maybe...but you have to model positive coping to your kids. |
Anonymous
| Why can’t they see friends? |
Anonymous
Not everyone is like you pp. Some people are taking it seriously! Not op |
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1. You call this a heat wave?
2. My ex-wife gets mad that I don't nag the kids enough, or wake them up early enough, or make their screen time short enough when they are with me. |
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I’m with you, OP. My DH isn’t a barrel of monkeys on a regular day, and we all need the distance from him (bonus: he traveled frequently for work).
The past four months have been misery. |
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I am with you. Back to work for DHs!
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Anonymous
| My DH isn’t thrilled about this, but we opened up a little (outdoors, with masks) to a family with kids same age as older DD. They take similar precautions to us. Then another family with a toddler (same age as ours) invited us to use their pool. They hadn’t seen anyone. I explained we’d already been seeing another family and collectively the 3 families (12 people) are now hanging out a little. (Again outdoors and masked unless in the pool and then trying to spread out.). It increases risks for sure, but having a pool we go to once or twice a week and having a friend older DD can play with while we work / take turns focusing on toddler helps a lot. We also came up with a loose summer schedule which helps too. DH wasn’t taking kids outside during his time at all. Now builds in a “recess” for them. I watch kids in the pm and, before, by 2 or 3 pm they wouldn’t have been outdoors all day. Anyway, if you can implement a schedule and / or open up to just one cautious family (and trust that they aren’t seeing others) both can help a lot. It’s still miserable and we’re still all emotional and snappy but it’s better. |
Anonymous
| O.m.g. O.P.-- I get to W.F.H. During Covid, but thankfully D.H. Has to go in everyday as "essential"- banker doing P.P.P. Loans.his office building closed one day during protests, and I went nuts. He is like a child who has to be doing something every single minute |
Anonymous
| I have been thinking this, too. All of the annoying habits that didn’t bother me when he was traveling every week are now in my face. He’s a great guy, but he’s getting on my last nerve. |
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I only love you when you are not here all the time. When you are here all the fricking time, I realize how completely annoying you are and how stupid I am for marrying you. Please go back to work or go work at Starbucks. Thank you.
The best part of all the relationshits I pretended to be in was when those mother truckers when home and the date was over. They go back to they own house. Buh bye bitch. This is a sign to move on and get the Fock out😆 |
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I hear you, OP. DH just told his boss he would like to keep working from home ...
If I had the magic wand I would find a husband with parenting skills that match my philosophy. |
Anonymous
ugh, yet another mommy martyr |