Sudden tramatic loss of pet

[Anonymous]

Over the weekend we prpped a door open that leads to the alley behind our house to haul some thing out. While we were picking up the boxes our 5 year pup went exploring (not normal for him to leave the house without us) and went sniffing into the alley just as a car came through. He was gone in an heartbeat. He was young, spunky, playful, snuggly, smart, and my constant companion, especially since I've been working from home these last few months. He was taken away so quickly, so unexpectedly, so tramatically it's still hard for me to fathom he's gone. We were supposed to keep growing old together. My heart is shattered and broken and I feel like I can't breathe. I've spent the last two days crying uncontrollably. When does this get better? How do I make it better? I just want him home with me so much and every time I think that, it hurts even more. How do I make the hurt stop?

[Anonymous]

I am so, so sorry.

[Anonymous]

That stinks--our family dog ran down to the tiny one lane road (this was in the country) which is usually empty and was hit by a car. Take your time to grieve and don't blame yourself.

[Anonymous]

I'm so so sorry.

[Anonymous]

I'm so sorry, OP. The only thing that makes this "better" is time. Shock is real and has real, physical manifestations. Some people find that getting another pet sooner than later helps to focus their emotions, others are pretty much repelled by that thought and need more time to grieve. You just do what feels right to you.

[Anonymous]

It's only been TWO DAYS. Jesus - give yourself time to grieve! Eventually the pain will lessen and you will focus more on the good times you had rather than your dog's last moments. Hang in there, and give yourself some space to feel all your feelings.

[Anonymous]

I am so sorry, OP.

There are some pet loss groups in the DC area that may be meeting online. That could be helpful.

But also, just let yourself grieve. You lost a family member, in a shocking way. It hurts. That is normal. You are grieving.

I am so sorry, again. <3

[Anonymous]

I am so sorry. For me, it took several months and another dog to recover. Even now six years later there are times I get sad, but I no longer cry.

[Anonymous]

I am so sorry OP.

[Anonymous]

That’s one of the hardest things to get over. I am so sorry. 😢

[Anonymous]

I can’t even imagine, OP. I am so sorry. Please take care of yourself. He would want you to.

[Anonymous]

I am so sorry OP. We love them so much.

[Anonymous]

So, so sorry OP.

[Anonymous]

I’ve heard Tylenol can actually numb emotional pain, but obviously speak to your doctor. Could you get on antidepressants? Maybe some Valium just to help calm you down?

I’d reach out to your doc. This is truly shattering

[Anonymous]

Had a very sudden loss of a 5 year old cat, from a blood clot/stroke, 15 years ago. It's very hard. But you are in the trenches here. I remember days of tears too. Be kind to yourself. Try not to replay that night in your head.