Sharing a car sucks

[Anonymous]

We lease but only need one car. So we share it. We have different wants and needs. It sucks. I try to compromise by saying "my color choice this time, yours next time" and he still pushes back.

[Anonymous]

If you have different wants and needs, why?

[Anonymous]

Sharing a car works best when neither of you actually care about the car very much. If you both have strong feelings maybe you should get another and cut the budget elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

Everyone I know shares a car, OP. If they have more than one, it's because their households are larger so they're still sharing cars.

But I need to remind myself that I'm on DCUM, land of the wealthy, where people think nothing of complaining about having to share a vehicle...

[Anonymous]

Having one car sucks too. I only have one car now I hate it.

I always had two cars in past, convertible and SUV.

[Anonymous]

Sharing a car sucks if you both need to go somewhere at once, not because the color isn't your first choice.

[Anonymous]

We have two cars but are ready to go down to one. The extra costs and time suck for maintenance, repairs, etc. just aren't worth it for us.

It's just a tool to get around, unless you're caught up in the status symbol. But that's a personality problem, not a car problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Sharing a car sucks if you both need to go somewhere at once, not because the color isn't your first choice.

I once dated an extremely rich girl once, who had a Red, White and Black car. She color coordinated with her car. She could not imagine wearing a dress and pocketbook that clashed with the color of her car.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have two cars but are ready to go down to one. The extra costs and time suck for maintenance, repairs, etc. just aren't worth it for us.

It's just a tool to get around, unless you're caught up in the status symbol. But that's a personality problem, not a car problem.

Um, one can like to enjoy whatever tool they're using - especially one that someone spends as much time in as a car - without it being a "personality problem." Jeez.

I hear you, OP. I am not worried about what other people think of my car but I want to like it myself! For years DH and I shared a car that he had picked out that I just never really felt comfortable in because of things like the type of seats, location of pillars, etc. He's quite a bit taller than I so what works great for him isn't perfect for me. Finally I did just buy a car of my own that I really liked, so now we're both satisfied. But where that's not practical, yes, I do think that both people should have to compromise. And there's nothing wrong with wanting a car in a color you like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have two cars but are ready to go down to one. The extra costs and time suck for maintenance, repairs, etc. just aren't worth it for us.

It's just a tool to get around, unless you're caught up in the status symbol. But that's a personality problem, not a car problem.

Um, one can like to enjoy whatever tool they're using - especially one that someone spends as much time in as a car - without it being a "personality problem." Jeez.

I hear you, OP. I am not worried about what other people think of my car but I want to like it myself! For years DH and I shared a car that he had picked out that I just never really felt comfortable in because of things like the type of seats, location of pillars, etc. He's quite a bit taller than I so what works great for him isn't perfect for me. Finally I did just buy a car of my own that I really liked, so now we're both satisfied. But where that's not practical, yes, I do think that both people should have to compromise. And there's nothing wrong with wanting a car in a color you like.

Your car has pillars in it?

And getting hung up on the color of a car is flat out ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have two cars but are ready to go down to one. The extra costs and time suck for maintenance, repairs, etc. just aren't worth it for us.

It's just a tool to get around, unless you're caught up in the status symbol. But that's a personality problem, not a car problem.

Um, one can like to enjoy whatever tool they're using - especially one that someone spends as much time in as a car - without it being a "personality problem." Jeez.

I hear you, OP. I am not worried about what other people think of my car but I want to like it myself! For years DH and I shared a car that he had picked out that I just never really felt comfortable in because of things like the type of seats, location of pillars, etc. He's quite a bit taller than I so what works great for him isn't perfect for me. Finally I did just buy a car of my own that I really liked, so now we're both satisfied. But where that's not practical, yes, I do think that both people should have to compromise. And there's nothing wrong with wanting a car in a color you like.

Your car has pillars in it?

And getting hung up on the color of a car is flat out ridiculous.

If you have a front window, you have at least two pillars.

[Anonymous]

It does suck. Can you buy your own car?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sharing a car works best when neither of you actually care about the car very much. If you both have strong feelings maybe you should get another and cut the budget elsewhere.

+1 We share a car (three adults in the house) and it's not an issue at all.

[Anonymous]

We share a car also. Occasionally there's an issue if we both want to be in a different place at the same that is not otherwise accessible.

But color? Not a problem. I haven't cared about color since my first car.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We lease but only need one car. So we share it. We have different wants and needs. It sucks. I try to compromise by saying "my color choice this time, yours next time" and he still pushes back.

It might work better if you say "Your choice this time, my choice next time." And get it in writing/email! LOL.