What does “daddy issues” mean?

[Anonymous]

When you are talking about a woman who marries a much older guy.

[Anonymous]

When a woman grows up without a strong male authority figure. Look at how hard the children of single moms have it

[Anonymous]

It could mean several things:
Never got affirmation from her own father, so she’s seeking it out with older spouse.
Unable to have an appropriate relationship with a peer, so she seeks out someone who is more like her parent.

[Anonymous]

This term often implies discipline issues or a perceived “need” to be disciplined by a male figure in order to feel fulfilled.

[Anonymous]

Her daddy didn't spank her, so I will.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This term often implies discipline issues or a perceived “need” to be disciplined by a male figure in order to feel fulfilled.

Why would someone have a need to be disciplined?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This term often implies discipline issues or a perceived “need” to be disciplined by a male figure in order to feel fulfilled.

Why would someone have a need to be disciplined?

All children need discipline and structure.

[Anonymous]

It was coined for girls that end up on the stripper pole or as prostitutes.

Daddy never gave affection. Daddy ditched the family. Or Daddy was checked out of the family- gone all of the time “working”. Daddy sometimes was caught cheating.

These women end up f@cked up. They are the ones having affairs and/or look for older men that represent a father figure.

[Anonymous]

Spouse doesn’t have to be older.

I associate the term with a woman who doesn’t want to grow up—she wants a surrogate daddy to shepherd her through life and take care of her, coddle and indulge her. Blech.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Spouse doesn’t have to be older.

I associate the term with a woman who doesn’t want to grow up—she wants a surrogate daddy to shepherd her through life and take care of her, coddle and indulge her. Blech.

Yeah. You’re completely wrong on this.

See above. It’s the woman with the father who showed no affection or showed disapproval. He also may have left the family.

The girls become strippers or the like seeking male approval. Or go to college and have lots of one night stands/passed around.

[Anonymous]

It means nothing. It is a giant Older Woman Cope. They can't stand it when an older man gets a younger woman, so they have to think of her (and him) as broken in some way.

Maybe she just likes what she likes, and that's fine.

[Anonymous]

When a dad ran off on her mom or was abusive. Trust issues and someone who doesn’t understand what it is to be loved by two parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It means nothing. It is a giant Older Woman Cope. They can't stand it when an older man gets a younger woman, so they have to think of her (and him) as broken in some way.

Maybe she just likes what she likes, and that's fine.

The problem with this logic is, I was young once. When I was in my early 20s, only one kind of girl would even consider dating a man in his 30s (or even more unthinkably, 40s). She was not okay.

I'm 35 now and happily married. I don't need any coping mechanisms. But boy do I remember those girls...

[Anonymous]

Think Jenny in Forrest Gump.

[Anonymous]

It's an ugly thing to say.

I remember going on a blind date with a guy when I was 28. He was asking about my family and I shared that my father passed away as a young child. He shook his head and said "That explains why you are so pretty and aren't married. You have daddy issues."

Soooooo rude. Probably one of the rudest things I have ever had a date say to me. I'm also happily married for 10+ years now with a great husband who is a year older than me and 2 children.