Abortion: Tell Husband Or Not?
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Anonymous
| 17 years ago I accompanied BFF to clinic for a termination after an alcohol-fueled conception. I am positive she has been sober for 12 years. Engaged and agonizing over whether to disclose. Inside I want to tell her NO NO NO DON’T TELL HIM. He is bound to judge her, and it’s between her and God, right? Gals who have been there, am I missing something. Curious what any guys think too. |
Anonymous
| There is no reason to tell him. Let her past be her past. |
Anonymous
| Why the hell would you tell him? Are people becoming this bored that they feel like they need to bring up stuff from decades ago? |
Anonymous
| You're not mature enough to be married. |
Anonymous
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Why on earth would she tell him? It has nothing whatsoever to do with him.
In the same vein, what does her being sober or not have to do with anything? |
Anonymous
| I would tell mine but that's because I don't think there's anything wrong with an abortion. That said, I haven't had one, and obviously your BFF feels differently. I think I would put in the category of don't lie if asked, but otherwise let it be. |
Anonymous
| OP, consider getting a hobby or a job. Or perhaps some volunteer work. And leave that friend alone--you are clearly so unhappy that you can't stand someone else's happiness. |
Anonymous
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Well, it should be a nice test of whether he really wants to marry her or not. I would want my husband to be supportive of my choices. |
Anonymous
| No don’t tell. |
Anonymous
| It’s not your story to tell. It’s hers. |
Anonymous
| Why post this? MYOB. |
Anonymous
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This is weird, why would you tell him anything?
It is up to her whether she tells him or not. And if I were her I wouldn't say anything unless I planned to have kids with him anyhow. |
Anonymous
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Whenever I can’t decide whether or not to tell a guy something, I think, “if the roles were reversed, would a guy tell me this?” 99% of the time, the answer is no.
The only way I would ever disclose an abortion is if I were 100% sure I could dump the guy if he freaked out. |
Anonymous
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This is very similar to two other threads.
Stay out of it. None of your business. If this is true. 17 years ago are you kidding, why is this anything? Again stay out of it!!!!!! |
Anonymous
| No, no, no, no, no, |