Prepping my Husband

[Anonymous]

My husband and I have a preconception appointment coming up as we're soon planning to start ttc. My doctor has a great personality and he's told me that he'll talk about all of the fun stress free parts about having a baby (ha!) as well as the more serious stuff. I feel like this is a great chance for my husband to be informed, ask his questions, as well as get him completely on board with ttc and some of the challenges that may come along with this process. Any tips for questions to ask or things to make sure we discuss so I can take advantage of having my husband's undivided attention and a doctor to bounce questions off of. My husband is getting excited about the idea of starting a family but frankly is a little anxious about my stress level if it isn't an easy process. Trying to keep this fun....

[Anonymous]

Hmm. No suggestions. I just know it was helpful for my DH when 2 REs brought up donor egg as a possibility. Since when I brought it up, he thought it was "crazy". So I do think this will be enlightening for your DH.

[Anonymous]

As an aside, don't be surprised if the OB/GYN does not go too far into the challenges some couples face. In my experience, the two I went two were reluctant to delve into that. BUT, if your journey presents you with a lot of hurdles, definitely make sure DH returns with you to those appointments. It wasn't until an RE told my husband just how severe my endo was in a post-op meeting, that my husband actually started comprehending that it wasn't just "all in my head" or me being "too stressed."

[Anonymous]

Not with the RE but the admin: talk about finances. The cost is staggering and often helps husbands understand how committed you both need to be. DH was a lot more supportive of all the stuff I gave up to increase our chances, and a lot more motivated about his role, when he realized how financially draining continuing treatment would be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not with the RE but the admin: talk about finances. The cost is staggering and often helps husbands understand how committed you both need to be. DH was a lot more supportive of all the stuff I gave up to increase our chances, and a lot more motivated about his role, when he realized how financially draining continuing treatment would be.

Agreed, having #1 took us three years, 4 surgeries, and $20K...and we are in our early 30s.