Avoiding summer birthdays?
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Anonymous
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I guess I just need a reality check here: is it insane to time TTC around avoiding summer birthdays? We have a daughter with an August birthday about to start preschool, and I feel some nerves about her being the very youngest in the class (she’s also a teeny tiny 5th-ish percentile kid in height and weight). If we were to have a boy, I’d be even more nervous.
Am I being nuts to think we should try and avoid a summer birthday? Happy to admit that the present state of the world has left me with too much damn time to ruminate. I’m 31 FWIW. |
Anonymous
| I was anxious about this. But life/early losses changed my timeline and my second born has a late August birthday anyway. Oh well. |
Anonymous
| Even boys with spring birthdays are held back. |
Anonymous
| Yes this is insane. This board is obsessed with redshirting but it’s not that common IRL. |
Anonymous
| OP -- you take what the good lord gives you. And you are thankful. |
Anonymous
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Yes, it's ridiculous. I remember thinking, should I not TTC so my kid doesn't have a Christmastime birthday? But I ended up getting pregnant and he does. And it is no big deal and I wouldn't trade him!
I also have a kid with an Aug birthday. You can redshirt if you need to (we did). Summer birthdays are great in a lot of ways, certainly preferable to a winter birthday during the party-throwing years. You can throw fun cheap backyard/outdoor parties, go to amusement parks, do all kinds of fun things to celebrate. It's a happy time of year. |
Anonymous
| On the flip side, kids with summer birthdays get to have cool b-day parties at pools, parks, or just in their backyard. We have a small house and always get stuck paying big bucks for an indoor venue for our January and November babies. |
Anonymous
Yup. You can plan all you want but you will love and accept your baby no matter what. |
Anonymous
Ha- yes, this is true. Parties are much easier for my summer baby than my early spring baby! |
Anonymous
| Why would you avoid them? They are so much better for birthday parties, especially if you have a pool. Cheap birthday parties were difficult to plan for my late November bday dd. Maybe because we live in a boring area. She stopped having bday parties at an earlier age than I would have liked (11 or 12 was the last one). Her friend with a July bday had the same pool party for about 11 years. They were a blast and cheap. Except for the installing a pool part, not cheap of course. |
Anonymous
| I think in the end, there are pros and cons to basically every time of year. Do what feels right. |
Anonymous
| I couldn’t, but if you can can, I would. I suspect many people do this as my kids have almost no kids in the classes with birthdays in July or August. Tons of October. |
Anonymous
| I have a DS with a late July birthday. I aimed for spring babies after that because being very pregnant in the DC heat was miserable, though maternity leave for most of the fall was wonderful. Fwiw I did not redshirt. I actually find birthday parties more difficult for him because so many families are out of town. |
Anonymous
| Why would you start them when you feel they’re too young/not ready? Summer birthdays are great because if your kid is advanced you can start them but if they’re not, you wait a year and it’s not a big deal. I as well as many of my friends growing up had summer birthdays and we were all among the oldest of the class, not youngest. |
Anonymous
+1 I'll add that the idea of picking your kid's birth month/birth season seems like reasonable planning before you start TTC, but by month 4 or so you get over that and just want a positive. |