When do kids start to like going out?
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Anonymous
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My 4yo is a total homebody. Doesn't want to go outside to play, throws tantrums if we have to go to the store, won't even leave the house to get ice cream.
Is this a stage kids grow out of? I get that errands are boring, but I remember being so excited to go out when I was a kid. |
Anonymous
| That's unusual. My kids loved and still love to go out. |
Anonymous
| that's really weird. |
Anonymous
| He’s practicing safe social distancing and stay-at-home orders. Smart kid. |
Anonymous
| He shouldn’t be going to stores but not wanting to play outside points to sensory issues. |
Anonymous
it's totally normal and based on personality first rule of parenting kids are almost never like you were growing up 
https://static1.squarespace.com/static/59a9c044ccc5c523fa85581f/t/5a6559be71c10b2e8a5c1b16/1516591551036/Discovering+Your+Child%27s+Enneagram+Type+-+Parent+Questionaire.pdf guessing you might have a 5
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Anonymous
actually looks more like a 6 anyway point being it's totally normal and the guide is just a guide. Most people are a couple of each. |
Anonymous
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My son still goes through phases like that though it's much better at age 8. He just prefers to tinker around his room or hit baseballs outside to running errands like the store. There have been times when he didn't like going outside/to the park as well. He doesn't like the heat/humidity much.
When he was younger I'd explain that sometimes there are things that need to be done and not argued. If my schedule was flexible I might let him choose morning or afternoon for activities but that not doing them wasn't an option. If screens are an issue you can reserve them for after whatever activities you want to accomplish. |
Anonymous
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Yes, depends on personality. I have one of each, a homebody and another one who is always ready to go out somewhere, anywhere. They both have their pros and cons. The homebody can entertain herself for hours on end and be content. Or she can hang in the yard and play with rocks or weeds. Now that she’s at the reading age, she will sit with books for hours and hours. But trying to go anywhere on any schedule is a feat of great patience. And she hates loud, noisy, crowded spaces. But with some cajoling, she’s up for hikes, gardens, creeks, and neighborhood walks.
I did finally give up on taking her shopping with me. I only take her if I have no choice. |
Anonymous
| Agree this is personality but I would think of ways to encourage him to get outside a bit more. One of my kids will gladly play in the house all day, the other one wants to be outside and active all day long. Balance is good. |
Anonymous
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I have one kid like this and one who's the total opposite - I agree it's a personality thing (and it may change over the years).
My younger kid loves trips to the grocery, coming to stores with me, random drives around town, etc. He throws on his shoes and is happy to come along. Older kid has to be dragged out of the house. Would rather be piddling around with Legos, creating projects, etc. He hates the heat, huge crowds, and is perfectly happy to stay home doing his own thing. He does one morning activity a week and that's plenty for him. |
Anonymous
| Your kid is right. They should not be shopping with you right nor or going out. |
Anonymous
| Does he have anxiety? |
Anonymous
| Mine is exactly the same. We call her an indoor kid. |
Anonymous
| This is funny. It makes me remember how my little kids were such homebody kids. They had each other to play with and the neighbors to play with. They hated scheduled activities. I’d say they were like that until about 5th grade. Now they are middle schoolers and love getting out of the house to be with friends. |