Is my brother nuts for taking this trip?
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Anonymous
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My brother and pregnant SIL are planning to drive four hours to go visit my parents at their house in upstate NY. My parents are older, but healthy and have been SIP. My brothers justification is “well we haven’t seen them in a while plus we can WFH so we can stay as long as we want.” My parents have been pretty level headed about COVID and SIP (for example, they decided very early on to not go to a family wedding in June in NYC, before it was canceled), but they are thrilled that brother and SIL are coming to visit.
Anyways, I can’t help but feeling like they’re all nuts. I totally understand that SIP is difficult, and it’s hard not being able to see family. I wish I could see them too, but such is life in this time. I can’t help but think it’s pretty irresponsible for my brother to travel 4 hours and potentially put his pregnant wife in harms way just to sit in my parents house. At the same time, I feel like my parents are also being irresponsible for being okay with it, though I admit they’re in a tricky position. Am I out of line for thinking this way? |
Anonymous
| Yes, why would anyone take even a small risk with a pregnant wife and elderly parents? |
Anonymous
| OP, you can think any way you want |
Anonymous
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I would be extremely resentful, especially as I would not allow myself the pleasure of a visit with my parents. Yep. I'd be furious. But there's nothing to stop them beyond you lecturing them on the risks. Odds are they'll all be fine. Grit your teeth, OP. |
Anonymous
| Yeah, not a good idea but more so for your parents than for the pregnant wife |
Anonymous
| MYOB. Their lives, their choice. Not everyone is ok with a never ending lockdown. |
Anonymous
| If they needed help with childcare while working I'd understand taking the risk, as long as everyone had been strict about SIP. It's an odd time to make a trip like this just because. |
Anonymous
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I would not risk it, but if they have all been SIP very strickly, then it's probably ok.
IGuess I'm amazed at how many people have such happy families that they are itching to be SIP with their extended families for weeks without wanting to throttle each other, let alone be envious of other family members SIP together. |
Anonymous
| I really want to SIP at MY house. And especially if I were pregnant but that’s just me. Seems like an unnecessary risk also. |
Anonymous
+1. |
Anonymous
| Who exactly are you worried about—your parents, your brother or SIL? They are adults OP. |
Anonymous
| Seems totally fine. Everyone’s been careful thus far. |
Anonymous
| If everyone has been isolating, I don’t think it’s that big a deal. I generally follow the pee radius rule (I wouldn’t go anywhere that is longer than I can make it without stopping to use a half room) so it’s a little long (with a pregnant person specifically). |
Anonymous
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I’m a science loving democrat, and we have been isolating since end of March as well. But unless we plan to SIP for 18 months (surely sending economy into Great Depression) we will have to start taking some risks. Every other country is doing it.
This seems very low risk to me. Especially if they answer the call of nature in the great outdoors while on the road. |
Anonymous
| None of your business OP. |