Why do I have baby fever?!
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Anonymous
| I have two kids 6 and 4, and planned on stopping at 2. Now lately I find myself contemplating the idea of a 3rd! The thought of starting over seems exhausting, but in 5 yrs I’m afraid Ill regret not trying for another. I am 31 fwiw. |
Anonymous
| Have the third. |
Anonymous
| You have lots of time to think about this. |
Anonymous
| You have plenty of time. In five years if you regret not having a third, you would still have plenty of time to have your third |
Anonymous
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Same except my kids are 2 and 4. I just can’t stop. In fact, the entire time I was pregnant with#2 and was a newborn I kept thinking this won’t be the last time.
Toddlers are really kicking my ass. Every day is so hard!! But I do think that when my oldest is in kindergarten it would all change and get easier. And my almost 2 year old will be easier. So my advice is to either go for it or get a puppy |
Anonymous
| If you’ve been home homeschooling a six year old and entertaining a four year old, isolated from friends, nannies and family and still want another - go for it! |
Anonymous
Get a dog. This phase will pass. |
Anonymous
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I was you 2 years ago. I was 33 and had a 4.5 year old and a 2.5 year old. I just had the feeling that I was not done having kids and my DH felt the same, but we were too scared to start all over again. Also, I had just started a new job... well we took a chance one drunken night and my son was born 6 months later. He is awesome, life is super hard with a 14 month old and 6.5 year old and a 4.5 year old, but I am so happy! And definitely done... DH got a vasectomy since I get pregnant all the time very fast.
If you can afford it, go for it... now I wish I had done it sooner because 3+ years between 2 and 3 is a lot |
Anonymous
He was born 9 months later... not 6 |
Anonymous
NP here. How long does it take to pass? It’s been years for me, and I still want another. |
Anonymous
| I have a 2.5 year old and 4 year old. I don’t feel done but I’m so far beyond the newborn phase it scares me to have another. My husband feels very done. I may regret it in the future but since I feel happy with 2 I think we’re done. |
Anonymous
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Nature making you want to reproduce combined with the feeling of a closing door means that there is always a tendency to err of the overdose side when on edge....
And it is not true that you will necessarily regret it. A few friends who were tempted in having a third did not go for it either because their husbands was not on board or it was not sensible financially, paused and they say the urge goes way and they are delighted with the family that they have. |
Anonymous
| Just focus on what you have and move on. |
Anonymous
| When my kids were 2 and 4 I really wanted another but DH did not. We didn’t attempt and I’m actually so glad we didn’t. They are 10 and 12 now and I love having freedom to leave the house when I need, etc. I’m sure I would have loved any baby that came along, but I also don’t regret staying as a family of 4. It’s easier in many ways! |
Anonymous
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I'm 41 with a 5yo and 1yo and I look at the "baby" and think how much fun it would be to have another. But at my age it would just be too much in many ways, my ship for #3 has sailed.
At your age, I'd do it in a heartbeat. I'll leave you with one of my favorite quotes 
“But I always say, one's company, two's a crowd, and three's a party” ― Andy Warhol |