Do you ever feel like your DH does not fulfill every interest/need?
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Anonymous
| Not in terms of sex...like talking film or books or whatnot. |
Anonymous
| Seriously? I can't imagine otherwise. I'm sure there are a few people who could say their spouse fulfills every interest and need but I'd say less than 1% of people. |
Anonymous
| If you're looking for your spouse to fulfill everything for you, you're setting yourself up for disappointment. Get some friends. |
Anonymous
| LOL, you’ve seen too many movies lady. No spouse is supposed to serve all needs for the other. Unless you’re a boring as sh$t religious loon like Mike Pence. |
Anonymous
| Yes, all the time. I wouldn’t have it any other way. We have our own interests and some commons ones. |
Anonymous
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I don't care one bit that my wife has different interests in books, movies, music, etc.
I care that she knows my needs in bed, says they're well within her comfort zone, and tends to them...pretty much never. |
Anonymous
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I don't think a partner is suppose to fulfil every interest or need.
Being independent is a good thing. I like having some interests in common though. |
Anonymous
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Um yes but I don't expect him to. That's what friends and groups and things like that are for.
DH and I can talk about 80% of our interests. We have friends who share the other interests. I think maybe what you're getting at is that you guys don't talk about the interests you don't share. For instance, DH listens to me talk about the music and books I like. He will listen to the music I like even though he doesn't like it. He will listen about and watch shows I don't like. And vice versa. We don't have in depth conversations about it and we don't force the other person to partake in those activities, but we do try to act respectfully about our different interests. I think I would be annoyed if DH didn't even want to hear me talk about my own interests. |
Anonymous
| Haha or any, yeah. |
Anonymous
| Look in the mirror- that is the person responsible to fill your interests and needs. |
Anonymous
| This is why I always say “someone who says their husband is their best friend doesn’t have a best friend.” |
Anonymous
| OP, please tell me you’re like 19 years old. |
Anonymous
| That's not how relationships are supposed to work anyway, OP. |
Anonymous
This. We have quite a bit of overlap, but I don’t expect him to be a clone of me. I like our differences. And I have friends and other loved ones to interact with. I’m particularly close in interests with one brother and a cousin. We geek out together over stuff DH doesn’t get. |
Anonymous
| Are you under the impression that anyone can fulfill our needs? |