Tacky?
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Anonymous
| FB friend is asking people to send her DD birthday cards because her daughter is “devastated” she can’t have a party. Ummm so are thousands of other kids too.... |
Anonymous
| WTF? Send the kid a card or don't. |
Anonymous
| It would be really tacky of doing it for herself, but she's doing it for her kid. A lot of people only communicate with distant relatives on Facebook nowadays, so that's probably her target audience, not her random former co-workers or college hookups. |
Anonymous
| And it would be nice if thousands of kids who can’t see their friends and relatives to share their birthday celebrations ALSO had ways to recognize their birthdays. |
Anonymous
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Not tacky at all. You are the awful one, OP. Are your kids friends? Have the kids make a birthday card and mail it or drop it off and wave hello.
My kid had a birthday on March 20. I wish I had organized something last minute. We were planning a big party and I ended up canceling a few days prior thinking we would reschedule in April. We have “attended” a few parties. My kids make a birthday sign. |
Anonymous
| Pretty tacky. |
Anonymous
| Its ok, but it is tacky to ask. Send the kid a 10 dollar gift if you can and be done with it. |
Anonymous
I doubt the mother was asking for gift cards or money |
Anonymous
| Not tacky at all! Send a quick video text saying happy birthday. Anything. |
Anonymous
Not tacky. Asking for gift cards would be tacky. Not asking for birthday cards. |
Anonymous
| Jeez, OP. Send the kid a damn card. It’s not like they’re asking for cash. |
Anonymous
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I don’t mean to derail- but people have different circumstances and resources. One friend with multiple children will be able to have a fun, child-centered party for her youngest with the enthusiastic involvement of all of the birthday child’s siblings. Another -a single parent- will celebrate her only child’s birthday -but it will be a far different type of celebration with only one child present. I get the parent’s effort to reach out on behalf of her child. If you can’t support this, then don’t. Shrugs.
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Anonymous
| Not tacky at all! It’s a card and a stamp. |
Anonymous
This. OP said the mom asked for cards. Not gifts. OP, it's sad that your first reaction was that the request was "tacky." That's pretty judgy. Asking for gifts is a gift grab and therefore tacky, but at this time, asking for cards is just a way of hoping to cheer up and distract a kid who likely is bummed. The "thousands" of other kids who also can't have parties are not your personal acquaintances--right? So how are they harmed or insulted if you choose to send a card to one kid you do know? Oh and you don't have to go buy a card. Have you got a kid? Grab paper and pens and have your kid stay occupied a few minutes making a card. This is not something to parse for its social appropriateness. Certainly not now. |
Anonymous
| Not remotely tacky. Why would you begrudge this child a few cards? |