Flexible Nanny Share?

[Anonymous]

I’m wondering if anyone who is looking for a nanny in the upcoming months might be interested in a somewhat flexible nanny share. I’m a teacher and will be going back to work full time this upcoming school year. My husband is in shift work and works 3-4 shifts per a week. We’re trying to figure out the best child care scenario and a share seems like a reasonable option if we could find someone who needed full time care and was willing to work with our need for a flexible schedule. We wouldn’t need 5 days a week of care because sometimes my husband works weekends instead of weekdays, and if we sent the baby to care every weekday he would rarely have time to see our son. What we’d love is to commit to 3 days a week of nanny care, with another family and the nanny being on board with the days of the week moving around based on his schedule. We’d know schedules a month in advance. Does this seem like something another family and a nanny could be interested in? If so, does anyone have thoughts about how to find a family?

Thanks so much for any advice!

[Anonymous]

Just reading your post about you and your husbands' schedules gave me a headache. I wouldn't want to be in a nannyshare in that situation--just not worth the hassle especially if i was paying for 50 percent or more of hte share.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t want to be a nanny for you because I wouldn’t want my schedule to change month to month. I would need a life too. I wouldn’t want to do a nanny share with you beside it defeats the purpose of the two playing together consistently. All around annoying. I don’t know why you need care on the weekends if you are home. If husband is home during the week then just have him keep the baby but still pay nanny for fulltime care

[Anonymous]

OP Where are you located? Would you be looking for summer care? I am an instructional assistant and I expect my position will be cut so I have considered looking for an arrangement like this. When my son was younger my husband also had a non-traditional schedule so I remember what a nightmare it was to find care that worked with our schedule (I eventually gave up and stayed home)

[Anonymous]

Are you expecting the other family to pay for more than half the fees and to host?

Hard no.

[Anonymous]

As a former Nanny who has done shares I dont know why this wouldnt work. If I am paid for guaranteed days and the days rotate for one family one on a monthly basis but I know a month in advance what they are I would be fine with this.
The FT family get one on one care a couple of days a week and share the other 3 days.
This is assuming you dont need weekend care because you are home on weekends.

[Anonymous]

What locations in the area are you looking for?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t want to be a nanny for you because I wouldn’t want my schedule to change month to month. I would need a life too. I wouldn’t want to do a nanny share with you beside it defeats the purpose of the two playing together consistently. All around annoying. I don’t know why you need care on the weekends if you are home. If husband is home during the week then just have him keep the baby but still pay nanny for fulltime care

This is so to e deaf.

Not everyone can afford to throw money away like this.

Also, it’s pretty clear from the post that they’re looking for a nanny share for 3/5 weekdays. There would be no weekend work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t want to be a nanny for you because I wouldn’t want my schedule to change month to month. I would need a life too. I wouldn’t want to do a nanny share with you beside it defeats the purpose of the two playing together consistently. All around annoying. I don’t know why you need care on the weekends if you are home. If husband is home during the week then just have him keep the baby but still pay nanny for fulltime care

NP and who'd want you as a nanny? For one, you can't read in your rush to complain. OP isn't asking for care on the weekends. She says the weekdays will switch around and the reason they don't need 5 days of care is because some of her husband's shifts are on the weekend when she is home so they don't need care. And yes, I'm sure you think you deserve full time pay to work 3 days a week and the rest of the time off to "live your life."

OP, yes, I am sure you can find a nanny and family willing and happy to do this. We have a 2 day a week share where the other family is FT. They like it because the kids get along and it's lower cost for them overall while their children still get a few days of full one-on-one time, and the nanny likes the extra money without having to commit to a full 40 hours plus of taking on an additional charge. There's always someone who's interested in just about any situation, it just might take a bit more legwork to find.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t want to be a nanny for you because I wouldn’t want my schedule to change month to month. I would need a life too. I wouldn’t want to do a nanny share with you beside it defeats the purpose of the two playing together consistently. All around annoying. I don’t know why you need care on the weekends if you are home. If husband is home during the week then just have him keep the baby but still pay nanny for fulltime care

NP and who'd want you as a nanny? For one, you can't read in your rush to complain. OP isn't asking for care on the weekends. She says the weekdays will switch around and the reason they don't need 5 days of care is because some of her husband's shifts are on the weekend when she is home so they don't need care. And yes, I'm sure you think you deserve full time pay to work 3 days a week and the rest of the time off to "live your life."

OP, yes, I am sure you can find a nanny and family willing and happy to do this. We have a 2 day a week share where the other family is FT. They like it because the kids get along and it's lower cost for them overall while their children still get a few days of full one-on-one time, and the nanny likes the extra money without having to commit to a full 40 hours plus of taking on an additional charge. There's always someone who's interested in just about any situation, it just might take a LOT more legwork to find.

Most families that do shares want full-time shares. Most that want part-time want a nanny split (1-1 with their children during their time), not a share.

What is the plan for summers, school breaks, etc? You do realize that the nanny and other family will expect you to pay whether you’re off school or not.

[Anonymous]

Yes this doesn’t seem so bad. You’re committing to 3 days a week, you’ll just not know which three days until a month in advance. Based on that you guys can figure out who’s hosting which days (or let the other family host consistently).

If I was the other family I’d be fine with it because my kid would get two days a week with one-on-one attention and three days with a playmate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes this doesn’t seem so bad. You’re committing to 3 days a week, you’ll just not know which three days until a month in advance. Based on that you guys can figure out who’s hosting which days (or let the other family host consistently).

If I was the other family I’d be fine with it because my kid would get two days a week with one-on-one attention and three days with a playmate.

It sounds ideal for both families really.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t want to be a nanny for you because I wouldn’t want my schedule to change month to month. I would need a life too. I wouldn’t want to do a nanny share with you beside it defeats the purpose of the two playing together consistently. All around annoying. I don’t know why you need care on the weekends if you are home. If husband is home during the week then just have him keep the baby but still pay nanny for fulltime care

Your reading comprehension is lacking, doubt OP would want you as their nanny anyway!

OP, as a nanny, the only issue I would have is activity schedule. I need to have the ability to take the kids out and like to have a variety of activities. I know many families cannot afford (or choose to invest differently) a variety of activities, but I wouldn’t want to limit my abilities to accommodate a second family. So if we have Music Together on Tuesdays and Sing & Sign on Thursdays, you would need to pay for those classes as well. Otherwise, it’s mostly logistics of setting up at another family’s home.

It’s also very possible that you could find your own nanny, maybe someone older that doesn’t need/want 40-50 hours/week.

[Anonymous]

As a family in a nanny-share, I would be okay with this provided that the hours are consistent so that there is some routine for my child. If the days switch but the schedules basically overlap, the nanny can keep the same nap schedule, activity schedule, etc. If the other family could swing it financially (it would cost more than a full-time share), the benefit would be some 1:1 attention with their child and social interaction. In order for it to work for everyone, you should agree to minimum pay of 3 days a week (even during the summer) so the nanny has a steady pay check and the other family's costs are stable. I am assuming there will be a one baby rate and two baby rate.