Why do single people post really old pictures of themselves?

[Anonymous]

I have a friend who is newly divorced. She is 42 years old. She keeps posting pictures of herself from 5-10 years ago. Many are reposts. I know she is trying to date again and probably wants attention but posting a pic of yourself from 10 years ago doesn’t seem the way to do it. I remember her complaining about guys who posted old pics of themselves when they were young, fit and with hair. She would meet the guy in person and she was like those pics were at least 10 years old and she is doing the same.

I feel sorry for her.

[Anonymous]

You really can't figure this out?

[Anonymous]

She doesn’t need your pity and you answered your own “question.” Instead of using this forum to vent about her behavior that impacts you incredibly minimally, why don’t you ask for suggestions about how to approach a conversation with her so she might position herself more successfully on dating sites?

That is, after asking her about her experience and confirming what she hopes to gain, not just blanketly assuming she’s not receiving the kind of attention she would like (though that’s probably not too far off).

Be a kind, empathetic friend. And maybe get a hobby.

[Anonymous]

You are clearly not her friend.

[Anonymous]

I don’t know but I don’t have many picture of only me, and selfies look ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

I've met plenty of hot 40 somethings. If she got fat she needs to hit the gym like any other 20 something or 30 something.

[Anonymous]

Because when you are alone and supporting yourself you don't have a lot of content for Facebook.

[Anonymous]

single people simply don't have that many pictures of themselves, nor anyone to take them, sometimes. Instead of making fun of her, offer to take some GOOD (not crappy out of focus or sun in her face or off kilter, or from a poor angle) pictures for her so she has something more recent.

[Anonymous]

You're a mean friend. Help her out by offering to take photos of her when you hang out together, and take the time to get nice lighting, flattering angles, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:single people simply don't have that many pictures of themselves, nor anyone to take them, sometimes. Instead of making fun of her, offer to take some GOOD (not crappy out of focus or sun in her face or off kilter, or from a poor angle) pictures for her so she has something more recent.

Half her pictures ARE pictures that I took of her on various trips we took, many from over a decade ago. The other pics are like from her honeymoon and when she got engaged. These are the very best pictures of her but they are old pictures and she does not look the same.

I’m not a big fan of social media. The last update I put was when I gave birth to my third child. Hypothetically if I ever became single again, I would not be putting pictures of myself when I didn’t have kids or before I was married.

We both put on about 10 pounds over the past decade.

[Anonymous]

BEsides the obvious (wanting to look younger than you are), some people that are recently divorced honestly don't have a ton of good pictures of themselves for a variety of reasons. For me, I couldn't find one good profile-worthy pic of myself so I had to go back 5-7 years. Thankfully I didn't look that different

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:single people simply don't have that many pictures of themselves, nor anyone to take them, sometimes. Instead of making fun of her, offer to take some GOOD (not crappy out of focus or sun in her face or off kilter, or from a poor angle) pictures for her so she has something more recent.

Half her pictures ARE pictures that I took of her on various trips we took, many from over a decade ago. The other pics are like from her honeymoon and when she got engaged. These are the very best pictures of her but they are old pictures and she does not look the same.

I’m not a big fan of social media. The last update I put was when I gave birth to my third child. Hypothetically if I ever became single again, I would not be putting pictures of myself when I didn’t have kids or before I was married.

We both put on about 10 pounds over the past decade.

I don’t understand why this bothers you. Is she trying to date through Facebook? Who cares?

[Anonymous]

Wow, this is such an ugly post even for this site! (Which is really saying something!!)

[Anonymous]

Op are you a woman? This is why I hesitate to have friends especially women friends. They don't last as friends too flaky and backstabbing.

[Anonymous]

You are a terrible friend.

I am the same age in the same boat. My pics are within a year, but honestly, I would have no issue posting older pictures of when I was younger as well. Who cares? Not your business. I have seen men post current and past photos in their profile. I have no problem with it.