Mother in law is a vicious person

[Anonymous]

I got married to my DH last year, the other day I overhead my mother in law talking to my DH in the living room. The content was so vicious that I burst into tears, should I mention to DH I heard this?

My mother in law and father in law are divorced.
Basically she said to DH that he is more distant and dont care for her anymore, blood family should always be the priority. She said your wife can always leave you and will never care for you as much as she has, just like she and father in law are divorced. She also said it was her sister that was there for her after her divorce, so DH should put blood family first.

What I don't understand is why is she so vicious setting us to fail where my DH and I are happy together and is very united? Is she not happy seeing us happy? What kind of mother is that. Her marriage failed does not mean our marriage will fail too.

DH got a bit angry when he heard his mom said this and told her do not interfere with his life, but I don't think I can ever trust my mother in law again. I do not want her to say manipulative things to DH, it is rude and unnecessary.

[Anonymous]

Calm down, OP.

Your MIL is perhaps overly emotional right now because of her divorce and the stay-at-home order.
Perhaps it is true your husband never calls these days.
Or she could be a manipulative control-freak that you two will need to distance from

But either way, playing the doe-eyed ingenue won’t change a thing. Nobody cares that you’re so happy and in love. Big eyeroll for that. Your husband needs to set boundaries with his mother, and over time, she’ll get it.

[Anonymous]

She probably has borderline personality disorder and just enjoys manufacturing drama.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She probably has borderline personality disorder and just enjoys manufacturing drama.

This.

She is is sick and sounds like my mom who is probably borderline.

Just ignore her. She is crazy.

My mom says stuff like that a lot. I sort of laugh about it now because it is so stupid. It will get easier as you practice not caring what she does or says and keep her away as much as you can.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s fine to mention you heard it, but don’t make it about you. Her attack was on him and not you, and your DH did everything right by standing up for your marriage. Your only role here is to sympathize with and support him, not to demand the reverse.

[Anonymous]

Oh god please no! The OP that complained about her DH who leaves room to talk to his mom. Please not another rambling thread! You really need a hobby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh god please no! The OP that complained about her DH who leaves room to talk to his mom. Please not another rambling thread! You really need a hobby.

Ahahaha I think it’s the same person!

[Anonymous]

Because she is a small and unhappy woman who feels threatened. It really isn’t about you at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh god please no! The OP that complained about her DH who leaves room to talk to his mom. Please not another rambling thread! You really need a hobby.

Ahahaha I think it’s the same person!

Totally! She thinks she’s fooling us by changing the yrs she’s been married from 2 to 1. Guurrrlll paleeze.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh god please no! The OP that complained about her DH who leaves room to talk to his mom. Please not another rambling thread! You really need a hobby.

Ahahaha I think it’s the same person!

Please dont assume what you think is what is reality, this is my first time posting and maybe there are a few unreasonable mother in laws out there.
Would like to know what thread you are talking about so I can learn from other people's experience. Can you please post it here? would appreciate that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I got married to my DH last year, the other day I overhead my mother in law talking to my DH in the living room. The content was so vicious that I burst into tears, should I mention to DH I heard this?

My mother in law and father in law are divorced.
Basically she said to DH that he is more distant and dont care for her anymore, blood family should always be the priority. She said your wife can always leave you and will never care for you as much as she has, just like she and father in law are divorced. She also said it was her sister that was there for her after her divorce, so DH should put blood family first.

What I don't understand is why is she so vicious setting us to fail where my DH and I are happy together and is very united? Is she not happy seeing us happy? What kind of mother is that. Her marriage failed does not mean our marriage will fail too.

DH got a bit angry when he heard his mom said this and told her do not interfere with his life, but I don't think I can ever trust my mother in law again. I do not want her to say manipulative things to DH, it is rude and unnecessary.

Is DH a mama's boy? Does he allow her bad behavior?

[Anonymous]

Puh-lease. This is what you get for listening to a conversation you shouldn't have. There wasn't anything 'vicious' and it was about his relationship with her, not you - and she's right in one area. Given the divorce rates, it's not unlikely that you will get divorced. No matter what happens in your relationship with your DH, she will always be his mother. She may not be the MIL you'd like but it's what you've got. Your DH handled it appropriately. Move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh god please no! The OP that complained about her DH who leaves room to talk to his mom. Please not another rambling thread! You really need a hobby.

Ahahaha I think it’s the same person!

Please dont assume what you think is what is reality, this is my first time posting and maybe there are a few unreasonable mother in laws out there.
Would like to know what thread you are talking about so I can learn from other people's experience. Can you please post it here? would appreciate that.

I don’t think it’s possible that’s there’s another OP out there that has such a looney toons situation with their MIL & DH. You might want to try posting on the lawn and garden forum next time.

[Anonymous]

Are you quarantining with that witch? Hopefully not. And assuming not, take this time to cut her off. And definitely tell your husband what you heard and how upsetting it is to know she is rooting against your marriage.

[Anonymous]

As long as DH sides with you and puts her in her place, I don’t think you need to take it further. She sounds like a wack job, but your are the priority. If that ever changes, then you have an issue.