S/o: how is it social distancing to still have the nanny come?

[Anonymous]

We’re still letting our kids play with a couple neighborhood kids. Both families have told us they’re not meeting anyone else and neither are we. We trust them and I suppose they trust us. So we’re letting our kids SD together. It’s good for their mental health. The adults are not getting together, just kids.

The NYT says this practice is fine btw. I see a lot of people denouncing this on here but how is it any different from people who are still having their nanny come? They will say they trust her when she says she is not meeting with anyone else, just like we trust our neighborhood friends.

[Anonymous]

Where does the times say this is fine? I know that like two families doing a separate social distancing practice together is social distancing but I don’t think they meant just taking everybody’s word for it, especially when you’re talking about many people together.

And yeah no play dates is a bummer for kids but literally millions of kids are going through this right now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where does the times say this is fine? I know that like two families doing a separate social distancing practice together is social distancing but I don’t think they meant just taking everybody’s word for it, especially when you’re talking about many people together.

And yeah no play dates is a bummer for kids but literally millions of kids are going through this right now.

It’s 3 families in our neighborhood doing it together. One of the parents sent us an email with the article and idea.

[Anonymous]

People are nuts to just take their nanny’s word for it. There is a thread on here about one nanny planning to go to Universal in FL soon.

[Anonymous]

There is nothing wrong with SD with another family, as long as it’s true no outsiders are coming in.

[Anonymous]

Our nanny lives alone.

[Anonymous]

So if each family goes to the store it’s like being exposed to the store three times instead of once with kids from different families playing with each other. Plus other interactions that you don’t know about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So if each family goes to the store it’s like being exposed to the store three times instead of once with kids from different families playing with each other. Plus other interactions that you don’t know about.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our nanny lives alone.

Is she on tinder?

[Anonymous]

It's not any different. Both are risky, and rely on a large amount of trust. But no matter how much you trust the others, life happens. You need to get food, or packages, or what have you, and in that sense you expose yourself. The more people, kids or adults, the more risk of exposure. So just one nanny is technically safer than 3 families of kids.

[Anonymous]

Our nanny lives with her elderly mother so she is even more freaked out about this than us. I trust us.

[Anonymous]

^^ I trust HER, I mean.

[Anonymous]

We trust our nanny, and she trusts us. We take social distancing very seriously, and trust that she does the same. We are basically acting as one large family unit, working together to cut risk and recognizing we share all combined risk.

FWIW, I don’t think it’s that different from having another family that you share risk with. You find your small tribe, and all commit to staying within the tribe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People are nuts to just take their nanny’s word for it. There is a thread on here about one nanny planning to go to Universal in FL soon.

If you don't trust your children's nanny's word, why are you trusting her with your children at all?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We trust our nanny, and she trusts us. We take social distancing very seriously, and trust that she does the same. We are basically acting as one large family unit, working together to cut risk and recognizing we share all combined risk.

FWIW, I don’t think it’s that different from having another family that you share risk with. You find your small tribe, and all commit to staying within the tribe.

+1. Our nanny is still coming (thank heavens) and it's a calculated risk we are all willingly taking, that we believe is very small. I think the example you've shared is another reasonable way to approach the situation, OP. Yes, every contact increases risk, especially since most adults are still venturing out to e.g. grocery shop, even if only rarely. But really tightening our social circles at least decreases the risk measurably.