if you are WFH, are you keeping your childcare?

[Anonymous]

With schools closed for another month at least, I’d love to know how people are thinking about childcare. Our nanny is available, but having her here adds a lot of potential additional vectors for infecting our household. We are overall low risk, but without her here the only potential opportunity for us to be infected is from when I grocery shop, whereas with her we add in her entire family (her spouse, his child, his child’s mom, etc).

OTOH, we both have to continue working full time and try to keep the kids schooled and entertained, as well as keep our own sanity. Unfortunately, the one of us that has the more pressing work situation right now is also the one that is more equipped to be a stay-at-home-parent, so to speak, so that is another factor.

I’d love to hear how people are thinking through these challenges. (And before anyone comments about this, we are continuing to pay our nanny and will do so as long as we can whether she comes or not).

[Anonymous]

If I had a nanny, I'd consider it. We have day care and i will pay and keep my kids at home as long as my work will let me - much greater risk.

[Anonymous]

We have a nanny and we have kept her coming. She lives with her 20-something son, and she assures me they are staying home like we are, only trips to the grocery store. I trust her. I am not sure if I would have made the same decision if she had more people living in her house or if I didn't think she was taking lockdown seriously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have a nanny and we have kept her coming. She lives with her 20-something son, and she assures me they are staying home like we are, only trips to the grocery store. I trust her. I am not sure if I would have made the same decision if she had more people living in her house or if I didn't think she was taking lockdown seriously.

Except you do not know. You go to her house everyday to do a bed check?

[Anonymous]

Our nanny is working full time. Currently living alone. We got the nanny an annual membership for Instacart Express so they can have groceries delivered.

[Anonymous]

I think it depends on how many ppl the nanny is exposed to and how many ppl they are exposed to.

A nanny who lived alone and followed social distancing guidelines? yes. Lived with one person who also did? Yes. Lived with a first responder, medical worker or people who worked in the service industry? no =.

[Anonymous]

I’m a nanny still going to work. I live in a shelter in place state. I only go to and from work, and haven’t gotten groceries for 3 weeks. My bosses on the other hand are selfish and reckless. Going out hiking, tennis, playdates, dinners delivered, meeting friends. Once coronavirus is over, I will be quitting. Right now I need the job. I have lots of sick days so the minute any of them get sick I’m having ‘symptoms’ and staying home, too. Every day I resent the mom for being so selfish and lazy (I’m here 12hrs a day, she spends no time with the kids), but at least I still have a job. But once this is over and I can interview, I’m outta here!

[Anonymous]

Ps. I’m only mentioning the mom because she is a SAHM not working and the Dad is actually working (essential worker).

[Anonymous]

We still have our nanny coming. She's usually with us PT and teaches at DDs preschool in the AM, but since they're shut down she's doing full time with us. DH is an essential worker and still having to go out, so we can't self-isolate anyway, but are trying to social distance as best as we can.

[Anonymous]

Daycare is closed so DH and I are full time employees and caregivers right now for 2 kids under 5. We swap off and use nap time to get stuff done. Work is suffering for sure, but it is what it is. Glad to still be getting paychecks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We still have our nanny coming. She's usually with us PT and teaches at DDs preschool in the AM, but since they're shut down she's doing full time with us. DH is an essential worker and still having to go out, so we can't self-isolate anyway, but are trying to social distance as best as we can.

Interesting.... the preschool allows a teacher to act as a nanny for an enrolled child?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a nanny still going to work. I live in a shelter in place state. I only go to and from work, and haven’t gotten groceries for 3 weeks. My bosses on the other hand are selfish and reckless. Going out hiking, tennis, playdates, dinners delivered, meeting friends. Once coronavirus is over, I will be quitting. Right now I need the job. I have lots of sick days so the minute any of them get sick I’m having ‘symptoms’ and staying home, too. Every day I resent the mom for being so selfish and lazy (I’m here 12hrs a day, she spends no time with the kids), but at least I still have a job. But once this is over and I can interview, I’m outta here!

Wow so she's a SAHM who's partying with her friends while you watch the kids 12 hrs a day?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We still have our nanny coming. She's usually with us PT and teaches at DDs preschool in the AM, but since they're shut down she's doing full time with us. DH is an essential worker and still having to go out, so we can't self-isolate anyway, but are trying to social distance as best as we can.

Interesting.... the preschool allows a teacher to act as a nanny for an enrolled child?

Yeah, ours doesn't allow employees to babysit for families.

[Anonymous]

wfh means working from home, its not a substitute for childcare

[Anonymous]

I know a few people who are WFM and keeping their kids in daycare as long as they can. I mentally side-eye them, because yes it sucks, but we're all doing it, and who knows how socially distant the people at the daycare are being.

But it doesn't impact me, so eh. I suppose it's good for the daycare provider (small home daycare), so eh. I'm sure there have been things I've done that other people would side-eye