Those of you whose go-to punishment is "no electronics/screen time"-- what are you doing?

[Anonymous]

I think the question is pretty straightforward. Just wondering if anyone can and will be holding to that.

[Anonymous]

The point is no screens FOR FUN. So that rule still stands.

[Anonymous]

Sure. Yesterday my teen son had a full-blown tantrum. Very rare for him. Consequence is no electronics for fun for at least a few days, while he calms down and understands that we still expect considerate behavior at home during the social distancing period.

[Anonymous]

I hide in my room and the kids run feral.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the question is pretty straightforward. Just wondering if anyone can and will be holding to that.

Read the kazdin method—but a short synopsis is positive reinforcement works better for sustained behavior change.

So basically, use screen time as a reward not a punishment.

[Anonymous]

This is usually us, because for some reason DS responds better to us taking something away rather than using as an incentive. However, at this point taking away screen time just punishes us, so I created a checklist of things he has to do before he can play video games/watch TV etc. If he gets it done quickly, he can have more screen time and if he stalls and dawdles he gets less by default.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The point is no screens FOR FUN. So that rule still stands.

No kidding? Even still.

[Anonymous]

I'm trying to be more patient and lenient. These changes are huge for the kids, and some of the tantrums I see are a part of that. I find that just letting things go often results in a quicker resolution than doling out punishments.

[Anonymous]

Why do you need to punish? Seriously? What are your kids doing that you want to PUNISH them?

[Anonymous]

We stick to it. Not a big deal.. for us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you need to punish? Seriously? What are your kids doing that you want to PUNISH them?

Oh, no, I never punish. I just """give consequences."""

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you need to punish? Seriously? What are your kids doing that you want to PUNISH them?

What, you want the whole list?

I have teens and tweens. It will be several chapters long.

[Anonymous]

My three are six and under. I’m in Def Com mode and I will do anything to survive. The 4 and 2 year old know every song from Frozen 2 and the 6 year old wants to take my head off with a light saber. They are sound asleep right now and I hope they wake up in June. And I wake up in July to give me time to recover.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you need to punish? Seriously? What are your kids doing that you want to PUNISH them?

Np
Mainly fighting with siblings

[Anonymous]

They need to self entertain. We toss them in the back yard or, if they've lost screens but I need background noise then I put on Planet Earth or something. Also, get some good noise-canceling headphones.