What does Romance look like for you?

[Anonymous]

Dh and I have been married 15 years and we have a good sex life and are happy together. I feel like we lack any romance that we used to have. No surprises, no grand gestures. I miss it. What does a romantic relationship mean to you?

[Anonymous]

I’m not big on grand gestures, but rather every day romance:

- frequent and fulfilling sex
- cuddles, hugs, and hand holding
- enthusiasm/happy to see me
- morning cup of coffee on my nightstand or bathroom counter when I get out of the shower
- alarm goes off and probably 60-75% of the time he will say, I’ve got this (alarm for teens we both work from home)
- remembers important dates, with affection, not gifts per se
- does other little daily stuff- washes my car, fills it up
- shares things that are important, stories, jokes
- wants to go out and do things with me

[Anonymous]

My love language is words of affirmation. Write me a love letter! Or send a love song that reminds you of me. Washing my car is good too. Tell me something you remember of me from years ago that still makes you smile. Remembering past good times does something to my soul. Those "remember when we..." moments are golden to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m not big on grand gestures, but rather every day romance:

- frequent and fulfilling sex
- cuddles, hugs, and hand holding
- enthusiasm/happy to see me
- morning cup of coffee on my nightstand or bathroom counter when I get out of the shower
- alarm goes off and probably 60-75% of the time he will say, I’ve got this (alarm for teens we both work from home)
- remembers important dates, with affection, not gifts per se
- does other little daily stuff- washes my car, fills it up
- shares things that are important, stories, jokes
- wants to go out and do things with me

Exactly the same except for the teen-alarm thing (no clue what that is). DH also always tells me I look beautiful.

He’s not a flower type. He will drive 45 miles out of his way to get me the apples I like though.

[Anonymous]

Romance to me is no grand gestures. I love the guy in the trenches with me who makes me laugh harder than any other human on the planet!

[Anonymous]

We’ve been married 37 years and romance does exist. Every morning my husband comes into the kitchen and rubs my shoulders and kisses me on the cheek and says something sweet. When he leaves the house he always says something special and when I leave he often says how pretty I look. He’s a very good listener and problem solver and he jokes that he is on this earth to make me happy. He just makes me feel special. It also helps that we still have a great sex life. He is definitely not a hand holder or a couch cuddler or a flower buyer which would be easy I wouldn’t trade him for the world.

[Anonymous]

This will sound stupid but after 32 years my husband has a way of looking and smiling at me that says romance. We will be at a party and he will look at me from across the room and I almost giggle.

[Anonymous]

Let me sleep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dh and I have been married 15 years and we have a good sex life and are happy together. I feel like we lack any romance that we used to have. No surprises, no grand gestures. I miss it. What does a romantic relationship mean to you?

What did you used to do for him that you stopped doing? What were your grand gestures?

[Anonymous]

Romance is when someone gives up their seat for me on the metro during rush hour.

[Anonymous]

Walking into the bedroom and DW is on all fours!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Walking into the bedroom and DW is on all fours!

We have a winner! Though two nights ago my wife and I were really having fun in our hot tub and she said “this is just the beginning.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m not big on grand gestures, but rather every day romance:

- frequent and fulfilling sex
- cuddles, hugs, and hand holding
- enthusiasm/happy to see me
- morning cup of coffee on my nightstand or bathroom counter when I get out of the shower
- alarm goes off and probably 60-75% of the time he will say, I’ve got this (alarm for teens we both work from home)
- remembers important dates, with affection, not gifts per se
- does other little daily stuff- washes my car, fills it up
- shares things that are important, stories, jokes
- wants to go out and do things with me

and what do you do for him? this sounds like a one sided romance. sounds like a servant

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not big on grand gestures, but rather every day romance:

- frequent and fulfilling sex
- cuddles, hugs, and hand holding
- enthusiasm/happy to see me
- morning cup of coffee on my nightstand or bathroom counter when I get out of the shower
- alarm goes off and probably 60-75% of the time he will say, I’ve got this (alarm for teens we both work from home)
- remembers important dates, with affection, not gifts per se
- does other little daily stuff- washes my car, fills it up
- shares things that are important, stories, jokes
- wants to go out and do things with me

and what do you do for him? this sounds like a one sided romance. sounds like a servant

NP here. You seem belligerent, cynical and have a chip on your shoulder. I don't think you get it so I have bolded some statements above.

Men are easy to please. If they get frequent, fulfilling, adventurous and enthusiastic sex from their DW, they feel loved and appreciated.

Add to that a wife who does not burst his chops because he forgot to get her a gift for Mother's Day but is happy because he gave her a hug and a cuddle - and that is the kind of wife every man wants

- Another happy DW.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not big on grand gestures, but rather every day romance:

- frequent and fulfilling sex
- cuddles, hugs, and hand holding
- enthusiasm/happy to see me
- morning cup of coffee on my nightstand or bathroom counter when I get out of the shower
- alarm goes off and probably 60-75% of the time he will say, I’ve got this (alarm for teens we both work from home)
- remembers important dates, with affection, not gifts per se
- does other little daily stuff- washes my car, fills it up
- shares things that are important, stories, jokes
- wants to go out and do things with me

and what do you do for him? this sounds like a one sided romance. sounds like a servant

NP here. You seem belligerent, cynical and have a chip on your shoulder. I don't think you get it so I have bolded some statements above.

Men are easy to please. If they get frequent, fulfilling, adventurous and enthusiastic sex from their DW, they feel loved and appreciated.

Add to that a wife who does not burst his chops because he forgot to get her a gift for Mother's Day but is happy because he gave her a hug and a cuddle - and that is the kind of wife every man wants

- Another happy DW.

Sure a hug and a cuddle. mkay