Did I make the right call?

[Anonymous]

OK DCUM, I would normally never make a post like this, but I'm getting some negative pushback on a choice I made and I wanted to get some good old anonymous feedback. My son just turned 6 this week and we were planning to have his party on Saturday. Unfortunately, yesterday I received a call from his school saying that he had a temperature and was complaining of an upset stomach, sore throat, coughing, etc. I took him to the urgent care and he was diagnosed with the Flu. Now, the Doctor said that he could potentially return to school on Friday (has to be fever-free for 24 hours) but I didn't want to take the chance that he would still be sick. So I moved his party date to next weekend.

Now, I realize that this may mean fewer people can attend since it's short notice for a change of date, and that's totally ok, I will understand if people cancel. However, a family member is essentially assailing me, saying that I am being overly cautious and thoughtless. Her argument is that people have already told their kids that they had a party this weekend and now they have to disappoint their children and try to shift plans around in order to make next weekend. My argument is that I don't want to risk giving anyone else the flu! Was I wrong?

[Anonymous]

You are right. Thank you for not contaminating more kids . Even if your son isn’t contagious anymore, you or other family members could get it

[Anonymous]

You came to the right place! DCUM will tell you to have it next month, lol. Or maybe don't have it at all.

Whatever, you did what you thought was right. It's a 6 year old party, will be forgotten in a few years. Kids get sick, need to reschedule all the time. If I were the parent, I'd make sure my kid did something fun instead if he were disappointed. But, that's part of what kids need to learn (disappointment). Whatever, it's fine. There is no right (or wrong!) answer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You came to the right place! DCUM will tell you to have it next month, lol. Or maybe don't have it at all.

Whatever, you did what you thought was right. It's a 6 year old party, will be forgotten in a few years. Kids get sick, need to reschedule all the time. If I were the parent, I'd make sure my kid did something fun instead if he were disappointed. But, that's part of what kids need to learn (disappointment). Whatever, it's fine. There is no right (or wrong!) answer.

If I were the parent of a guest, I mean.

[Anonymous]

Your kid has the FLU. He needs time to recover.

It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks, you made the right call.

[Anonymous]

You are correct and all the other parents are thanking you! To bad for your relative that the date change in inconvenient or whatever, but you are making a good choice.

[Anonymous]

The flu in these troubled times of corona virus makes your decision the absolutely right call. The relative seems like a moron.

[Anonymous]

Ignore the family member. "We would feel terrible if Larlo gave Larla and Larlito Larlo's flu. Sure hope you can make it June 7th!"

[Anonymous]

My nephew (8) had the flu recently, he was in bed for 3 days, and lethargic/cranky all following week. You did the right thing.

[Anonymous]

OP here; glad there is a consensus! Honestly, I couldn't believe she was upset. To me, it's a no-brainer. If I attended a party and the parent casually mentioned "Oh Johnnie just got over the Flu yesterday", I would be pretty upset. I honestly think my relative's response is based on the fact that her child is really umm demanding and she doesn't want to have to deal with the whining. Thanks, DCUM!

[Anonymous]

Definitely the right call!! I can't believe anyone would say different. Also I know this is shocking (not to you OP, but some) but I really think it's ok for kids to be disappointed?! Sometimes people get sick and things are missed and it's disappointing and then you still get to go to a party next week... all is well and if kids can't tolerate that it's a whole other set of things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here; glad there is a consensus! Honestly, I couldn't believe she was upset. To me, it's a no-brainer. If I attended a party and the parent casually mentioned "Oh Johnnie just got over the Flu yesterday", I would be pretty upset. I honestly think my relative's response is based on the fact that her child is really umm demanding and she doesn't want to have to deal with the whining. Thanks, DCUM!

And that almost *never* happens on DCUM!

That same relative would inevitably complain if her child got sick after the party, and demand to know why you'd kept the original date "when Johnnie had just gotten over the flu!". You really can't win with some people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here; glad there is a consensus! Honestly, I couldn't believe she was upset. To me, it's a no-brainer. If I attended a party and the parent casually mentioned "Oh Johnnie just got over the Flu yesterday", I would be pretty upset. I honestly think my relative's response is based on the fact that her child is really umm demanding and she doesn't want to have to deal with the whining. Thanks, DCUM!

Rather than criticize your decision it seems like your relative needs a reminder that the number 1 rule of parenting is never promise the kids anything that you don’t have absolute control over unless you can handle the fallout. There was no reason for her to hype up someone else’s party. Her mistake, not yours.

[Anonymous]

My ds tested positive for influenza B this fall. He was down for a full week. The tamiflu helped but he was still exhausted. We cancelled flights for a trip because he was too sick to fly. Your relative is a b$%^&*.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My ds tested positive for influenza B this fall. He was down for a full week. The tamiflu helped but he was still exhausted. We cancelled flights for a trip because he was too sick to fly. Your relative is a b$%^&*.

To add, dh and I both got sick (but not as bad) about 2 days after he was diagnosed. Chances are high that someone else in your immediate family will be sick saturday.