2 PGS Normal Embryos Left - Should DH get a vasectomy?

[Anonymous]

It took us over 2 years to get pregnant. We did two rounds of NCIVF and 3 stim cycles. We got 3 total PGS embryos from the last 2 stim cycles. One is currently grunting in his sleep.

We are very on the fence about a 2nd child and will not make a final decision for at least 6 months to a year. DH brought up the possibility of getting a vasectomy in the meantime bc we do have the 2 embryos. The likelihood of me getting pregnant is pretty slim but of course it’s possible. If we do decide to have another I would move directly to transferring the embryos we have and wouldn’t even try naturally really. I’m almost 40.

The more I think about it, the more DHs idea makes sense. But I want to make sure I am not missing anything. Thoughts?

[Anonymous]

You could decide you want a second child and the embryos could fail to thaw, implant, etc. Then you have no embryos and have just made creating new ones harder You are almost forty and dealing with infertility. The chances of a spontaneous pregnancy are very low, so why undergo surgery. If you are that worried, than use a non invasive type of birth control.

[Anonymous]

Men dont usually WANT to get a vasectomy.
Seems odd, especially since you are not sure if you are done having kids, fertility issues and all.

[Anonymous]

I had 3 PGS normal embryos. First one resulted in a successful pregnancy. Second went ectopic. Third was a BFN.

Don't just assume that you'll get a child out of one of those two remaining embryos, OP. If you aren't completely certain that you are done having children and would be perfectly happy and content if neither of your two remaining embryos works out, I wouldn't encourage a vasectomy.

[Anonymous]

No.

[Anonymous]

He should get a vasectomy as soon as you're 100% sure your family is complete. I don't understand the reasoning for doing it before that, especially if you're facing infertility.

[Anonymous]

Thanks for the perspectives. He would get one because I have made it clear that after all of the IVF treatments, a rough pregnancy and delivery, I do not want to have my tubes tied he understands and is fine with that. We will not do an fertility treatments beyond what we’ve done. We are tapped out financially after all of those. We are pretty sure we are one and done, but sounds like we should be absolutely sure.

[Anonymous]

I actually think that's a very good idea if it's well thought out. We did many rounds of IVF trying to have a second and never had success. It was hard because there's always the temptation to just try again one more time. Then after we finished treatments, we continued trying on our own just in case. That means you never have closure and can never really move on. IF you can mentally be okay with trying and failing, then building in that stopping point before you get invested in the process is smart. But only if you really think through what it would be like to end up one and done after trying for a second.

[Anonymous]

Fwiw, I thought I was one and done (after years and years of fertility treatments) and didn't decide to try for a second until my first was a couple years old. So, my vote is no on the vasectomy until you are absolutely, positively sure you are one and done, which I don't think you can be at this early stage.

[Anonymous]

Get a copper IUD unless and until you are ready to try with the embryos.

[Anonymous]

You could also consider having him freeze some sperm, and then get a vasectomy. That seems like a decent compromise and storing sperm is fairly cheap.

[Anonymous]

I would not have him do a vasectomy until you are 100% done with having children. I’m sure you know that just because you have high-quality embryos they may not take in a pregnancy should you want another child. Best to really wait and do a V when you’re totally done.