Would you change party date for child’s good friend

[Anonymous]

DS’s closest friend from school is unavailable on the weekend of DS’s birthday. They are traveling. I regret even mentioning it to the mom in front of my child. Now my child wants to change the party date to a weekend (not his birthday) to accommodate friend. DH thinks we should keep the original date.

Would you switch the date to the following weekend to accommodate the friend?

I haven’t actually booked anything yet. I was literally about to put the credit card down.

[Anonymous]

Yes, of course.

I wouldn't change it if it meant losing a deposit or inconveniencing other guests, but if you haven't booked anything or invited other people, of course I would choose a time when my child's best friend could come.

[Anonymous]

Yes. I always check with my kids' best friends first before scheduling their birthday parties. I don't care about the party being on the same or closest weekend to the actual birthday.

[Anonymous]

Yes I have changed it to a week more people could come!

[Anonymous]

This is not a big deal. Change it or don't, but don't make it a big deal.

[Anonymous]

As long as nothing is already scheduled it’s fine but I schedule things for what is best for us, not for what is best for my five year old’s friend.

[Anonymous]

Not if you already issued the invitations. Otherwise yes.

[Anonymous]

Not sure if I would once original date set but when my DC younger I always confirmed the 2-3 best buds were available and then set date and then asked who else they wanted.

[Anonymous]

If you did not already book the venue or send the invitations then sure I would change it. Why not

[Anonymous]

No, do something with that child another day.

[Anonymous]

Yes, most kid friend parties aren't on their actual birthday.

[Anonymous]

Yup. We always check with DD’s bestie, because she has another friend whose birthday is close to DD’s. We have changed the date twice, because she had a conflict.

[Anonymous]

Yes since you haven’t booked.

[Anonymous]

This is what your child wants. How is this even a question?

[Anonymous]

If the other family will make your child's party a priority, then maybe. If not, no. Some years back, I did switch my child's party date to accommodate his best friend's schedule. The mom then made other plans at the last minute and so, her kid couldn't come anyway.