Am I making the right decision?
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Anonymous
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Starting 2 years ago, after our second child was born, DH started treating me pretty horribly. An example of one of our exchanges is below. I finally got the courage to say I wanted a divorce. He sobbed and said he would change. The problem is, all of my feelings have now gone away completely. DH is saying that I am responsible for breaking up the family and he will never let me forget it.
Am I making the right decision by moving forward with the separation? I have a lot of guilt over how my DCs will take it. Example of exchange: DH- hey f*ckface, get the f**k over here. I need you to sign this thing. Me (holding the baby)- no, don't speak to me like that. DH- get the f**k over here and sign this. Me- no, don't boss me around- and your language is really nice. DH- I don't care about being nice. Ok, don't sign it and don't add any value. Just take care of the kids, that's all you're good for. Well not even that sometimes. |
Anonymous
| Did you try counseling first? Not sure why anyone would stay with a DH like yours. |
Anonymous
| Yeah, I think you are making the right decision. That is awful, I'm really sorry, you need to get out for the sake of your kids. |
Anonymous
| Sounds like what a bully would do when called on his behavior. Would go to counseling for you on how to handle this. |
Anonymous
OP: yes, unfortunately we tried couples counseling briefly. I also went to individual therapy. |
Anonymous
| What an Awful DH. No he broke up the family, not you. A bully and a coward. |
Anonymous
| Yes I would leave |
Anonymous
| You are definitely making the right decision to leave him. He’s an abusive jerk and he’s not going to change. Breaking up the family is on him not you. |
Anonymous
| I know separating is never easy, especially with kids, and understand your guilt, but I think greater guilt would come from raising children in an environment where they grow up to think it’s acceptable for your husband to treat you like he is or for you to tolerate it. Best of luck. |
Anonymous
| Omg yes, you are making the right decision. Your husband has major issues, get out now. |
Anonymous
| You’re making the right decision. No question. |
Anonymous
| He’s the one who broke up the family! You cannot raise your kids in an environment where their father treats their mother like that. |
Anonymous
| Right decision for sure. |
Anonymous
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He sounds like a f***face.
Curious what the interaction was before he said that though. |
Anonymous
| Imagine some guy calling your sister, mom, daughter, best friend a "f*ck face." What would your advice be? |