Why invite a classmate to a family and family friend party?

[Anonymous]

My daughter attended a party where it was quickly obvious that everyone had known each for years, if not decades. My daughter was left out. I don’t even think the classmate spoke to my daughter as she was busy with her cousins and family friends. It was just awkward and kind of rude. I’m not sure why we were even invited. I couldn’t help but wonder if we were invited in error. Maybe she thought my daughter was a different girl and invited the wrong family. My daughter has never mentioned this classmate. In hindsight, we should have just declined. We happen to be free and I thought it would be nice to meet some people from my daughter’s school.

[Anonymous]

Drama. Make the best of it and move on. This is a weird complaint

[Anonymous]

My goodness, you are ungrateful! Maybe it was a good learning experience for your daughter. Maybe she needs to learn social skills and small talk so she can be more comfortable interacting with new people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My goodness, you are ungrateful! Maybe it was a good learning experience for your daughter. Maybe she needs to learn social skills and small talk so she can be more comfortable interacting with new people.

Op here. You are right. I just felt bad that my daughter was playing by herself.

My good friend recently hosted a sleepover for her daughter and she said it was a disaster. Not all the girls knew each other because they were friends with birthday girl from different places. She said there was so much drama, hurt feelings and tears.

My daughter did feel bad but it wasn’t the end of the world. I can small talk with others and it was no worse for me than any other kid party where I know no or few people.

[Anonymous]

Super weird complaint. I’ve invited classmates / new friends to similar events (with mostly family of old friends) because I either like the mom or my kid really likes the kid. I do make a point of spending some time with them, but at a party it’s normal and expected that the host spend time with everyone. This is totally on you and your daughter for not being more open to meeting new people, and not recognizing that you were invited because they like you / your kid.

[Anonymous]

Maybe other children were invited but none of them could attend.

[Anonymous]

Eh. Sometimes a friend from a new place gels great with family and other friends. Sometimes not. Don't think it was unreasonable to extend the invite and see how things went.

[Anonymous]

Why didn't you walk your daughter over to a group of girls who seemed her age and said "Hi Girls. This is Darcy. She and Larla are friends at school. How do you know Larla?" and helped your daughter start a conversation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Super weird complaint. I’ve invited classmates / new friends to similar events (with mostly family of old friends) because I either like the mom or my kid really likes the kid. I do make a point of spending some time with them, but at a party it’s normal and expected that the host spend time with everyone. This is totally on you and your daughter for not being more open to meeting new people, and not recognizing that you were invited because they like you / your kid.

So you say it's a weird complaint but then also say that the host should spend time with everyone, which OP said they didn't.

You *really* wouldn't feel just a *bit* weird if you went to a party and you were the total outsider?

[Anonymous]

^ yeah. I know it's very important on dcum to start bashing the OP asap, but the hosts sound pretty rude and odd here.