DH (37) has ED because I’ve been a b*tch

[Anonymous]

DH is not overweight and porn use is rare. We’ve been married 6 years, it has been tough due to a lot of outside stressful circumstances (deaths, several moves). Things are great now work wise and stress wise for both of us but during stressful times I was a harpy I won’t lie. He currently struggles with getting and keeping an erection and I think it is my fault. Can this be reversed if I stop being a b*tch when I get stressed out?

[Anonymous]

Don’t know but how you handle it now WILL make a difference. Don’t act stressed, make a big deal or analyze with him what or who is to blame. Be matter-of-fact, tell him it happens and there’s stuff you guys can do, encourage him to see a doc. And if you are intimate and he loses his erection, keep your cool and don’t make him feel bad.

Medical causes need to be ruled out, because it can reflect heart problems, etc. Is he on any meds?

[Anonymous]

^^ meant don’t make a big deal of it

[Anonymous]

I really do not think you being a B (please don’t call yourself that) has anything to do with his ED. I totally second what PP said.

[Anonymous]

Weird ... my being a b**** turns my DH on.

[Anonymous]

Maybe do more around the house. I hear men being told to do this all the time.

[Anonymous]

First, stop being a B not for him but for yourself. Any time you feel stressed just take a deep breath and count to 30 or so just to chill. I doubt it is the cause of his ED except in terms of his basic desire to have sex with you. Once in awhile my husband has a difficult time getting a full erection so I take matters into my own hands....so to speak....and five minutes of TLC always seems to work. If your husband hasn’t had a physical recently he should have one as there could be a medical issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I really do not think you being a B (please don’t call yourself that) has anything to do with his ED. I totally second what PP said.

It absolutely can if it impacts how her DH feels about her. Would you be enthused about having sex with your husband if he wasn't treating you very nice?

[Anonymous]

Ah DCUM...

If a woman here had posted about how her DH was a jerk during stressful times and now she didn't feel like having sex with him, people would be rallying around her.

But since it's a guy who doesn't want to have sex, its obviously not OP's fault

[Anonymous]

Are you sure he’s not watching porn? That can increase ED in younger guys.

[Anonymous]

It is physically impossible for your attitude to cause a biological dysfunction in an other person.

If you had said he doesn't want to have sex with you because you are a jerk to him, that is totally different.

[Anonymous]

Something isn’t adding up. ED at 37 is young and he definitely needs to go to a doctor since it is likely an indicator of a medical problem. Seriously, this should be the first step.

This isn’t about you and so stop blaming yourself. Note that you want learn to handle stress anyway and so probably need to figure that out for yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Something isn’t adding up. ED at 37 is young and he definitely needs to go to a doctor since it is likely an indicator of a medical problem. Seriously, this should be the first step.

This isn’t about you and so stop blaming yourself. Note that you want learn to handle stress anyway and so probably need to figure that out for yourself.

My DH had problems getting ready for sex when I was putting too much pressure on him to make a baby. Once I chilled TF out he was back to normal. Stress and emotions can affect Male performance

[Anonymous]

Is he drinking a bit too much? When my husband reached 40 if he had a little too much to drink it really had an effect on him. He was never drunk but it really affected his ability to achieve and maintain a good erection.

[Anonymous]

You are a boner killer. That's cold.