Crap. I tried to be nice and sort of lost my closest mom friends in the process.

[Anonymous]

I’ve read about this thing happening many times before, but didn’t see it happening to me.
I’m not the life of the party or standing out in the crowd for my looks, but overall I’m a pretty great person. Great friend, listener, sweet, loyal, goofy.. all the things. Since having my daughter, I have made a real effort to surround myself with friends in the same life stage to support each other and we have gotten close over the years, whether it’s just grabbing dinner or helping one another when someone is in some sort of life crisis, small or big. I have a reputation for being really kind and welcoming. A new woman moved next door when school started. Total
bombshell, funny.. the kind of person that does stand out in a crowd and now looking in hindsight, I can only laugh that I even thought for a second she needed any help making friends. She confided in me more than once that she felt like was missing out on having other mom friends and I introduced her to mine. Well you see where this is going... I’m now finding myself on the outskirts since she’s the one throwing parties and get togethers and for whatever reason, even though we are friendly with each other, I can just tell she’s not as interested in having a friendship with me as she is with my other friends. Now, I don’t think it’s any particular reason, except maybe she came to the conclusion I don’t fit the mold of who her inner circle is. I didn’t mention before, but I’m overweight. Who knows? The hardest part is, I’m beating myself up over this and wish I just had not gone there! You know when you have that small flicker of intuition at the time and you brush it aside because you don’t want to be that person that acts on insecurities? I’ve more or less accepted the situation and backed away but I can’t stop punishing myself for essentially being myself. As far as the other friends, I am not sure if they have noticed. I think people get caught up and are excited to meet someone new who is planning some fun events but it’s been going on since the summer. I am not looking for a solution to what happened. I just want to be accepting that I put myself in this situation and stop having this reoccurring thought about how stupid I was.

[Anonymous]

Paragraphs please

[Anonymous]

You post this regularly, OP. Try to find another story.

[Anonymous]

So you don't like this woman and ... she hasn't sought you out to be besties?

It sounds like you're both on the same page. We're not all friends with everyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So you don't like this woman and ... she hasn't sought you out to be besties?

It sounds like you're both on the same page. We're not all friends with everyone.

I like her fine. She's friendly enough. I'm just kicking myself for introducing her to my friends. There's plenty of other people around. I didn't have to get ahead of myself and introduce her to my people.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like “American Housewife” episode. But I feel for you. It’s hard. I’d try to just ignore the dynamic, be friendly, and find a friend or two you really like to hang out with. Maybe her kid gets in better with other, or her husband does with other husband? Don’t make it so personal you sound sweet.

[Anonymous]

And as per your title, they can’t have been your closest friends if you lost them that easily?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you don't like this woman and ... she hasn't sought you out to be besties?

It sounds like you're both on the same page. We're not all friends with everyone.

I like her fine. She's friendly enough. I'm just kicking myself for introducing her to my friends. There's plenty of other people around. I didn't have to get ahead of myself and introduce her to my people.

But are they YOUR people if they're not reaching out to you? Or are they?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
You post this regularly, OP. Try to find another story.

link?

[Anonymous]

I think it's also part business because she runs a popular Rodan and Fields team and is pretty high up from what I assume because she has the white Lexus.

[Anonymous]

Just keep being you, keep hangin gout with your friends. If she's using people for R&Fs, or if she's just a user looking for the highest status group, or whatever, people will eventually figure it out and it'll settle. And if you lose some friends to her camp, well, they weren't your friends to begin with.

Buck up! Be yourself, do your thing and keep your chin up. People like you for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's also part business because she runs a popular Rodan and Fields team and is pretty high up from what I assume because she has the white Lexus.

oh JFC

[Anonymous]

I have no problem introducing people to my real friends because my real friends are FOR REAL. We will still be friends, even if they click with someone else and hang out a bit.

So. Keep hanging out with your friends the same way. Dont' STOP doing your own thing just because she met Nancy for coffee last week.

And if all your friends immediately start buying R&F then you should be glad you are moving on anyhow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's also part business because she runs a popular Rodan and Fields team and is pretty high up from what I assume because she has the white Lexus.

Are you in the DC area?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just keep being you, keep hangin gout with your friends. If she's using people for R&Fs, or if she's just a user looking for the highest status group, or whatever, people will eventually figure it out and it'll settle. And if you lose some friends to her camp, well, they weren't your friends to begin with.

Buck up! Be yourself, do your thing and keep your chin up. People like you for you.

Thank you!!!! I definitely do think this is the kind of thing people realize with time if the motivation is to gain new consultants for her team!