S/O I don't want to have sex....
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Anonymous
| 2019 was a rough year, and for reasons I don't want to get into (some emotional, the death of a close parent, some medical) and I've gained a ton of weight. I am working on it (dieting amd exercise and now on the right dose of levothyroxine). But to be blunt, I hate my body and don't even want to be naked with myself! DH says he doesn't care, he wants to have sex, that he loves me, and will show me/make it worth my while. It's my hangups. I am going to lose the weight, and 2020 will be much better (already is), but how do I get past my giant thighs and whyat looks like a 4th pregnancy, and relax enough to have sex with DH?!? |
Anonymous
| wine, no lights on |
Anonymous
| Buy some really sexy lingerie (it comes in all sizes) so you feel a little hidden at first. There’s even lingerie with openings in the appropriate places so you don’t have to take it off. A dark room with some candles, soft music, an eager husband...You will have fun if you just let yourself and your dh will appreciate it. |
Anonymous
| I find it is easier to deal with a large woman via a rear entry. So try that OP. |
Anonymous
My wife is very similar to you. If you figure out how to get out of your head and can share it here, I'd very much appreciate it. She's not at all what you see in the magazines, but I love her thighs and her butt and her boobs. The things she hates about her body absolutely don't bother me a bit. If she came onto me, confident about her body (imperfections and all), my lust would be off the charts. |
Anonymous
| This is so weird to me. I have never been thin, though so maybe that's it? |
Anonymous
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The bigger the cushion the better the pushin.
Only weird a$$ men don't love a little meat. |
Anonymous
| Lights off, meet his needs until you feel comfortable meeting yours. |
Anonymous
| Smoke some weed first so you are loose and in the mood |
Anonymous
Take him at his word and enjoy some amazing sex while you're losing weight. Get past it by focusing on his enthusiasm. |
Anonymous
| Give DH an official hall pass until you get yourself together again. That way he won’t have to keep sneaking around... this gets exhausting for most husbands! |
Anonymous
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Bend over and he’ll love you even more! No better view than a phat a$$ on all fours. My last comment is not intended to be mean. DW has large hips and when she bends over, I’m done!!!!
Hope it works out for you. |
Belle138
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| We are our own harshest critics sometimes. Enjoy the weight lost journey and in the meantime also enjoy some great sex ! |
Anonymous
Yup |
Anonymous
| Don't overthink OP. And don't assume men overthink it either. My DH always reminds me he is simple. If you DH says he wants you, he wants you. |