Advice on marriage counseling

[Anonymous]

I’m considering broaching marriage counseling with DH but I am struggling with it. Did anyone have successful counseling? Lessons learned from unsuccessful? Where did you find a counselor? How did you suggest it to your spouse? Anyone think you should have skipped to separation rather than investing in it? Maybe it would be better to think about individual counseling to work on my view of everything first?

DH is a good father and kind/loving to me, but he struggles with anxiety and depression, and he is so introverted that we don’t have any real couple friends after ten years of marriage. I mostly socialize without him, which really bothers me. He is super messy and doesn’t really do his share of the domestic work although he doesn’t mean to impose it on me (he is fine with cleaners every to weeks and laundry service). He makes good money and is successful but is chronically unhappy with his work. I want to stay together - honestly mostly for our daughter and for financial reasons - but I’m not sure if I will ever be happy together.