Five years ago I slept with a manwhore a couple of times. One time he inserted his penis without asking first and I made him stop and put a condom on. The second time we did not use a condom. I suddenly developed a weird anxiety that I contracted HIV from this? I have never had an HIV test and am wondering if I should just take one. he never ejaculated in me and I know the transmission rate is very low for this but I am still anxious. I do get colds pretty frequently but I bounce back quickly and I haven't had a yeast infection since 2015. Only get swollen glands if I have a cold...I'm probably fine, right? |
Just get a test. |
Likelihood is small but get a test so you can stop stewing. |
Chances of having HIV are super low. However chances that you have anxiety that needs treatment are near 100%. |
What is the likelihood of being asymptomatic? I know it is possible but I just think after five years surely something would bring it to a doctor’s attention. Blood work, an infection, etc. |
Didn't you post this already? |
A few years ago after the birth of my first son I watched a documentary about HIV and developed a huge sudden fear I had contracted it years ago, passed it to my newborn, etc ...even emailed my OB asking if I’ve been tested.
I’m on Zoloft now for anxiety lol. |
How often do you get blood drawn? I would assume if you had five years of untreated HIV, you would have much lower cell counts. |
Yes, but did you have unprotected sex? I did and I can't believe I was so fcking stupid. I was going through some stuff and it turned out that guy was cheating on his gf with me - now I have a great life, am in therapy for my self-esteem, have a wonderful boyfriend. I'm terrified I caught HIV from this man (who appears to be doing fine, is getting married to someone else and has literally no indication of having late-stage HIV) and I'm going to lose everything I've worked for in the last five years. |
I had my blood drawn a year ago for something unrelated and everything was fine. That being said, I don't think regular blood tests detect HIV. |
Yes I did with several men. |
Update: I am reading now about gynecologic conditions in women with HIV. They often get HPV, which I had last year but it cleared up on its own, and yeast infections, which I haven't gotten in five years. Also they are not supposed to get IUDs because of pelvic infections and increased blood loss - I have an IUD and no complications. |
I just can't believe I was so stupid. this man was not worth it and now my anxiety is making me cry on Christmas. I will go get a test when I get back to DC (one of those gum swabs you can take at home) but the anxiety is so bad right now. |
They always test as part of standard prenatal tests, because if the mother has HIV, there's a process to be followed to ensure the baby does not get it during childbirth. I've had unprotected sex with a few women who had not had sex with anyone since being pregnant, as I always knew they'd be clean (and I had tested clean). No pregnancy concerns since I have a vasectomy. |
Again, one would assume having something they tell women with HIV to not get because of potential complications, and then not getting complications would be a good sign. Surely untreated HIV + an IUD would lead to some problems that you seem to not have? |