S/O on strike

[Anonymous]

How long would it take your spouse to realize you were on a sex strike if you did not tell them?

[Anonymous]

4 or 5 months.

[Anonymous]

Do you mean how long would it take before they initiated sex and got turned down (1 week) or how long before they said something along the lines of "why are you turning me down every time/when are we going to have sex again?" (less clear, but maybe 3 weeks?).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you mean how long would it take before they initiated sex and got turned down (1 week) or how long before they said something along the lines of "why are you turning me down every time/when are we going to have sex again?" (less clear, but maybe 3 weeks?).

The second....for me maybe 6 months.

[Anonymous]

My wife brought it up after 3 months. I was the one who initiated 100% of the time for almost the entire marriage. I got sick of being the pursuer and stopped. Thing is, I have lost desire for her, and don't really miss it which is interesting. It's been 5 months and she hasn't raised it again, which is fine with me.

[Anonymous]

A few years. He really has zero drive. He’d prob notice my not asking him for sex after a few months.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife brought it up after 3 months. I was the one who initiated 100% of the time for almost the entire marriage. I got sick of being the pursuer and stopped. Thing is, I have lost desire for her, and don't really miss it which is interesting. It's been 5 months and she hasn't raised it again, which is fine with me.

Are you a woman? If a man, you are fine never having sex again? Or are you stepping out on her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How long would it take your spouse to realize you were on a sex strike if you did not tell them?

The light would never go on organically, but it would come up when they read this sort of thread here and recognized it was probably an issue.

[Anonymous]

Now we are going through issues and his mid life crisis it might take him a week or two to notice, but he wouldn’t say anything about it.

Before this stress and strain, a few days.

[Anonymous]

After 4 or 5 days tops.
All you low drive people make me sad.

[Anonymous]

Half a day?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife brought it up after 3 months. I was the one who initiated 100% of the time for almost the entire marriage. I got sick of being the pursuer and stopped. Thing is, I have lost desire for her, and don't really miss it which is interesting. It's been 5 months and she hasn't raised it again, which is fine with me.

Are you a woman? If a man, you are fine never having sex again? Or are you stepping out on her?

man. Yes, I stepped out. I broke that off, that was a lot of headache too. I don't know that I am never going to have sex again, I assume we will work this out or will divorce, either option really seems fine by me at this point. I can't take another decade of starfish sex

[Anonymous]

A week. DH probably wouldn't suspect anything until 5 days hit. Even when I'm sick, 5 days is usually the point I get restless with no intimacy. So up until 5 days he would probably think I wasnt feeling well/ was exhausted. At a week, he would know something was up.

[Anonymous]

unless I'm on period, I would say 4-5 days is when DH would notice and say something.

[Anonymous]

I am pretty sure that if I was doing this, I would be acting passive aggressive in a bunch of other ways as well, plus there would have been a big disagreement about something or other. He would know the first time I turned him down for sex.