Charisma

[Anonymous]

Why mostly kids that learn art/music/dance/theater for a long long time & beloved/good at them tend to have some charisma that stands out & sparkles? Are they born with that or it was learned & cultivated? I am not talking about their physical appearances, but I am talking about the aura or vibes that they send out effortlessly. They are some of the attractive qualities that I want my non-gifted child to have.

[Anonymous]

You can't change your child's personality. Many kids are into art/drama/music because it matches their personality, not the other way around.

[Anonymous]

Huh.

I think you're possibly going to be misunderstood with this one, but I'll give it a shot.

I have a kid who is very creative and loves performing in front of others. Always comfortable talking with anyone, including adults. He was born that way. Couldn't have stopped him if I tried.

Another one who is shy. Will warm up, but reluctant to try new things, etc. No changing that one either.

I certainly think any person can train themselves to be more comfortable speaking in front of people and more "charming" in general, in terms of putting people at ease and making good conversation. But as a child? It's their temperament they were born with, in my opinion, that you are working with.

[Anonymous]

Charisma is something you are born with. Not based on looks like you say, but just that charming personality.

And every person has their own personality, so I don't think you can cultivate charisma.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can't change your child's personality. Many kids are into art/drama/music because it matches their personality, not the other way around.

+1

You've got it backwards, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Charisma is something you are born with. Not based on looks like you say, but just that charming personality.

And every person has their own personality, so I don't think you can cultivate charisma.

I disagree. I think you can cultivate charisma. Sure it might not be effortless like some people, but you can make it happen. I was always a shy, quiet kid growing up and I truly worked on it. I'm in my 30s now and am often surrounded by people at parties. I always have a story to tell. I look up news articles and find interesting things to say to acquaintances. I read a newspaper a day and also skim the sections I don't even like (sports, celebrities).

Also, personality does change. Surely you've known people who are different than they used to be?