s/o siblings attending bday party - do you give favors?
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Anonymous
| I never state in the invitation if siblings are invited and a couple of my DD’s friends will be attending with their siblings. Both did not ask if it’s ok. They just rsvp that. One sibling is a baby and one is an older kid. Do you provide favors? The baby who is attending will not be able to eat or play with the things I’m given. Recently I attended a bday party where I hear one mom told the sibling “let’s-wait and see if there are extras” b4 the older kid grabbed one. |
Anonymous
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I think its ok to either say NO to party favor or to say lets see if we have any left over.
Part of this is your fault for not saying no siblings on the invite, although I would be ok with a baby coming. |
Anonymous
| Oh just make an extra favor bag, it’s not that hard. Next time be specific about no siblings. |
Anonymous
| Not for the baby it yes to the others. If they rsvp’d yes and you didn’t say no, then they are a guest like any other. Would you say they can’t eat? And it’s a kid, who is likely to be disappointed. I always get extras because I don’t have a huge problem with siblings. But it’s fine if you don’t, not a huge deal. |
Anonymous
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Usually I give extra favors to siblings.
If it’s a baby < a year old or something who is the sibling I don’t give a different baby favor - the baby is too young to care. |
Anonymous
| ^^ I usually bring a few extra favors. I have 3 kids. If I was ever short on favors I would tell my own kids they would not get the favor right them and I would get them theirs later. |
Anonymous
| You did not exclude siblings, you know they are coming, give a favor. I would not worry about the baby though. |
Anonymous
| I've solved this problem by not doing favors for anyone! |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
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I did, but I also explicitly said siblings are invited and to let me know the total number of kids attending, so I made sure to have enough.
I did not get a favor for the 6 month old brother of DD's friend, but the older siblings who came (it was DD's 3rd birthday and there were a couple of 5 year olds there) got a favor. We did something that has appeal to a range of kids. |
Anonymous
| If you can afford to throw a party, you can afford a few extra favors. |
Anonymous
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An non-verbal not-yet-walking infant-in-arms toted along by a parent to a non-dropoff party does not count as a "sibling attending" situation. Unless the parent drops the infant off for you to take care of.
I don't think twice about parents bringing these babies. They never require any extra effort on my part, they don't really eat food at the party, the parents hold them the whole time or they sit in a stroller, there is no expectation that they participate in any way, and venues never charge for them. For real siblings, I would give them any remaining party favors, but make sure invited kids get first. I usually make a few extra goodie bags in case. |
Anonymous
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While I would never show up with a sibling who wasn’t invited, I always make sure I have several extra party favors in case siblings show up. I think that’s fairly common.
We’ve switched to house parties, and it’s so much easier to host a crowd, enthusiastically welcome parents and siblings to stay, etc. |
Anonymous
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If they're NOT invited and NOT okayed, then no I wouldn't.
But I've never had that happen with the exception of infants, which don't count. |
Anonymous
| OP here. I did not explicitly state no siblings because I don’t actually have problems with siblings attending. |